AIBU to disbelieve posters who say they're ugly but their DH is very attractive?

[PeaceLurking9to5]

Yes, a thread about a thread so sorry about that, but not one intended to make any poster who feels bad about her looks feel worse, the total opposite.
When I read this statement fairly regularly I think no no no no no, you have elevated him and relegated yourself. He's not as good looking to the rest of the world as he is to you, and you're not as unattractive as you think you are, you're just running yourself down.

It is eye catchingly rare to see an extremely handsome man with an unattractive woman, so if you tell us that you're really unattractive but your DH is very attractive, I don't think you're being objective.

There are very few objectively handsome people around compared to the normals.

Yanbu

Tbh if I see couples with a big disparity between attractiveness it's usually the woman is much more attractive than the man

Not the other way round

Completely agree with you OP. I think we end up with someone with very similar levels of attractiveness. I know a couple where the man thinks he’s punching above but in reality their attractiveness on the outside looking in is very similar.

I think some people are deluded in how attractive their husbands are to be quite honest! It’s nice for them to live in that little bubble but it does make me eye roll when they bang on about how well they’ve done for themselves to bag the catch that is Dave from accounts, 45 with pot belly and thinning on top!

I can think of at least three couples I know where the man is very good looking and the woman is much less so

I do know two couples where the man is much better looking than the woman, so it's possible

Oh gosh I wish that was always true. My partner is definitely much more attractive than I am. Friends/family have told me how attractive they think he is, and obviously I agree! I’d post a pic of the two of us, but I don’t really want it confirmed. 😁

My friend thinks her husband looks like Starlord from Guardians of the Galaxy but in reality he looks like Emmet from the Lego Movie. But she’s happy and they adore each other and that’s all that matters.

I know what thread you're referring to but I agree with your wider point. Men will often have partners that are far better looking than them but the reverse is extremely rare. Indeed so rare as to be possibly a sugar mummy type of thing which again is extremely rare.

To the PP who made that comment about Dave from accounts with a pot belly

My husband and I are both hideous but we love each other and that's what counts.

YANBU.

I know a few couples where the man is significantly more attractive when his partner, obviously in my opinion!

I agree that in hetero relationships where one half is gorgeous and the other half is plain as a pikestaff, 9 out of 10 times the plain one is the man.

I do think some women think their fella is way more attractive than he actually is. I worked with a woman who constantly went on about how sexy her boyfriend was, how every woman desired him. Then one day he visited. One of the most unattractive men I've ever seen. Not unconventionally attractive, or whatever the male equivalent of jolie laide is. He looked like a less sexy Postman Pat. But she was convinced he was as sexy as a young Paul Newman. Fascinating to watch.

I have a colleague exactly like this. She genuinely wholeheartedly thinks her DH is God's Gift. Apparently when they met she had to fight her way through all the other Women that were after him.

He used to work with us too. I know him. I look at him, and I wonder how on earth we are seeing such different Men. He's the human embodiment of the colour grey, with all the personality of a house-brick.

Still, they've obviously both found their perfect partner in each other, so all power to them.

I always think this when they're scared Dave will run off with the 21 year old intern who runs a yoga class on the side.

“Less sexy Postman Pat” 😂😂😂 brilliant @MurderAtTheBeautyPageant

I've seen plenty of gorgeous women with plainer husbands. I really don't think it's that crazy to imagine it can happen the other way round.

Yes normally you see attractive women with real munters. Normally rich.

I did punch above my weight once. It was amusing being with a head turner.

Ah. See I'm the good looking one. And the clever one too. He does the DIY 😂

That made me laugh

Remember the cruel fact of life though, and that is men age better than women. So where 20/30 years ago a couple might have been equally as “attractive”, all those years later sadly there might have come a point where things look much different thanks to the unfairness of the aging process.

This is a v amusing thread.
However I think DH is probably more attractive than I am now.
This wasn't the way when we met. Weight, age etc have all played a part.
Possible also my / perceptions about how men/ women age.
Silver fox vs old hag 😁

Attractive women with unattractive men are usually because she is benefitting financially from the arrangement and doesn't care what he looks like. Pretty much a sugar daddy situation or gold digger situation.

Attractive mwn with unattractive women - you just rearely see that. Evolution at it simplest leads people to want to procreate with those with the best genes and men are usually driven by that even if their end goal isn't procreation.

When I look at all the couples in my friends and family circles, I don't really think any are very mismatched. Most are pretty close in attractiveness level. Financial / poshness is also part of the equation. My boss isn't facially all that attractive and her husband is but she is very fit and dresses to the nines and they are wealthy and she spends a time on hair / products / procedures and so she looks very regal and attractive even though if she was a poor person with no make-up and in dumpy clothing, she would not be attractive at all.

@NaiceHamAndHugs grant minds!

Objectively DH is much more attractive than me - looks wise. However I’m fairly happy that looks are only one part of it and I bring plenty to the table to even us out on overall attractiveness 😄