To ask if you were the weird girl in school

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Do you still feel like the weird one?
I think I will always feel different. I don't dislike the feeling.
I go between thinking that perhaps everyone is weird in their own ways and feeling that maybe a lot of people enjoy things that I don't. I don't feel any superiority that I don't enjoy mainstream music or normal clothes. It's just different preferences.
I worry sometimes that my kids will not be weird. And that I won't be able to relate their childhood or teenage experience. That's all

I was absolutely the weird kid at school. All the best people are.

No but I fear I may be the weird woman at work.

I think I was, but in my teens I learnt to disguise it, and I hung out with the cool (but not mean) girls at school.
I was the hippy in the group and considered cool because I smoked cannabis and listened to bands like Pink Floyd. I kept the science fiction and baroque music very quiet!

Yes, we moved when I was eight and the school I moved from and the school I moved to couldn't have been any different. My first school was in a new building and we lived in an affluent area. My next school was in a small country village and the school was old and crumbling. I was singled out as the weird, posh girl. This stayed with me into secondary school and I was bullied. I've learned to be fairly self-reliant and I don't trust many people. I don't really have friends. My school days were awful and have affected me all my life.

Oh absolutely.

I just wish I’d known at the time that it is perfectly ok not to fit in or even want to fit in with most people. They bored me at the time and most still do. Now though I have a choice with whom I spend time with.

Oh, yes. I was absolutely one of the 'weird' ones at school.

I was diagnosed autistic last year.

Bullied at home by my narc mother, bullied at school.

I was the girl with no friends, no trendy clothes, no makeup, made to go to church every Sunday, never allowed out, didn't smoke or do weed, didn't bunk off school, sang classical music.

Uni was a bit better, but I was lacking in confidence and in experience of the "real world"

I don't think I'll ever get over how awful it was. Massive school, so non-existent pastoral care

Definitely the weirdo in school.
No friends,still the same now.
My kids overall are more social than me which is good.
I didn't want them growing up like me.
With no friends or any back up from anyone.

😁

Weird, Autistic, ADHD and bloody love it. I’m very successful now. If I wasn’t weird, I’d just be doing the same old stuff everyone else is doing. I only got successful when I stopped trying to be like everyone else and rewrote my story. Now I’m sad that few people in life are like ME. The tables turned when I leaned into my weirdness and ran with it.

I was the weird one. I still am. Turns out it’s because I’m autistic.

I was definitely still am. I enjoy being different now though. At school I desperately wanted to fit in but never managed to

I was the weird one at secondary school. I hated every minute there, and have never looked back. I'm not the weird one now though. I've been able to make friends quite easily since uni.

I use the experience when talking to teens. So many get told "best years of your life" and I think that's a horrible (and untrue) thing to say.

Hail, fellow weirdos! ✊🏻

I can relate to so much here. @autumnalleavestime I just love the ‘surprisingly vicious’ - go, you! I was bullied throughout school, nickname was ‘Alien’ (in no way meant affectionately) for the crimes of reading a lot, being an introvert, hating all known forms of sport and just not having read the handbook of being socially acceptable. I didn’t (and still don’t) know how to read the sub-groups and cliques that operate in schools and workplaces and I don’t care. I suspect I am somewhere on the Autism spectrum and one day I hope to investigate that further, but whatever I am: deeply eccentric but essentially nuerotypical or really rather standard neurodivergent, I am me and no longer wish to apologise for it.

Yes and I still am.

I didn't want anything to do with makeup, boys or boy bands. I liked (and still do) dinosaurs, gaming, geeky stuff and art.

I defo

I definitely was !

Im trying to think of one well adjusted person in primary school and I can't. We were all weird

@REP22

Me too.
That really was what made me weird.
Deeply religious and controlling parents. Unquestioning obedience required.

Yes, very much so. Never have fit in anywhere and kinda like it. Have always preferred to hang around different subcultures rather than identify with just one, tho have more scruffy goth tendencies appearance wise

Yes - never fitted in, was always very studious, loved heavy metal in the time of Indi and grunge, hated make up and all the girlie crap.

Nowadays like waving wands, daggers and swords around, chanting in Hebrew , gazing into mirrors.

fuck being normal, it looks shit from every angle and always has done

still manage to hold down professional career and have a lovely family

Yes I was a bit different from most in school and still feel a bit different. Not wildly so. I like it, life would be boring if we were all the same.

My late BiL told my sister I was nicknamed queen of the geeks at school because we had a close group who were all geeky. I was good at all academic subjects but crap at the arty ones.

Yes I was weird at school, but I think in a good way. I had good friends who took the piss nicely about my little idiosyncrasies. At nearly 50, my friends still take the piss. But I like being a bit oddball, you stand out and it's given me experiences most people have never had. It's also meant I've had opportunities at work as you get noticed, and I have lots of friends as people do tend to gravitate towards you as they want to get to know you

Never fitted in one of the have nots also 007 fanatic in my teens.