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Would you do this?

338 replies

Changename111 · 10/04/2022 10:17

Supposed to be having lunch with a few friends from work. One has just messaged me and said she has lost her bank card so if she transfers money can I withdraw it as cash.
I'm really not happy she's put me on this situation.

OP posts:
Merryoldgoat · 10/04/2022 10:24

Some people are such miseries.

user1471457751 · 10/04/2022 10:27

You're not much of a friend, are you?

sweetbellyhigh · 10/04/2022 10:27

Honestly I am amazed you have any friends, you really are a mean person.

TheDolphinHotel · 10/04/2022 10:29

Well to answer your question, would I do this? Yes, absolutely, why wouldn't I? What terrible thing do you think is going to happen if your friend transfers money to you and you withdraw it from an ATM? Why is it a 'situation'?

Or are you one of those MN posters who just despises their 'friends' and takes any opportunity to get pissed off with them?

Keeponmoving2213 · 10/04/2022 10:30

Omg

This is so odd

I can’t grasp you even have friends let alone lose enough to go out for lunch

Original poster
Changename111 · 10/04/2022 10:30

Just thought it was an odd request from a grown woman to have lost her bank card (whilst out drinking last night)

OP posts:
RaininSummer · 10/04/2022 10:30

Odd reaction OP. She can transfer by paypal if you don't to give bank details.

ImBurtMacklin · 10/04/2022 10:31

@Changename111

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues
So how would you sort this out yourself then?
Sirzy · 10/04/2022 10:31

Unless you live 50 miles from the nearest cash point then I really don’t see an issue. Seems a sensible way to ensure she can still go.

I went to an event with a friend last year and the card machines where down. Thankfully she had enough cash to lend me some and I transferred the amount straight over. By your logic I should have just left!

dementedpixie · 10/04/2022 10:32

Even grown women can lose things
You seem judgemental about her drinking too
Are you sure you are friends with her?

Merryoldgoat · 10/04/2022 10:32

@Changename111

Just thought it was an odd request from a grown woman to have lost her bank card (whilst out drinking last night)
Ah. And there’s the reality.

Judgement because he went out and got more drunk than you approve of.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 10/04/2022 10:33

I would actually just say don't worry I will pay for it and you can pay next time. Unless of course she needs some cash until her new card comes through, in which case I would help

Brefugee · 10/04/2022 10:33

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues

eh? you are "having lunch with friends from work" - not very friendly, are you?
You could just pay for hers and have her transfer it?

Merryoldgoat · 10/04/2022 10:34

I have two school mum friends and we go out a fair bit.

We often just transfer money between us. It’s a literal non issue.

Keeponmoving2213 · 10/04/2022 10:35

I wonder whether this OPs read the responses and think

“Shit, I really am not a particularly pleasant person”

Or whether they just shrug and think “they’re wrong, i am actually lovely”

MySecretHistory · 10/04/2022 10:35

@Changename111

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues
If you are having such with them then they are friends not simply work colleagues.
TheDolphinHotel · 10/04/2022 10:35

@Changename111

Just thought it was an odd request from a grown woman to have lost her bank card (whilst out drinking last night)
So really you judge her for going out and, gasp, drinking, and don't seem to particularly like her. I'd suggest that you stop making plans with people you only pretend to be friends with, then you won't be put in such difficult 'situations'
CombatBarbie · 10/04/2022 10:38

You sound delightful, have you never lost your phone, purse, bank card? If its a security issue then most banks have PAYM where she can transfer to you from her bank using only your mobile number. (do it for my brother all the time)

Newmumatlast · 10/04/2022 10:38

@Changename111

Just thought it was an odd request from a grown woman to have lost her bank card (whilst out drinking last night)
Please say this to her. Then she can realise your true colours and know not to be your friend.
Savingpeoplehuntingthings · 10/04/2022 10:38

You're not coming across as a very nice person op. Hope you never need help in an emergency!

AChocolateOrangeaday · 10/04/2022 10:40

I've heard it all now.

Grown women can't lose bank cards on a night out?

You have never met me then OP.

YABVU and weird.

I would and have done this many times.

You ain't much of a "friend"

cheeseislife8 · 10/04/2022 10:40

These things happen, it's a complete non issue. She's not suggesting you pay for her, you won't be out of pocket and she can't do anything else to sort it out on a Sunday. I don't see the problem at all

QforCucumber · 10/04/2022 10:40

Have you never lost anything as an adult op?

I forgot to take my card to work the other day as it was in another coat pocket, colleague bought my lunch and I bought hers the next day 🤷🏻‍♀️ I really don’t see the issue

Patty101 · 10/04/2022 10:41

I am a fully grown woman, have been for many years, and I lose my bank card all the time. Only last night in fact did a waitress follow me out of the restaurant waving my bank card at me. I'd dropped it while getting something out of my pocket.

It's a good job my friends are nothing like you or I'd have missed out on a lot of get togethers over the years.

bluebaul · 10/04/2022 10:42

She has hardly asked you to cut off a limb. Some friend you are when you turn to bitching online over something so trivial. I can't wait for your friend to post an AIBU later Grin