Friends mean about my new house

[Mellowyellow222]

I invited a group of women I went to school with to my new house for lunch and some afternoon drinks.

I have been reacting to invite them because I moved to a nearby city which is a thirty minute drive from our home town where they all live.

I am so proud of my new home - it has a lovely large garden and is very close to a beautiful park.

When I have been invited to see friends new homes I have been genuinely pleased for them and complimentary. I am really hurt today that all I got was negative comments.

A few friends who brought their husbands openly discussed how much I paid for the house and even went on the internet to show each other what you can but in our home town for that money. I heard one laughing and saying they saw her coming.

The comments were all negative, comparing it to our home town (which is lovely) and saying I was crazy. I do t think anyone said congratulations- there were some neat rap comments like the garden is much bigger than I thought but really it was just a bit mean spirited.

I am single and worked so hard to get this. I live it and sometimes have to pinch myself that it is actually mine. I used to walk along this street and fantasise about living here.

I know it’s just a house to them - and I know they all have lovely homes themselves. But why couldn’t they even fake it? They just kept telling me how great our home town is - and comments like oh I couldn’t live in an attached house. One even asked me if her car was safe in my driveway!!!!

So I guess my question is am I being unreasonable to expect my friends to pretend they like my new house!

Oh my god

Why the fuck are some people such dicks about houses??

I have told this story before but I worked my fucking ass off to buy my house a few years ago. Previously, I lived on a rough street on a council estate in a tiny little box of a house. and by the skin of my teeth managed to buy a much bigger and nicer place in a better area

When 2 of my "best mates" came round for the first time all they did was make subtly negative comments. One commented with faux concern on the fact that I've got 3 kids and my new house "only" having 3 bedrooms
despite all the bedrooms being massive double ones (one of which actually could comfortably be split in to two rooms later on if needed) and the kids having their own private bathroom.
And also the fact it's plain rude to comment that kids share when loads of kids do

The other one commented on the angle of the drain cover on the drive "omg I could never live here!! THAT would really bug me!" .
I just thought fuck sake would it kill them to just say something nice instead? Like "congratulations"

It's jealousy I think

Enjoy your new home 🏡 xxx

'Friends'?!! Wtf, I've never made friends with any creep women like that.

Time to stop hanging with the insecure range-rover set ...

Dear god, they’re horrible!! You don’t need “friends” like that!!

Jealousy.

Ignore them.

@Tlollj

Green eyed monster there I think.

I genuinely don’t see why they would be jealous. Many of them have children - I am still single and at my age children is now unlikely. Many are in relationships - I am terminally single.

My career has gone well - but I am the stereotypical spinster - I even have a cat (who doesn’t really like me😂). Oh am I am overweight! Nothing to be jealous of I promise.

Perhaps they are subconsciously annoyed that you left the home town. Sometimes decisions like this makes others feel defensive about their own choices if that makes sense. So them saying "oh it's so expensive, but it's not detached" is a way of rationalising they have made the right choice to stay. Annoying though.

Jealousy is so ugly isn't it your new home sounds lovely.. Enjoy it and don't ask the hard faced jealous bitches back again! You are better of without them! 😊

I feel for you OP - they don't sound like very nice friends. Just because you've known them for years doesn't mean you'd choose to be friends with them now if you met them for the first time today - people grow up differently.

Congrats on the new house and don't let them take the shine off it. Be proud of yourself and think twice about how much time you spend with them in the future x x

Have their careers gone well, are their marriages happy?, what's their finances like- I suspect they have underlying issues.

This group seem to take it as an insult that I chose not to move away from our home town.

just seen this update. did you move away?

Ditch them. They are not your friends.
Comparison is the thief of joy!

Your friends sound like a pack of scabs. Take a step back.

@planetme that is so familiar. One of my bedrooms is converted into a dressing room - which I love. Two friend announced it was a bloody cheek to describe it as a four bedroom house when one was just a cupboard!! I laughter it off - and said it’s my favourite room in the house. Quite a luxury for me. She struggled and walked into the next room.

I bloody love this house. I know I could buy a huge house in my home town for the money - but that’s not what I want. It works for them - it wouldn’t work for me!

It’s actually a really good neighbourhood- quite sought after - and crime isn’t a big issue. Wish her bloody Audi had got keyed 😂😂

You've got the new house, now get some new friends.

@grotsnags it says that in the second paragraph of the OP!

Cunts all of them.
Ditch them all.
Congratulations on your new home, I hope you have many happy years there.

@grotsnags

This group seem to take it as an insult that I chose not to move away from our home town.

just seen this update. did you move away?

I never went back after university. They did. Which is lovely for them and they are happy there. It just didn’t suit me.

There's your reason then, snobby and judgemental. Jealous too because if your house cost more than theirs, it means you could afford a bigger house than theirs in your home town. On your own.

If you carry on being friends with them, which I wouldn't, I'd start winding them up and commenting on their decor and stuff. Talk about how behind the times they are etc. They sound daft enough that they'd fall for it and start redecorating to be on trend.

Thanks all. We have been friends since primary school.
Sounds like some of them still belong there.

They just sound extremely rude.

@Mellowyellow222 It's as I thought. You needed more which is fine but they deep down see it as a rejection of them & probably question why they didn't/don't want more.

Wow set of bitches.

Sorry OP, they're not friends. They've been using you, laughing behind your back, and now you're succeeding in life they're going to try and bring you down. They sound despicable.

You left, they didn't. They see it as a criticism and are trying to pull you down a peg or two. You don't need this shit. Not everyone who comes up with you can go with you. Drop them and find proper friends, don't hang around with people out of habit.

You need a friend upgrade.
Congratulations on your new home, it’sa real achievement especially in this day and age.