To ask if you were the weird girl in school

[likemindedarseholes]

Do you still feel like the weird one?
I think I will always feel different. I don't dislike the feeling.
I go between thinking that perhaps everyone is weird in their own ways and feeling that maybe a lot of people enjoy things that I don't. I don't feel any superiority that I don't enjoy mainstream music or normal clothes. It's just different preferences.
I worry sometimes that my kids will not be weird. And that I won't be able to relate their childhood or teenage experience. That's all

I felt weird and didn't fit in at secondary school. I found it really, really hard work just getting through the day. Sometimes I hid in the loo. I just wanted to hide away and couldn't stand Sunday night because it meant Monday was nearly here.

Everyone had tight groups (I moved from another area) and I was always the outsider. I got quite a lot of boy attention though I never encouraged it and found that hard. I was too young and immature to cope. That made matters worse with some other girls but found that strange because we had twins in our year who were the most beautiful girls. I couldn't see why anyone would be interested in me.

I don't bother with friends, just stick to my family (kids, numerous grandchildren, married to same guy for 38 years). I find that is enough for me.

A former colleague told me he misjudged me when he first met me and was sorry. So perhaps I give out "off" vibes. I have never changed, so guess I will always be a weird girl.

No friends at primary as weird.
Some friends at secondary but bullied.
People would tell others at work 'don't speak to her she's weird'
Bullied out of another job and made severely depressed which resulted in dvt.

Seems to be a bit of a theme of "weird kidand ND" I was definitely the weird kid, just didn't fit neatly into any box loved listening to and playing classical music and metal, dressed like a goth, raver or Jessica rabbit depending on mood, studied the sciences.
Have weird kids one (19) is a geek chic wearer and loves museums, one goth/theatre kid (21) uber girly can't remember the name of it begins with K Japanese styling, seriously impressive artist! One was recently diagnosed as ADHD one ASD I didn't notice until they were much older to be honest as we are along line of "weird kids" on our company the NT are the minority lol

I was the opera loving nerd who was a raging feminist. Quite a few of the boys found me actively threatening. I am quite self-sufficient and can manage with or without people.

I've worked in the City, for decades and fit in perfectly because people care about your knowledge and ability to make decisions. I've worked with plenty of people male and female who are successful in law /consulting /financial services without having many of the usual social skills simply because they are technically excellent. Given the choice between the urbane charming guy who sat on the fence on every key question and the guy who was much more socially awkward but gave clearly reasoned answers that allowed for decisions to be made, everybody preferred the second option.

Probably I was but I had 2 amazing best friends and did not care.
I'm definitely the odd one out as an adult due to a range of factors. I also don't have my BFFs close (in another country) and things are harder now.

I am not ASD or ADHD, but I am highly sensitive, or overexcitable. I like this site - it speaks to us weird girls/women.
www.thirdfactor.org/history-overexcitability/

Yes - "weird" and still am.

Found it fine at primary school but very hard at secondary /uni.

Just found it so hard to find/make connections/feel comfortable with people/bond with people. Said the wrong things at times but don't think i was outrageously off the mark or bizarre or off-putting in how i conducted myself.

Liked different things although still very mainstream but that was a secondary issue, i really did try to conform.

Bullied by males (name- calling verbal abuse, insulted, sneered at and mocked) and just ignored by females. No-one wanted to be my friend.

Felt really on the outside of things and could not find a way to build relationships/progress friendships.

Was really emotionally bullied and physically abused by sister and had dysfunctional home-life although respectable looking on the outside.

Still exactly the same. Obviously i'm the common denominator.
Life has and still is very hard. Never fit in at work - hate team building events. On my own every lunch time

I've been tested for adhd- no, have been referred for autism testing but more to "rule out" according to Doctor.

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God i could cry having now read back what i've just written.

@oversized Please try not to feel discouraged by your doctor’s unhelpful attitude - lots of stereotypes about autism abound, even among professionals, and women often mask traits very successfully. Getting diagnosed as a mature adult can be quite a complex journey.

And I really hope you find your ‘tribe’ - it matters to be around those who ‘get’ us, quirks and all.