40 yo DH wants to dress like Harry Styles.

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Dh has always been a "flamboyant " dresser.
hes toned it down over the years: wearing smarter , designer items - but still with "edge" and still has a "look".
we are attending a family wedding( fairly conservative) in the Summer ( my side) and he wants to wear :
a cream silk pussybow paisley shirt
with
pastel lilac flares.

i want him to dress smartly and appropriately ( maybe a cool tie or shirt pattern)

he says: if it was him telling me what to wear - itd be outrageous and is really sulking!

i say : hes free to dress how he likes 364 days of the year , and at his own family's get togethers, and pull focus from the bride ( has actually happened) but can he not reign it in for this?

whos being unreasonable?

*his whole Dream Outfit is also costing more than mine by a long shot!

I think he sounds awesome! 🤩

@Moomeh HAhHAHAhA
cant argue with that logic I suppose! He's right! Hahhha

I truly hope so. Lovely guys xx

@TheOriginalEmu oh give over! What if i told him i was going to wear a white full length gown? He wouldn't be able to say anything?

@MsWoolf there is a fine line between expressing yourself freely, and not ‘reading the room’ - he is lucky he has someone who can gently say that an outfit may not fit the occasion…

no need to upset yourself 🙄

I will say, having attended weddings in England where DH was the only man in a full Dress kilt outfit, a flamboyantly dressed man really stands out among all the suits and does get more attention than most of the women's outfits!
Is a shame your DH isnt Scottish, wearing kilts at weddings is the acceptable peacocking opportunity for otherwise boring Scotsmen.

I feel I need to see a photo of the proposed ensemble........

I truly hope so. Lovely guys xx

Aren't they covid denier anti vaxxers, who also believe in a ton of conspiracy theories? Or is that someone else in thinking of?

I think let him dress how he pleases and pretend you don't know him if he get's any comeback it's down to him.

I admire people who express themselves through their outfits, it's nothing to do with dressing like Harry Styles and more that it is your husbands style.

YABU.

I would find an outrageously embarassing outfit and tell him you're going to wear that.

Does he always need to be the centre of attention?

Does he have any redeeming features?

Are you….from the 1950s?

grim.

The full peacock mode he is entering is aka Mid Life Crises

It’s passes 😊

He could SAY what he wanted. He could say I don’t think you should wear that as it’s like a brides dress. But ultimately saying ‘you CANT wear that’? No. He couldn’t. Because he’s not your boss and you aren’t his.

Let him wear what he wants . It sounds lovely and I think we need a photo 😬

I'm with you on this. Its the couple's day, not anyone else's. If they would prefer traditional, than guests should respect that I think.

If the OP asked is this ok to wear to my friends wedding of course the answer would be no you can not wear that 🙄

Ummm. On the one hand I do think people like it if people get all dressed up for their wedding. On the other hand I have been trying to think of anyone at all who would look good in lilac flares and… no?

I guess if he’s not planning to wear a white dress or something that will clash with bride or bridesmaids dresses, it’s up to him?

No, I imagine the only thing that matters about his entire personality is his choice of clothes

I don’t think the bride would be impressed! I’m all for wearing what you want to wear but on this occasion I would say please tone it down! And yes Dick Emery certainly comes to mind! I think you have to think of the occasion lilac flares and a pussybow,! Nah! I know I’d think he’d been in a dressing up box

Because that’s a wedding dress. And she asked. He isn’t proposing wearing anything that will make him be mistaken for the bride or the groom. Nor did he ask anyones opinion (at least not from what the OP says). So that’s not the same.
He will not be showing anything he shouldn’t. He’s not naked. He’s not wearing bridal/groom wear. He’s wearing smart clothes. The only issue is one of subjective taste in outfits. OP Not liking the outfit isn’t a reason he shouldn’t wear it if HE likes it.

I'm getting Austin Powers vibes too.

Does he like the people getting married? Is he being intentionally difficult? Such flamboyant dress just sounds really attention-seeking and disrespectful for a wedding.

How formal an event is it? Can't he just wear a velvet smoker jacket or something?

He’s wearing smart clothes.

Pastel lilac flares?

His outfit sounds like a 70’s disco dressing up outfit

not appropriate so yes she can tell him it’s not appropriate wear and he shouldn’t wear it.

I’m sure most attending a wedding will know who the bride is the groom certainly will know the confusion would be as to why they have chosen to wear a wedding dress

Unless the happy couple have requested a specific dress code, I would be inclined to just let him crack on with it.

Sometimes folk just want to shine rather than be in the shadows.

Rather him than me though.