Would you do this?

[Changename111]

Supposed to be having lunch with a few friends from work. One has just messaged me and said she has lost her bank card so if she transfers money can I withdraw it as cash.
I'm really not happy she's put me on this situation.

Also, how would you suggest she sort it herself? With the magical bank card printing machine she has at home? Pop to the bank branch which is closed on a Sunday? Or ask a friend to pull some cash out for her and transfer it over?

That sounds like a really sensible solution from her. Why are you not happy with it?

I’m going to take a punt
You don’t have many friends?
You live alone?
You had a difficult time at school?

I just can't imagine how you'd find a problem in this. Sounds like the perfect solution to an issue that could affect any of us at any point.

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues

Bother work colleagues? She’s a friend you’re going out to lunch with. It makes complete sense to ask you, since you can then give her the money at lunch. She’s not asking you to lend her money, she will transfer it first.

I lost my bank card once...(I was shopping and therefore it was acceptable). I rang the friend I was due to meet for dinner and explained that as I had no way of paying my share then I would have to postpone it...do you know what my friend said? "Don't worry about it, I'll pay just transfer the money when you get home". You may want to rethink your definition of being a "friend" OP.

Absolute non issue. I'd totally help out a friend in this situation with no judgement.

I'm a grown woman who loses on average one card a year. I do have multiple cards so would just cancel it, use one of the others in the interim and get another.

I would be slightly at anyone who only has access to one bank card because that's always going to trip you up sooner or later but in the situation described, of course I'd accept a transfer and withdraw cash to give her without a second thought.

@Keeponmoving2213

I’m going to take a punt You don’t have many friends? You live alone? You had a difficult time at school?

Haha! Harsh but made me laugh

Sorry OP, you don't seem like the nicest person.

Surely just pay for her and then get her to transfer the exact amount after? And if you don't like her enough to do this, don't spend your time on the weekend with her?

What sort of ffoebd wouldn't do something simple for a mate? Assuming you're not disabled and you're able to get to a cash machine relatively easily, where's the problem here? She's offered to transfer money to you before you withdraw it from an ATM to give to her. It's not going to leave you out of pocket and she may have planned to buy you a drink or something to say thank you.

This is, as others have said, a complete non-issue. If you won't help somebody you consider to be a friend on such a minor issue, then God help them if they're in trouble and REALLY need your help!

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues

If you are close enough to have lunch when them on a Sunday then you are obviously friends, so hardly some far removed ‘work colleague’.
If this is such a bother why are you even making plans with them?

She obviously thinks you’re a friend but you don’t really reciprocate. How else is she meant to get the money? You’re reaction is weird. Tell her to ask someone else as you’re not comfortable.

Op i wouldn't bother going out for lunch if I was you. They would have a better time without you being a misery.

You sound like hard work

I see a potential problem in her going out with say £30 then getting carried away and ordering expensive drinks and food then the bill comes and other people have to cover it, says she'll pay you all back but never does

Just put her lunch on your card and she can transfer you that exact amount, then you don’t even need to go to the ATM.

@LittleRedRidingHood187

I see a potential problem in her going out with say £30 then getting carried away and ordering expensive drinks and food then the bill comes and other people have to cover it, says she'll pay you all back but never does

She’s not saying to pay her back for lunch

She’s saying she will transfer THEN op withdraws as cash

Very sensible

YABU

Who needs enemies.....

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues

It never fails to amaze me how people can't possibly put themselves out to do the simplest of things for others. You also said she was a friend.

@SoManyTshirts

Just put her lunch on your card and she can transfer you that exact amount, then you don’t even need to go to the ATM.

Can you imagine it though

The OP glaring at her if she so much as orders anything other than a side salad

@LittleRedRidingHood187

I see a potential problem in her going out with say £30 then getting carried away and ordering expensive drinks and food then the bill comes and other people have to cover it, says she'll pay you all back but never does

Fascinating and vivid rendition of a Tory cheese dream

@SquirrelG

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues

It never fails to amaze me how people can't possibly put themselves out to do the simplest of things for others. You also said she was a friend.

On mumsnet, perhaps

In the RL, not my experience at all

Well now I’ve read it all on mumsnet.

This could easily be a scam, it's a known method. Are you sure the message is from her? As suggested upthread, phone her first and check it is indeed from her. If it is, genuinely, from her then the next question is how much is she talking about? A small amount could be genuine but a large amount sounds like money laundering for which you could be in trouble.... Just check it all out!