Friends mean about my new house

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I invited a group of women I went to school with to my new house for lunch and some afternoon drinks.

I have been reacting to invite them because I moved to a nearby city which is a thirty minute drive from our home town where they all live.

I am so proud of my new home - it has a lovely large garden and is very close to a beautiful park.

When I have been invited to see friends new homes I have been genuinely pleased for them and complimentary. I am really hurt today that all I got was negative comments.

A few friends who brought their husbands openly discussed how much I paid for the house and even went on the internet to show each other what you can but in our home town for that money. I heard one laughing and saying they saw her coming.

The comments were all negative, comparing it to our home town (which is lovely) and saying I was crazy. I do t think anyone said congratulations- there were some neat rap comments like the garden is much bigger than I thought but really it was just a bit mean spirited.

I am single and worked so hard to get this. I live it and sometimes have to pinch myself that it is actually mine. I used to walk along this street and fantasise about living here.

I know it’s just a house to them - and I know they all have lovely homes themselves. But why couldn’t they even fake it? They just kept telling me how great our home town is - and comments like oh I couldn’t live in an attached house. One even asked me if her car was safe in my driveway!!!!

So I guess my question is am I being unreasonable to expect my friends to pretend they like my new house!

They dont sound like very good friends to me. Im sorry they were so mean. Congratulations on your new home.

What the actual fuck?? Why on earth are you friends with these utter witches?!

That’s such a shame, I guess they’re not really friends then.
Now you live somewhere new, it’s obviously time to start again and meet people who do appreciate you and where you chose to live.
Enjoy your new home, I’m sure it’s lovely

Could it be jealousy op?

It doesn’t sound kind to me

Congratulations on your lovely new home

This is one of those strange threads where hearing the other side might possibly sway the answers enormously.

I expect people will type 'jealous' without even thinking but when you actually do think about it, it's bizarre that they would all act that way.

Is there a chance your 'pride' in getting a house might've come across as boastful, or one-upmanship or anything like that at all?

If not, like I said, it's bizarre.

They sound jealous to me. You say that a similar house in the town where they all live would be a lot cheaper, so they're probably hacked off that you live in a lovely house near a park in a city, and they are stuck in some provincial shithole with no amenities where nobody else wants to live.

Sounds like jealousy to me! They're not very good friends. Congratulations on your beautiful house ,enjoy it x

They don’t sound like friends and they also sound jealous!

Find new friends,

They sound horrible and perhaps a little jealous of your delight in your new home. Congratulations and enjoy your house.

Make new friends from your new area, those ones are dickheads.

Your friends all sound very odd. Why did you invite them?

They aren’t friends.

Do you think it’s because you’ve had the nerve to move away from your hometown and they’re all still there?

I'm sorry. No need for that.

They sound jealous as hell, and certainly not the way good friends should! Your house sounds lovely, wishing you many happy years living in it x

That’s horrible OP, I’d be really upset.

I’m going to take a guess that some of the men were a bit intimidated that you’ve been able to do this on your own and still get to be in the city.

Poor you! Your home sounds lovely.

I'd have to say something, idiots.

They don't sound like nice friends at all, they should have been very pleased for you and genuinely interested in your choice of house, and the reasons why you love it.

Well done for working hard to get your own home, and how lovely to have a garden and a park nearby. I'm definitely envious of the garden, which my own flat doesn't have.

I know you feel hurt - I would too - but put their comments out of your mind and enjoy what is yours. I love looking round people's houses, congratulations on your new home!

What a bunch of absolute butches. It would be the last time I'd see them.

I didn’t understand a lot of your op but you need new friends.

Thanks all. We have been friends since primary school. I have other groups of friends from uni and work who have been so see the house and who have been delighted for me.

This group seem to take it as an insult that I chose not to move away from our home town. There are some lovely places there - but I found it quite snobby and judgemental. I prefer more anonymity in the city. I also work in the city - and I can walk to my office from my house which is lovely.

I mainly travel to see them and always bring house warming gifts and tell them how gorgeous their new homes are. I am genuinely pleased for them and don’t feel the need to compare.

The comments about how much it cost really stung - they were openly laughing- this house for that much. Unbelievable - I would never spend that sort of lent for this. I was really quite embarrassed. That is just how much houses cost here - and I don’t know why they had to look it up!!

Sorry - I have had a few glasses of wine and am bow sitting wishing I hadn’t bloody bothered inviting them

Green eyed monster there I think.

You bought a house on your own in a place you love. You should be so proud and your friends sound horrible. Make new friends in your new area. Congratulations on your home, hope you'll bevery happy

Odd friends. People on this site have odd friends.

@TabithaTittlemouse

I didn’t understand a lot of your op but you need new friends.

Sorry - I had a few glasses of wine and am typing on my phone😂. I need strong coffee and an early night.

Happy Easter to me