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Rehoming cat as DH hates him?

230 replies

Terribleguiltovercat · 21/04/2022 15:43

I had the cat when I met DH which was a few years ago and DH just hates him and constantly complains about him and it’s really getting to me.

We have a young child or I would rethink the whole relationship tbh. But I can’t live like this.

OP posts:
Georgeskitchen · 21/04/2022 15:45

I would be sorely tempted to rehome the DH

ItsSnowJokes · 21/04/2022 15:45

I would rehome the husband, kids or no kids. Totally unfair to do this to the cat.

MurmuratingStarling · 21/04/2022 15:45

I think you know what to do.

And no, I DON'T mean get rid of the cat.

XenoBitch · 21/04/2022 15:46

What is it that your DH hates about your cat?
Why is it now an issue after getting married and having a child together?

Longdistance · 21/04/2022 15:46

Rehome your dh. The cat will thank you.

MrOllivander · 21/04/2022 15:46

Rehome the husband
What's he complaining about? I mean if it's something you can change like cat litter tracking ...

Herejustforthisone · 21/04/2022 15:47

The cat was there first. Please don’t bin him off to appease your arsehole husband.

How can a grown man hate a little creature so much?

SleeplessInEngland · 21/04/2022 15:49

Does the cat actually do bad things or does the DH just hate cats? We love ours but there's no denying the fabric furniture is now a wreck.

IncompleteSenten · 21/04/2022 15:49

Yabu

He married you knowing you have the cat.

He had a child with you knowing you have the cat

It's pretty fucking shit to marry, have a child and then decide to chuck the cat out!

Onceuponatimeinalandfaraway · 21/04/2022 15:51

Is he cruel to the cat?

ForeverLooking · 21/04/2022 15:51

If I had to rehome my beloved pet to appease a partner I could never look at them the same way again. Unless he has an allergy or the cat is attacking him daily or something you've left out, he can get to fuck. It's not just about the cat, it's about the selfishness, the fact he wouldn't care you were upset over it...it speaks volumes. Poor you.

5128gap · 21/04/2022 15:52

Has your cat suddenly become more insufferable? If not, then I'm not sure why something he has tolerated for years has all of a sudden become unbearable? Assuming you do all the necessary things for the cat, he's being very unreasonable and seems to be engaging in some power play. I doubt with the sudden onset this is all about the cat.

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/04/2022 15:54

Presumably the cat is pretty old if you've had an entire relationship, marriage and child. They don't live forever.

Aquamarine1029 · 21/04/2022 15:55

What is the cat doing that's so intolerable?

SalsaLove · 21/04/2022 15:55

Your poor cat. Are you actually considering rehoming him/her?

CatChant · 21/04/2022 15:56

Rehome the H.

Iamacatslave · 21/04/2022 15:58

Poor cat. Re home the husband.

afizzysweet · 21/04/2022 15:58

Why does he hate your cat? Does he just not like cats or does your cat do things that irritate him, e.g. issues with scratching around the house, keeping people awake? What could you do to manage the issues your husband might have with the cat to make them a non-issue?

No, you shouldn't rehome the cat. He knew you had one before he married you.

Whatsthestoryboringglory · 21/04/2022 15:59

Rehome the DH. And I’m not even being funny here. if you’ve said something like “we have a young child or I’d rethink the whole relationship to be honest” it doesn’t sound like the cat is the only issue, just the obvious one you are focusing on. Things won’t get better if you get rid of the cat, I suspect, and you will have lost a much loved pet for no reason.

Either he’s complaining about little stuff he should put up with for your sake, as you love the cat and had him for years, or he should have raised the issue before you moved in together. It’s a sign of a bigger problem.

Simonjt · 21/04/2022 16:00

Rehome the husband, if my husband had been in anyway unpleasant etc about my cat I would have dumped him and he wouldn’t have progressed to husband.

namnamnam22 · 21/04/2022 16:00

Can he not just stay out of the cats way? We have two cats and DH and the youngest one don’t get on so they just avoid each other

MurmuratingStarling · 21/04/2022 16:01

There's a special place in hell for people who hate animals.

I would bin off any man in a heartbeat if he showed hatred and disdain for MY pet cat.

I HAVE to ask @Terribleguiltovercat why the fuck did you marry - and have a child with - this dreadful animal-hating individual? You're not telling us you ONLY just discovered he hates your cat! Confused

GodspeedJune · 21/04/2022 16:04

That would be a hard no from me.

Could you tell him you don’t want to hear any more of his moaning about the cat? I don’t see why you should have to suffer his misery.

OhCobblers · 21/04/2022 16:05

I hate cats. Can't stand them.

BUT would never have started a relationship with someone who had one and certainly wouldn't have married them and then expected them to get rid years later.

Boood · 21/04/2022 16:06

Cats before husbands, every time.