To ask if you were the weird girl in school

[likemindedarseholes]

Do you still feel like the weird one?
I think I will always feel different. I don't dislike the feeling.
I go between thinking that perhaps everyone is weird in their own ways and feeling that maybe a lot of people enjoy things that I don't. I don't feel any superiority that I don't enjoy mainstream music or normal clothes. It's just different preferences.
I worry sometimes that my kids will not be weird. And that I won't be able to relate their childhood or teenage experience. That's all

I suspect I have adhd - should have said!

My dc dx neurodiverse

Yes, loved reading, liked the wrong sort of music, talked about 'boring' things. Just never really fitted in.

Yes, I was. I was geeky and used to sit by myself in the playground wondering how to make friends. I still do not know how to make friends and teachers would often say to me 'why do you not socialise, what is wrong with you', I was later diagnosed as autistic as an adult. It explains alot.

Also it’s quite possible to be quirky/geeky/weird and not be neurodiverse at all! I was tested at university as part of a research project and was literally scoring the least possible ASD scores. As an adult I work in a people oriented job and love small talk, meeting people and am pretty extroverted.

“Weird” is sometimes a part of neurodiversity but not necessarily so! In my adult experience more people are quirky than are so called “normal”, to be honest.

I'm not sure. I thought I was normal but I was bullied both physically and verbally all through High School so I guess the bullies thought I was weird.
I did my best to fit in but it never quite worked.

But when i left school and got a job, I really fitted in and never looked back and have never had any trouble with anyone (in RL anyway) since.

Sort of, wasn't pretty or part of the in crowd, always an outsider. Made me feel awful about myself but I'm fine now. I told OH about it when we started going out together and he thought I was pulling his leg.

Super weird. I'm a bit damaged so I just roll with it.

I think I was weird. I was v self conscious and had low self esteem. But happy to potter about doing the things I liked with my friends. One of my oldest friends said that she always liked how I marched to the best of my own drum, I had absolutely no idea that I was.

I'm still a bit weird really. I don't care. I am happier and have been the last five years or so since I stopped worrying what others thought about me not being like them.

I do have friends, have made a lot over the years and I don't think any of them are bothered by our different approaches to life or different interests.

Very much the weird girl, still am to a degree
I didnt pay any mind to anyone else at school though, i just did my own thing

Strange how its now become fashionable to be weird

Yes I still feel like the weird one. I’m friendship groups I always feel like a hanger-on or not as important as everyone else.

@comealongponds

Yes I still feel like the weird one. I’m friendship groups I always feel like a hanger-on or not as important as everyone else.

Yes I feel that too. I'm never a main friend which sometimes bothers me.

Yep. It turns out I'm Autistic. Wish I'd been diagnosed years ago.

Yes. I was self conscious, poor self esteem, tried too hard to fit in and was lonely. Had a bad childhood/family and I just didn't know how to interact. I was then bullied for being weird.

Now I probably am still weird, but I'm happy enough with myself now. I have a job I love, which is very sociable. It took time, but I learnt to accept myself for who I am.

@MissyB1

Yes right from age 4 in reception class. I hadn’t socialised much outside of the family home and I had what I now know were attachment issues. My mum had bad PND after my birth. I didn’t know how to make friends or fit in. I was incredibly insecure, other kids sensed it and steered clear. Things only started to get better by my 30s really. That’s when I started to explore why I was always the odd one.

Yep, all this is my experience, too. I still feel like a weirdo, and not especially in a good way.

I’m delighted and relieved that my kids are just “normal”.

Yes.
I soooo wanted to fit in. I tried and tried and ended up just looking like a right dick.

I didn't know I'm autistic. I masked really well.and still do (institutionalised masking).
It's a relief to know it's autism as my parents called my psycho which as a young teen made me think I'd turn into a serial killer.

@AchillesPoirot

Yes. Am 99.9% certain I’m autistic.

Why do you think that?

My dd has been diagnosed as autistic. We share the same traits. I’ve gone through the process with her and I’m sure I’m autistic due to this.

Why do you ask?

@MotherOfAllZipFiles yes! Billie Eilesh and others are all a bit weird aren't they. Is it cool now?
I hope individuality is cool someday. When I was at school having any interests apart from boys or clothes was 'embarrassing'

Yes. Found out 20 years later I am autistic. That explained it!

Definitely the weird girl all through high school. Weird parents, terrible clothes, runaway acne, hopeless at sport, geeky clever, zero idea about music or fashion. Got bullied horribly and still have confidence issues to this day.

BUT university was my escape - I loved it, made lifelong friends, met my husband, discovered I was perfectly capable of getting on with people when they didn't just see me as the 'weird girl'. I just got really unlucky at school I think.

I have a good friendship group and circle as an adult. I'm still geeky, still love history and board games and a good cryptic crossword Still no clue about music or sport! But I have kids, a normal busy life, plenty to talk about with people. And my own tribe who share my more niche interests! Plus in my 40s, I don't care so much what people think any more - I learned to love myself years ago.

Yep o was one of the weird ones at school, had a group of alternative friends but always felt very much on the outside, despite being able to float around different friendship groups and get on well with everyone.

Am still 'different' as an adult but am very comfortable in my own skin now (aka don't give a flying fuck what anyone thinks of me) and I own it.

Interestingly, I have ND kids and suspect I also have ADHD.

Sorry @coodawoodashooda I forgot to tag you

I have been all through the process with my dd and we share the same traits.

That’s why I’m 99.9% sure. Why do you ask?

Odd rather than weird but that’s because I was gay at a time when being gay was considered the worst thing to be, in a girls school where it seemed EVERYONE was obsessed about boys, and it was religious too.
I still loved school tho, cos I was a girly swot!
I was much happier when I got to Uni and was freer to be myself.

Yup, was the goth kid at school and still havent "grown out of that phase" aged 47. Never fitted in anywhere, still dont and really glad of it. Now have a 13 year old gothling who is happy to be free to be herself and doesnt succumb to peer pressure.

@AchillesPoirot When DS1’s ADHD depression/anxiety questionnaire turned up, it was like a point-by-point description of my personality as a child, I rang my mum straight away and read it out.