Scared my partner will be taken from me

[Derrymare]

Please don't judge me but I have been in a relationship for 6 years with a Pakistani national he has been in the country 10 years.
We have lived together 5 years and we are very close. He supports me emotionally as I suffer from depression adhd etc I can't imagine life without him.
The homeoffice refused him any kind of stay and its going to appeal but I'm so worried that the judge will refuse.
We was refused because they say our relationship didn't start at least 2 years before he seeked asylum and that he hasn't been in the UK 20 continuous years.
We don't have any children to help our case and I don't meet the financial requirements.

Hi all yes he overstayed he told me a couple of months into the relationship I didn't walk away but we went to see a solicitor who advised us to obtain 2 years of living together with all proof. He was advised to claim asylum by a member of the homeoffice believe it or not to prevent his deportation.

Has for my mental health there has always been problems from childhood but it's got worse. I have had depression for years and meds have recently been increased. I have recently been diagnosed with adhd so waiting on meds for that. My partner has given me a sense of purpose in trying to help him.

My children's dad came to the UK when he was 6 and had indefinite leave to remain but was not a British citizen.
His whole life was the UK as it was all he knew and his family was here.
We had a son and he made a mistake to which he was sent to prison (non violent offence not that that makes it better) he served his sentence and came home, I got pregnant with our 2nd child and we were Informed by the home office that they were seeking to deport him. (There are rules on non British citizens who have committed a crime)

We lost 2 appeals and on boxing day when I was 3 months pregnant the police came knocking and took him to an immigration center and he was on the next flight out of here back to the Caribbean. He had no family and knew nobody in his birth country.

I completely understand that there should be a punishment for committing a crime and he served his sentence and was deemed by the probation service as low risk of reoffending and did all the courses etc available to him whilst he was serving his sentence.

So my opinion is that the home office don't give a fuck about people's family ties or personal life, this was with Teresa may as home secretary I believe and now priti patel seems even worse.

I'd advise writing to your MP as I did that but I did it too late, I don't know if he could have helped but he did write to the home office to seek clarification on why deporting my partner was necessary and conducive to the public good but it was too far along in the process for him to have held any weight as my partner had lost his appeals by that point.

I really hope you have a more positive outcome than I did.

Idontlikecricketiloveit
That is disgraceful

He’s been here 10 years and not worked? How does he get by? Where does he live?

I tried to claim pip but was refused.
I feel like I'm sinking and my mind is in chaos. He supports me emotionally and practically. I could never go to Pakistan I can't speak the language and how would I access mental health services I couldn't work there either due to my difficulties. I have a son here although grown up I want to stay here because he is here.

You sound a little vulnerable here. I do hope he isn’t taking advantage of you in any way.

Louise0701
Before he met me he lived with friends and they provided him accommodation in exchange for him cooking and cleaning.
He has lived with me for 5 years and been supported by me.

OP there is no legal requirement to have a passport when getting married, a birth certificate will do www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/living-together-marriage-and-civil-partnership/getting-married

you can get birth certificates here www.mamooinpakistan.com/service/nadra-birth-certificate

I’m a bit worried about this too.

How did you meet him OP?

What does your son think of this OP?

Taking away the asylum element entirely, you're an obviously vulnerable person who has been financially supporting this man for 5 years. This does not sound like an equal or healthy relationship.

What kind of therapy / medical help are you currently getting?

Snowflakes1122
No I wouldn't say so gut instinct is that he is a genuine caring person.

So he has no independent income nor recourse to state benefits. Can you still work with your ill health ? What was the initial visa? Have you posted about him and funding his lifestyle and hobbies before?

My son is of the opinion whatever makes me happy he has even agreed to sign a statement in support.

LIZS
I am working but it's so hard.

I am waiting for cbt and I am under the mental health team. I am also waiting for a autism assessment.

As someone with an Asian husband I am offended and sickened by your racism and ignorance. Let me guess, if OPs partner was say, a white Australian, you'd not think this was a scam, but because he's a brown Asian man you assume he MUST be a scammer?? Disgusting. God forbid an Asian man and British woman be in a healthy and respectful and loving relationship. Obviously impossible as all Asian men are scammers and can't be trusted.

He has met my family and they are providing supporting statements ie my sisters.

You sound quite vulnerable op and this doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship. Don’t get married- you don’t have enough income to sponsor immigration anyway (at least you said that).

Does he have family in Pakistan or UK?

He has siblings in Pakistan

How did you meet him OP?

have you ever met his family?

I don't disagree with the general thrust of your post, but this is clearly not a healthy relationship.

It’s the fact she’s been supporting him unquestioned for 5 years - if he was an Australian man then yes people would say the same. Stop projecting.

I am suffering with my mental health so much atm and its not easy for him to deal with me so I don't think he would have stuck with me if he didn't care.