Do you wake sleeping teens or leave them be?

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I have two teens and both sleep in past pm if you let them and I was exactly the same. Dh (ex military) thinks they should up, dressed and fed by as soon as we are up. I think they need their sleep and waking a sleeping teen is like like waking sleeping baby! I do however stir them just before 12 so that they can eat at lunch and aren't skipping meals. What do you do?

I let them sleep, unless it's well after midday then I tend to at least attempt to wake them so they can eat lunch at a sensible time. It's really only school holidays, they don't sleep quite as late at weekends during school time as they are in the habit of getting up.

I leave mine until noon during the holidays and at weekends when they arent up for their sport. Their days shift accordingly but it must be what all their friends do as they all seem to be on the same 'clock'. I would not be waking them to be up and dressed unless they had somewhere they needed to be.

Let them sleep. It’s well described now that teenagers have a shift in their circadian rhythm and move towards later sleep and wake times. Tell your DH it’s physiology, not laziness!

I wake mine by 10. Maintaining usual sleep patterns is important in supporting their mental health.

Let them sleep unless there is something planned for the day. In which case I will have reminded them several times the day before. And I only have a few days planned over the holidays - usually things that they have helped to plan.

I will also make sure they are awake if they have asked me too - teens easily sleep through alarms.

I leave mine as he suffers from chronic fatigue so every bit of catch up sleep in the holidays is much needed. He tends to have breakfast and lunch much later than me but we always eat dinner together.

@MinorWomensWhiplash1

Let them sleep. It’s well described now that teenagers have a shift in their circadian rhythm and move towards later sleep and wake times. Tell your DH it’s physiology, not laziness!

Yes, let them sleep. The above poster is right.

(and I woke my baby to get her into a good daytime/nighttime routine)

I do not wake DD (14) until midday, if she is sleeping.

Well I would leave them to sleep but funnily enough my dh thinks they should be woken and he’s ex army too

Leave them. Their sleep patterns are different to yours. Why wake them up unless they have plans? I loved to sleep in when I was a teenager. Bloody hated Sundays though as was woken up to go to church. I'm now an atheist who loves to sleep in.

Leave ours unless she need to be up for something, the younger ones noise level usually has her up anyway.

I leave mine as long as they need. It gets scary when it gets to around 2pm that something has happened to them, but actually that just shows me that their bodies need so so much more sleep than life today allows.

I leave mine to sleep unless they need to be up for something

What does he want them to do once they are up and dressed at the crack of dawn?

Tell him to leave them to it.

I currently have 3 sleeping teens in the house, I will be lucky to see them before 3pm.

I let mine sleep. Waking her 'just because ' is massively unreasonable. It's her holidays and if she chooses to spend it asleep it's up to her. She woke about 3pm yesterday, that's fairly usual on weekends and in holidays.

This isn't entirely relevant, but on OLD I have a growing list of things I swipe left for - being in the military or ex-military is one of those things. Just too regimented and narrow minded.

You wouldn't wake a sleeping lion, teens can be the same

Mine wants me to wake her up or she finds it hard to sleep at night. I wouldn’t wake her without her agreement. We discuss that she needs to start getting up a bit earlier a few days before going back to school.

Let them sleep unless you’ve specifically got something planned. My dd is 18 and home from university for Easter and is practically nocturnal!

I don't have teenagers but I vote to let them sleep!
I feel like it's a right of passage, I loved those care free days where I could sleep in as long as I wanted.
I guess I can do that again when my children get to the teenager years....

Yes I let my 15 year old sleep in but about 12pm I will go wake him up and offer to make him scrambled eggs or something - so then he doesn't mind getting woken up. I just don't want his sleep cycle to get too messed up!

They need sleep at this age and also their body clock shifts so they're tired later at night and wake up later in the morning.

It depends what we're doing if I wake up DS. (13) If we have nothing on I'll leave him til 10.30/11 but will wake him up earlier if we need to be somewhere. DD is 17 and seems to be coming out the other side and doesn't usually sleep past 9am anyway.

I don't think it's healthy for them stay up all night and sleep all day.

My 11 year old grandaughter is still in bed, I'll get her up before half one as she's going out!

I wake if there’s something they need to be up for. I generally leave be until midday otherwise. But the older one would sleep to 4pm if left and then go to bed at 4 or 5am which I think is bordering on unhealthy as he doesn’t go out, see daylight or interact with anyone in person, just online if he’s left to settle into a nocturnal habit. They may be growing up but I feel they may need a prod not to find themselves in a rut. We noticed that when the older one got himself into this habit he then became very averse to meeting people, going out, doing any sort of errands or chores or normal stuff to the point that it could be creating anxiety - seemingly out of unfamiliarity.

I have teenagers and let them sleep til Midday unless we have something to do. It’s the Easter Holidays so they can choose how they spend their free time. They do stay up a lot later as well, so it’s all relative. Obviously this wouldn’t happen during term time, so meh.