To sneak away in the night from neighbours

[Ohnonevermind]

We’ve had a hard few years with difficult neighbours. We’ve kept our heads down but unfortunately they’ve suffered some really bad luck in the last few years and are projecting onto me in particular. I have had some unwarranted abuse hurled at me over the last few years. It was mainly low level stuff but it drags you slowly down.
I don’t walk out of my house any more
and drive past theirs (detached houses in the countryside) so covid has been fun.

During the last year they’ve escalated it massively including them wanting to speak to me to tell me what they think of me 🤷‍♀️ I would explain further but it’s massively outing (I know that phrase is maddening)

But a fabulous house has come up 6 miles away. It’s perfect for us and we don’t have to sell our house to finance it. It’s got all the stuff we put into our house (a forever home) too

The amazing thing is secretly we’re signing next week (10 minute viewing was enough) it’s nearer family. We’ve just checked with family if they’d be happy (they’re delighted) but we’re keeping it low key until the deal is done.

AIBU to slip away in the night, part of me thinks I should tell my neighbours we are leaving but I worry it might escalate issues on their side.

I’m so secretly happy, every time I looked out my window and saw their house it dragged me down, now it makes me smile.

Thanks to all the helpful posters 🙏
Moving onwards

[quote Ohnonevermind]@SuperSange

I know, they’re so easy to offend, they have nothing else to do (neither work, large financial resources, and loads of time on their hands).

A quick goodbye might be a cleaner break (send DH to deliver the bad news) rather than watch them cruise the new house)[/quote]
Why?

You don't own them anything. Why do you care?

Just move and dont give them another thought.

They are neighbors not friends. I moved from my favourite house that I had lived in for ages without saying goodbye to my neighbor. So from our horrid neighbors we just left.

I hope you can move without them being there so it's a surprise to them!

@tobedtoMN

Of course people are allowed to move house. Does no one else question the ethics of owning 2 houses outright and leaving one empty and coming on a public forum to bemoan their lot in life?!

And the Ukraine ..!I mean I could on 🤣

You appear to be demonstrating the same behaviour as the neighbour. You are turning your personal anger out at the OP for no reason other that they can buy one property without selling the other. Who knows what they will do with the first. Sell it, rent it. Not our business.

If it was me I’d put up a massive JUST LET sign as I was getting in the removal van and be sure they saw me and leave them to worry about who’s imminently moving in 😋

@overnightangel genius!!

Move, don’t specifically tell them, just move! If they see van & ask (nosy), fgs don’t tell them where you’re going to. I personally never do more than acknowledge neighbours, they are not friends, even if at one stage they seem like friends you could easily fall out, and they’re still neighbours aagh. I’m sure people have experience of wonderful neighbours, good for them, but to me they are just people living adjacent. I even go as far as to instruct all online sellers never to deliver to a neighbour, don’t want to collect boxes & have to converse!