Would you do this?

[Changename111]

Supposed to be having lunch with a few friends from work. One has just messaged me and said she has lost her bank card so if she transfers money can I withdraw it as cash.
I'm really not happy she's put me on this situation.

Why does it matter?

If there’s a particular issue with your back, just get one of the others to do it.

What situation has she put you in? You have to go to an ATM, remember your PIN, request cash and give it to her.

I really hope you have free fees or a flat fee on your personal current account. If not, are you going to have to pass on the charges for such an inconvenience?!!!!!

Please post again as I really would live to understand the issue more. She lost her card and is meeting you so it's the simplest way to get money. She isn't even asking to borrow money!

You sound really mean OP - and why can't someone get drunk on a night out?!

I used to work in a bank for many years and the only reason I can think of for not doing this for a friend is the possibility that you have exceeded your overdraft so if they put money in your account you wouldn’t be able to withdraw it.

What else is she supposed to do? Not come? It's not even like she's asking you to pay and then she'll pay you back, she's giving you the money beforehand. The fact you have anything against doing this shows you as not a very nice person

No. I wouldnt do this. Surely she has more than one card.

I think we have all had the moment when we've lost our wallet or card or left it at home. I've been caught out a few times when I'm about to go to lunch and said "damn! forgot my wallet!!" Someone around me has almost immediately said "do you want me to buy lunch and you can pay me back next week?" or similar.

You said, 'a few friends..' but tbh are they when you feel so shocked?

I would happily do this without even requiring the money in advance for (non CF history); family, friends, work colleagues, gym friends, neighbours.

I would happily do this as long as they transferred the money first to strangers who are desperate, especially if it's a lone woman or child. And if it was for something vital like getting home late at night I'd happily pay out of pocket for a lone woman or child/teenager as long as I could afford it

I'm on the fence on this one. I'd wonder why the colleague had asked me out of everyone else. I'm happy to transfer money with family and would for a close friend but not to someone at work if I didn't know them well, hadn't worked there long etc. Also, I can't imagine anyone in this day and age not having a credit card to use in emergencies.

Lol @ op

Thanks for this thread it's given me a good laugh
You are outrageously unreasonable. I am struggling to imagine the type of people who would choose to spend their free time with you. Nowt as queer as folk ey?!

@Changename111

I just think you'd sort this out yourself and not bother work colleagues

Well I wouldn't ring up any old random work colleague but seeing as you are going to lunch together is it possible she has made the perfectly reasonable assumption that you are friends?

@Walkingalot the OP has not been asked to transfer any money she's simply been asked if she can withdraw the money that the friend sent to her. How on earth is this an unreasonable request? I would do this in a heartbeat for anyone I know.

I don't have a credit card.

@Madrenetterhere

Lol @ op

Thanks for this thread it's given me a good laugh
You are outrageously unreasonable. I am struggling to imagine the type of people who would choose to spend their free time with you. Nowt as queer as folk ey?!

So true

@Walkingalot

I'm on the fence on this one. I'd wonder why the colleague had asked me out of everyone else. I'm happy to transfer money with family and would for a close friend but not to someone at work if I didn't know them well, hadn't worked there long etc. Also, I can't imagine anyone in this day and age not having a credit card to use in emergencies.

Because she's going to be at the lunch she needs to pay for? So they can exchange the cash easily. I would have thought it was blindingly obvious why she's asked the OP.

The only reason I wouldn't do this is if I didn't trust the person due to having form for ripping people off or if I really disliked the person.

I can't see why you wouldn't if you know her well and she's your friend.

I can’t believe someone who you were due to go out with would ask you a small favour, how are you going to overcome this massive inconvenience of taking some cash out the machine for her?
Jesus you sound like a grumpy so and so

What a prize friend you are! Or is she just a work colleague, you changed your tune in your follow up posts. Either way, I honestly wouldn’t think twice about doing this for a friend or colleague. How exactly is this going to inconvenience you in any way? Or is there some passive drip feed coming about how it’s a million miles to the nearest cash point or something.

I hope you don’t ever need a favour from someone and they have the opportunity to judge your life choices before the favour is granted. You need to take a look at yourself.

This is so bizarre.

So what did you do op ?

@Changename111

Just thought it was an odd request from a grown woman to have lost her bank card (whilst out drinking last night)

There is an odd person on this thread and it isn’t your colleague

I would do this for a friend or work colleague! I would actually get her to transfer once she knows how much she owes after lunch then you pay for both on your card. She must think you are more then work colleagues if you are having lunch on a Sunday

Poor woman. It’s a perfectly straightforward and polite request. You don’t seem to like her much.

If the friend is an irresponsible sort and I’m too busy with work and so forth, I’d say no. People are rude on here

Well if you were too busy with work you wouldn't be meeting her for lunch.