Rehoming cat as DH hates him?

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I had the cat when I met DH which was a few years ago and DH just hates him and constantly complains about him and it’s really getting to me.

We have a young child or I would rethink the whole relationship tbh. But I can’t live like this.

You probably should start a thread of your own and I think you'd get better responses.

OMG he bought a Bengal with zero research? They are notoriously high need cats with opinions about everything. Is he an experienced cat owner? I'd love a Bengal but common sense apparently tells me my life isn't suited to a Bengal.

If you can find a good home for him, maybe he'd be better off there. The cat, not the husband

I feel for you. Having someone chipping away at you can be debilitating.

It sounds to me, from your mention of other issues, as if would not actually resolve matters, but would be followed by other incremental steps.
But then again, I'm firmly in the "Cats before twats" camp.

I'm sure that in the right surroundings the cat wouldn't be SUCH a nightmare, but the lack of stimulation and relying on my partner for it so much is meaning the cat can't really handle sharing him, or being away from him - I'd love to see the cat being as feral as it likes in a big garden, but it's just not possible.

Being a single parent and a pet lover, it feels SO rubbish not being able to handle this little thing that's getting to me so badly! I'm desperately hoping it calms down and quietens down as it ages like others do, but I was told recently bengals get worse?! At what point do you throw the towel in??

My partner is really great and I feel like he's similarly battling with when to draw the line, but I'm not sure he will ever put his needs before the cats... Not sure I would be able to call it either!

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It is not about the poor cat. It is your DH having found a stick to beat you with, something that upsets you to bully with and is going ahead with abandon. Tell him you are on to his game and if it does not stop the marriage is in trouble, and it really is because he is enjoying upsetting you.