Scared my partner will be taken from me

[Derrymare]

Please don't judge me but I have been in a relationship for 6 years with a Pakistani national he has been in the country 10 years.
We have lived together 5 years and we are very close. He supports me emotionally as I suffer from depression adhd etc I can't imagine life without him.
The homeoffice refused him any kind of stay and its going to appeal but I'm so worried that the judge will refuse.
We was refused because they say our relationship didn't start at least 2 years before he seeked asylum and that he hasn't been in the UK 20 continuous years.
We don't have any children to help our case and I don't meet the financial requirements.

It’s natural to feel scared. Hopefully you have other support around you.

I’m so sorry you’ve got to worry about that. 10 years in the country and they’re trying to deport him! That’s so disgusting. I fucking hate the tories. I’d rather the entire nation was filled with immigrants than tories. Our hospitals, shops, delivery lorries, and schools would be fully staffed and no one would be trying to rip us all off with this cost of living.

Thank you both for understanding this situation.

This.

I'm so sorry OP, this must be hell for both of you. It's a disgrace.

Do you have any other support? Your own children?

He is a decent person never committed any crime very polite just wants to work and pay his taxes.

Alright Jolene.

Have you considered getting married?

OP does he have a solicitor?

I have a son away at university my sisters understand the situation but they are very occupied with their own lives.

Yes we have a solicitor but it's financially strained us and if this appeal fails we don't know how to keep affording further appeals

Not sure I understand, if he seeking asylum, why does your relationship impact it?

I thought (I could be wrong) but asylum was for people at risk of persecution in their home country. It seems unfair that a decision was made about that based on your relationship. It doesn’t impact what will happen to him if he returns.

We couldn't get married because the homeoffice have his passport and we couldn't get it from them.

Is he younger than you, OP? I heard that there is a lot of suspicion cast on relationships by the home office if the man is seeking a visa and is 10 or more years younger than the woman he is in a relationship with

He left his country due to been attacked over land and property we had to attach our human rights to his asylum claim and they refused the lot.

Echoing a pp - can you get married? Or civil partnership? Agree with pp re the tories. Crossing my fingers this works out for you both xxx

He is 6 years younger than me

Guys I will be back shortly

To be blunt the home office are bastards! I won't go into detail but I was in a relationship with an Indian man. They accepted it as genuine but said "there's no reason you can't go and live in India". I couldn't believe it. Tbh once they make up their minds, appeals only draw it out and cost £££.

We had no choice but to split up. I have a job, adult DC with additional needs etc here so I couldn't leave and he couldn't stay. I would never again get into a relationship with someone who didn't have either British citizenship or the right to remain here for life. It was traumatic and heart breaking.

I'm sorry you're in this situation but it doesn't look good so best to prepare yourself.

In basic terms his asylum claim as no merit, Pakistan is a massive country. He could simply have moved elsewhere within his country and been safe. He is not fleeing persecution (based on your very short summary above).
The fact he has them formed a relationship does not make his asylum claim any stronger unfortunately. His right to private life (ie his relationship with you) does not trump immigration laws.
if he has lived in the UK for 10 years as a failed asylum seeker he should not have worked as he won’t have permission so I expect you have supported him since his claim failed.

I am sorry you are in this position, it is very hard. Unfortunately the immigration laws of the UK are not in your favour.

Write to your local MP. Get your story in the newspaper. Create some social media around it.

Why have they refused anyway? It's ridiculous.

I remember them threatening to deport my dad when I was about 11 or 12 yo - he'd been here since he was early 20s having joined the merchant navy (HK national) and the offence? His British passport had elapsed and he wasnt aware it needed to be active at all times. They were complete AHs about it - working, married, 3 DCs and threatened with deportation.

I hope it works out for you both. But please the media storm is needed to find the support you need.

Op have you posted about this before? That your older son was very attached to him?

No I haven't posted before

DressingPafe that is awful I feel that we will be made to depart as well. To be honest I don't feel I will be able to carry on without him.

I have been through an immigration appeal with my children's father. It took two years, and I had to hire a solicitor and barrister. We were married. I was having our son by the time the matter was resolved, and the Home office stated that they still were not sure it was an authentic relationship. I met the financial test and had a marriage certificate. I won the appeal and he was allowed in the UK on a spousal visa. I suggest that you seek advice from an immigration legal centre in your area. Many are available at low or no cost. Do not get involved with anyone promising to fix the visa quickly. There are many sharks out there. Go to someone authorised to represent visa appeals.

Are your depression and ADHD so bad that you need a carer, OP?

If so, I wonder if it would help if he was your carer?