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Would you do this?

338 replies

Changename111 · 10/04/2022 10:17

Supposed to be having lunch with a few friends from work. One has just messaged me and said she has lost her bank card so if she transfers money can I withdraw it as cash.
I'm really not happy she's put me on this situation.

OP posts:
MrsMingech · 10/04/2022 11:09

Sounds to me like you just don't like her.

There is no problem here.

AChocolateOrangeaday · 10/04/2022 11:10

This AIBU only makes sense if you are the poster who had a thread up yesterday wanting to tell everyone to "fuck off".

EmbarrassingHadrosaurus · 10/04/2022 11:10

A family member recently fell for a similar scam.

Check by another channel.

Sarkymarky · 10/04/2022 11:10

I really hope you are not in a fix one day and want help you sound really mean

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 10/04/2022 11:11

I think you’re massively overreacting to a one-off non-issue

Wavygravy1 · 10/04/2022 11:12

Surely it’d only be a scam if the OP had been asked to transfer money to the friend, not the other way round…

Antarcticant · 10/04/2022 11:12

There are scams involving transfer of money but I can't see how this could be one.

Very easily. If it's a scammer - 'Sorry, I transferred over £3000 instead of £300, could you send £2700 back to me?'

OP sends £2700 back.

The £3000 transferred by mistake is stolen; this gets reclaimed from the OP's bank account leaving her out of pocket. Scammer walks away into the sunset with the cash.

Holly60 · 10/04/2022 11:13

Yeah you’ve not been put in any position- she has asked something perfectly reasonable

Shinyandnew1 · 10/04/2022 11:14

@Changename111

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues
When I read this, I had to double check the OP to make sure the work colleague hadn’t just asked you out if the blue to do this so they could go out for lunch with someone else. But, no-they are having lunch with you!
WhereHasSpringSprungTo · 10/04/2022 11:14

Omg!
Good enough to go out to lunch with but not good enough to help her out. Shes not exactly asking to borrow money. She'll transfer first.

Its a non situation!

Planesmistakenforstars · 10/04/2022 11:14

They're being very generous inviting you to lunch so you can pretend to have friends.

oakleaffy · 10/04/2022 11:14

@Changename111

Just thought it was an odd request from a grown woman to have lost her bank card (whilst out drinking last night)
Goodness me! You sound awfully judgmental. An adult friend of mine who does not drink lost his bank card and only realised when he went to pay for a coffee. I of course bought the coffee, while he went through the palaver of cancelling his card over the phone.
Fadeout83 · 10/04/2022 11:14

@Antarcticant

There are scams involving transfer of money but I can't see how this could be one.

Very easily. If it's a scammer - 'Sorry, I transferred over £3000 instead of £300, could you send £2700 back to me?'

OP sends £2700 back.

The £3000 transferred by mistake is stolen; this gets reclaimed from the OP's bank account leaving her out of pocket. Scammer walks away into the sunset with the cash.

What kind of idiots are we talking about here? Who the hell falls for this kind of stuff.

Honestly you’re just clutching at straws now. This is loopy. A scammer who knew there were lunch plans and decided to pounce by exploiting one of the people going by pretending to be another.

Confused
SlashBeef · 10/04/2022 11:16

Get a grip.

crosbystillsandmash · 10/04/2022 11:16

Poor women.
I hope she cancels and goes for lunch with someone who's a genuine friend (and less of a fun sponge!!)

WhereHasSpringSprungTo · 10/04/2022 11:17

Do what if she was out 'drinking last night' plenty of people lose bank cards.
One of my local fb pages prob has a mention of a lost or found card. And that's in the day so unlikely out drinking!

Keeponmoving2213 · 10/04/2022 11:17

@Fadeout83

Don’t forget that the scammer knows about the lunch plans AND manages to even know the friend with whom the OP is going out for lunch with and manages to message from her number!

Retrievemysanity · 10/04/2022 11:17

Oh dear.

oakleaffy · 10/04/2022 11:17

@Antarcticant

There are scams involving transfer of money but I can't see how this could be one.

Very easily. If it's a scammer - 'Sorry, I transferred over £3000 instead of £300, could you send £2700 back to me?'

OP sends £2700 back.

The £3000 transferred by mistake is stolen; this gets reclaimed from the OP's bank account leaving her out of pocket. Scammer walks away into the sunset with the cash.

Wow! I wasn’t aware of this type of thing. Thanks for heads up.
latriciamcneal · 10/04/2022 11:18

What situation?

RosaBaby2 · 10/04/2022 11:18

What a fucking barrel of fun.

pixietinkdust · 10/04/2022 11:19

I am this friend. I do this all the time.

Thankfully my friends aren’t uppity about it 🙄

latriciamcneal · 10/04/2022 11:19

@Changename111

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues
How could she do that? Is there time to go into a bank with ID?
namechangeanonymous · 10/04/2022 11:20

Is she actually with you?
There is a scam that's going round at the moment so I would be checking it's not that before I did it.
If its genuinely her.. why can't people just help people anymore, it's not hard!

AHungryCaterpillar · 10/04/2022 11:20

What’s the issue? When I lost my bank card the bank actually suggested I transfer money to someone to withdraw it for me. As I explained to them I had no way of getting money.