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Scared my partner will be taken from me

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Derrymare · 29/04/2022 21:46

Please don't judge me but I have been in a relationship for 6 years with a Pakistani national he has been in the country 10 years.
We have lived together 5 years and we are very close. He supports me emotionally as I suffer from depression adhd etc I can't imagine life without him.
The homeoffice refused him any kind of stay and its going to appeal but I'm so worried that the judge will refuse.
We was refused because they say our relationship didn't start at least 2 years before he seeked asylum and that he hasn't been in the UK 20 continuous years.
We don't have any children to help our case and I don't meet the financial requirements.

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Original poster
Derrymare · 27/09/2022 22:56

Yes permission to live and work in the uk. the job he started wasn't suitable not him more the employer. He is now trying to find employment but it's proving very difficult as you are probably aware from seeing my other thread.

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TheGoodFighter · 27/09/2022 23:25

Crankley · 30/04/2022 14:45

MissWired
Some people will wait very patiently for what they want for as long as it takes to get it. ..especially if the waiting involves no particular personal hardships for them. Then once they've got it they're off, never to be seen again.

Wise words. I once worked with a young woman who had been with her Asian boyfriend for about five years and they decided to get married. They had a church wedding. As the vicar said his final words, the groom said to the bride 'well thanks, I've now got what I needed to stay in the UK, time for me to go'. He ran out of the church and was never seen again. She ended up in a mental hospital.

Weird, because a marriage ceremony alone wouldn't get him anywhere, certainly wouldn't get him a visa!

Yoyooo · 28/09/2022 07:23

What permission to stay does he have? Following as I have a foreign spouse and I get interested in these stories!

underneaththeash · 28/09/2022 07:29

He's not an asylum seeker though, he's an illegal immigrant. Which is a criminal offence and clearly he's been working illegally too.

The fact you have a relationship doesn't change this. Especially since you're not even married.

Original poster
Derrymare · 28/09/2022 07:33

Yoyooo leave to remain 10 year route article 8 the right to family/private life.

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Glitteratitar · 28/09/2022 08:49

I’m so pleased you got this sorted, and sorry you experienced the usual MN prejudice towards immigrants. It was a brave move to post here.

Novum · 28/09/2022 09:11

Crankley · 30/04/2022 14:45

MissWired
Some people will wait very patiently for what they want for as long as it takes to get it. ..especially if the waiting involves no particular personal hardships for them. Then once they've got it they're off, never to be seen again.

Wise words. I once worked with a young woman who had been with her Asian boyfriend for about five years and they decided to get married. They had a church wedding. As the vicar said his final words, the groom said to the bride 'well thanks, I've now got what I needed to stay in the UK, time for me to go'. He ran out of the church and was never seen again. She ended up in a mental hospital.

Sounds somewhat unlikely. As a minimum the groom would need to wait for the marriage certificate.

Original poster
Derrymare · 28/09/2022 12:02

Glitteratitar I appreciate you saying this thank you so much.

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Derrymare · 28/09/2022 12:04

Novum also if they get their stay based on a relationship with a British citizen then proof has to be gathered that they are still together to get the next extension of visa she should have informed the homeoffice of this to get his visa revoked.

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Testina · 28/09/2022 13:48

@Crankley 🤣
Things posted on the internet today that didn’t happen

Sameboat1 · 25/10/2022 08:21

@Derrymare

How are you doing?

I am in a situation myself and have court next week so a bit nervous.

We are not married and have a weak case too but hopefully everything goes through too.
We are expecting which only happened recently and because my eldest has ADHD really looks up to DP as his dad and he has supported plus I also have health issues they know all of this.
It's really not a great situation to be is it?

Men are men weather they live here or not. People who are here meeting people so sure they are in love so sure their DP won't cheat etc turn around do them dirty all the time. I believe they can be genuine people who come just wanting to work for their families back home ofcourse they want to find a wife but some don't just find anyone.

You do have to be mentally strong to deal with this sort of thing.

Yes I know it's an old thread.

Did he get 2 years?

BashfulClam · 25/10/2022 08:29

Have you got a local MP that might want to help you?

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