Stranger telling Dd off, how would you react?

[Whoisdangermouse]

Just want to check if I’ve overreacted. Yesterday I took Dd, 3 to the playground, she found another girl to play with and I was sat chatting to her mum on and off.
Another girl joined in and there was some arguing between her and dd, Dd telling her not to do something and DD’s new friend shouting at her not to aswell.
The new girl went off to play and Dd went to sit on one of those bouncy horse things, her new friend next to her waiting her turn.
New girl came up and started to say it was her turn and was being pretty annoying. I then saw her grandma, I think, she was with grandad and mum-young grandma, late 50’s perhaps, come up to Dd and start waggling her finger in her face telling her off 🤷🏻‍♀️Dd looked pretty shocked and unsure…she was quite aggressive about it. I went over and asked if everything was ok? In a fairly ‘What’s going on’ tone. She looked a bit embarrassed and said everything was fine.
I’m definitely not one to defend dd if she’s being a bugger, as she can be, but she’d clearly done nothing wrong and at 3 shouldn’t have had a stranger telling her off and wagging a finger in her face 🤷🏻‍♀️
Did I overreact? What would you have done?

It doesn’t matter what the kids were saying.

I think people are forgetting they are ONLY 3 FFS.

OP you didn’t overreact, at 3 no adult should be leaning over a 3 y/o waging a finger in the child’s face.

@Wouldntitbenicetobeinyourshoes

Dd telling her not to do something and DD’s new friend shouting at her not to aswell

Poor girl, I’m not surprised the guardian was pissed off when 2 other girls were mean to theirs.

Are you kidding????? Seriously if at that age kids are telling someone theyve done something wrong, you can be pretty sure thry have. Poor girl my ass, she sounds like a brat abd her carers sound like DHs too!

I would probably have told her politely not to talk to my child. I would then have spelled out what had happened and asked her to better control the behaviour of her charge. Yes I dont care if that woukd upset her - she already knows her charge is a brat!

Sounds like the apple didn't fall far from the tree with that family OP. Just reassure your daughter that all was ok and not to get upset about it, you've got her back!!

You're not a shit parent lolz- you're a great mum and dealt very well with it. ^
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She was a nasty woman who let her DGD go round bullying other DCs in the park and encouraging it

Quite right that you stopped her. And you did it well, politely and without actually saying what you were probably thinking ( "back off from my child biatch!"!!)

Sending you 'fab parent award' for keeping your cool but quietly assertively stepping in to prevent a grown ass bossy woman from bullying your child and letting her DGD bully your child.

OP, you were right to intervene. Some people are bizarrely unpleasant to other People’s children if they think they can get away with it. I’m reminded of the time DS and his friend were nearly kicked out of the cinema because some old women was complaining they had taken her seat and it was only because I was there with DD and went over to see what was going on that it was sorted out and the staff bothered to actually check tickets and see that it was the old woman who trying to get in without one. M

Presumably she just didn’t want her granddaughter to have to wait her turn.

Not sure why my post was deleted when we have others talking about chinning and fly kicking to the face. Blimey!

@Whoisdangermouse
Bet you kinda wish you'd never posted now.. :-(
I wish you a chilled, peaceful evening with no MN! :-)

You definitely did not overreact. I'd have been straight over there and said; "Do NOT waggle your bony finger in my daughters face!"

My reaction would have been the same as yours initially.. with a follow up of "Don't tell my child off, if you have a problem with her behaviour, you tell me so i can address it with her"