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To ask if you were the weird girl in school

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likemindedarseholes · 17/04/2022 18:50

Do you still feel like the weird one?
I think I will always feel different. I don't dislike the feeling.
I go between thinking that perhaps everyone is weird in their own ways and feeling that maybe a lot of people enjoy things that I don't. I don't feel any superiority that I don't enjoy mainstream music or normal clothes. It's just different preferences.
I worry sometimes that my kids will not be weird. And that I won't be able to relate their childhood or teenage experience. That's all

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speakout · 17/04/2022 18:53

Yes I was that weird kid. Geeky and goofy, good at chemistry, physics and maths.
Other girls my age would be dating, I would meet up with the boys to discuss the periodic table by way of entertainment.

Onceuponatimethen · 17/04/2022 18:53

I was the weird kid. Still the odd one out

Mostly I like it

Thetailfeather · 17/04/2022 18:54

I was weird. Still am. My kids are weird.

There's a lot to be said for not giving a shit what other people think. If your kids are "normal" that's going to feel pretty weird for you, right? So what is normal and what is weird?

In our house, weird is normal.

veronicagoldberg · 17/04/2022 18:55

Yep!

I'm always the weirdo.

DiscoStusMoonboots · 17/04/2022 18:56

Former goth, now slightly-more-mainstresm goth here. I was 'weird' because I loved reading, politics and grunge more than anything else, including boys (which at an all girls school was the ultimate taboo).

I'm still that person. People still remember me as that person. I couldn't give less of a shit.

DrBrennerFan · 17/04/2022 18:57

Yes James Bond fanatic didn’t want boyfriends thought weird by everyone.

Opaljewel · 17/04/2022 18:57

Yes I was. Turns out I have ADHD and wondered why I always felt differently and the odd one out. Luckily I have several friends who accept me as I am these days.

MissyB1 · 17/04/2022 18:58

Yes right from age 4 in reception class. I hadn’t socialised much outside of the family home and I had what I now know were attachment issues. My mum had bad PND after my birth.
I didn’t know how to make friends or fit in. I was incredibly insecure, other kids sensed it and steered clear.
Things only started to get better by my 30s really. That’s when I started to explore why I was always the odd one.

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likemindedarseholes · 17/04/2022 18:58

@DiscoStusMoonboots same, black metal, poetry reading ex- goth here. Still wearing all black and listening to Sonic Youth in my kitchen on a hot day.

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AchillesPoirot · 17/04/2022 18:59

Yes. Am 99.9% certain I’m autistic.

Mermaidwaves · 17/04/2022 19:00

I was weird but without meaning to be, I just never fitted in or understood about fashion etc. My kids are not, they are more average and to be honest they've had more friends and seem happier than I did as a teen. Theres nothing wrong with being weird and an individual but be careful wishing it on your kids, I was bullied pretty badly and still have low self esteem now.

Furrbabymama87 · 17/04/2022 19:00

I never fit in. I always had people to hang around with but never felt they really wanted me there, I was just a cling on. I was popular amongst the boys, which alienated me from girls more I think. And because of that and the way I looked, I probably came across as stuck up to other girls, when actually it was just that I was shy and awkward and felt no one liked me.

romdowa · 17/04/2022 19:01

I was the weird child, the odd teen and I'm now more odd than ever 🤣🤣 found out last year that I've asd/adhd. So that explains why I was always so different but I'm a lot happier with it now though. I collect rubber ducks and will have a bride and groom rubber duck as mu cake topper , my family think that will be weird but myself and my dp think its wonderful 🤩embrace the weirdness, its far more fun!

shepherdlincoln · 17/04/2022 19:01

I was the weird girl. Diagnosed later in life as autistic, lol. I still feel like an alien but I think now that I know why, I am more at peace with my weirdness. I am still pretty odd as an adult and honestly proud of it. Being normal is overrated Grin

HerRoyalHappiness · 17/04/2022 19:02

I was. Autistic though so that explains it. Little emo me just thought I was strange.
Big emo me knows I'm strange and gives no fucks.

Sleepyteach · 17/04/2022 19:03

I was the weird loner kid and 20 years later I still get pangs of self doubt and think that no one likes me, despite a wonderful group of friends. I also have massive imposter syndrome when it comes to work despite being reasonably successful and regularly being told how good I am at my job. Pretty sure it’s all related. Desperately hope my DD isn’t weird because I’d hate for her school days to be as hard as mine were.

tiredanddangerous · 17/04/2022 19:03

Yup! I was always weird and will always be weird. I'm autistic. And proud of it; who wants to be the same as everyone else??

BigYellowTaxiT · 17/04/2022 19:04

Yes. But turns out I’m autistic (diagnosed last year). I’m still weird but there’s a reason other than just plain weird. I don’t really care. Weird people are interesting.

XenoBitch · 17/04/2022 19:05

Yes, have been the weird kid in school, the weird cousin at family events, the weird colleague in the workplace etc.
I hate it, as I feel isolated from everyone else. It feels like I am from another planet, or am in some bubble looking out at everyone else.

FruitToast · 17/04/2022 19:06

Yes. I suspect I have ASD. I was far more interested in science and history than fashion and boys. Still completely unfashionable, don't do make up or really care about my hair as long as it's clean and in a ponytail. At least I don't care what people think anymore. I do worry about not being able to relate to DCs experiences when they are older but DD has just started on the pathway and DS is old enough now for me to start wondering if he's also 'different' to his peers. DH was a 'weird' kid too and suspect he's also on the spectrum. Just a house full of weird and wonderful here Grin

Wombat98 · 17/04/2022 19:08

Yep. Me.

Still weird, still never included in anything...old now, used to it.

DiscoBadgers · 17/04/2022 19:08

I was the weird kid - nose permanently in a book, even when walking, a head full of obscure and useless information. I was 2 years ahead academically so much younger than my classmates and nobody wanted to be friends with the child brainiac.

I’m still the same - I love reading up on history, I hoard useless facts. The difference is that I’ve stopped being embarrassed or ashamed about my weirdness - it’s me and that’s fine.

BelleTheBananas · 17/04/2022 19:11

I was ‘quirky’: an indie kid, very intelligent, outgoing, musical, artistic, insanely good at languages, perfect pitch, early reader, remembered weird shit that nobody else did, quite odd in many respects. 99% sure I have ADHD (DS1 has an ASD/ADHD diagnosis).

jajabanks · 17/04/2022 19:13

Yep, used to wear weird clothes, not what others wore. I liked doing jigsaws and staying in with grandparents. I still think I am not like others as an adult and pretty sure I'm add/asd too (my kids all have a neuro difference).

honeybushbunch · 17/04/2022 19:13

I wasn’t weird per se, but I was the academic nerd kid which was pretty much the same lol 🤣 I preferred discussing philosophy and films more than boys and listened to indie music - rather than Take That and Robbie Williams, which most of my friends liked. I didn’t really come into my own until university and grad school where I discovered that I was actually quite cool, just not in a way my schoolfriends were into. There are all sorts of ways of being interesting or quirky - popular isn’t all that 🤣