To divorce him for this?

[Koalah]

I have flu plus an injury which hurts when I cough. Since I lay down in bed I’m huffing and struggling to breathe, sitting up then finally coughing and moaning in pain.

For the past 2-3 hours my husband has been sighing and whinging because I’m stopping him sleeping. Finally I asked him for help. I said I need propping up so I can breathe. He yelled at me well we don’t have any more pillows! So I said we have other stuff like blankets that could prop me up? But he has flung his pillow in my face and said I might as well have it because I’m stopping him sleeping anyway, and he’s stomped off to sleep on the sofa.

I burst out crying because he was so nasty, but he’s just ignored me and couldn’t care less that he’s made me cry. I am breathing a bit better because I’ve managed to prop myself up on his pillow now. Am I totally unreasonable to divorce him? He clearly doesn’t give a shit about me.

Sounds like you are both shattered, grumpy and consequently a bit melodramatic. If this isn't regular uncaring behaviour then ya(perhaps)bu.

I hope you manage to get some rest and feel better soon

It’s the middle of the night and you are both understandably tired. And emotions always run higher at night.

I would sleep on it and have a talk in the morning when you’ve both had some rest.

It would be over as far as I'm concerned. A stranger would show you more compassion than your twat of a husband.

The flu and an injury! He has no excuse for his rudeness and lack of compassion. In what world does he think he can behave like that? Dont bring him up tea or anything. Let him lie there and consider his rudeness.

Not to sound too cold but why didn’t you ask for help as soon as you realised sleeping would be a problem, rather than suffering for three hours.

Sounds terrible for you but I do sort of see where he’s coming from

Dh has a cold and it's keeping me awake tonight, I know it's not his fault but I feel unwell too and really need the sleep. As soon as I drift off he disturbs me again it's bloody irritating. I'd be off to our sofa if it wasn't so freezing cold downstairs.

one wonders why women marry people like this in the first place - surely if this is part of his character you'd already kind of know?
what attracted you to him, father material or financial?

YANBU but I am vile if something is keeping me from sleeping 🙈

I don’t understand why you wouldn’t have thought to prop yourself up before you settled down for the night and understand why your DH will have got stressed if he has to get up early in the morning but shouting at you and chucking the pillow in your face was a step too far. Has he normally got a temper?

What's he usually like, is this out of the norm or is he generally a selfish uncaring sod?

To be honest it is annoying when you are trying to sleep and the person next to you is coughing away, and does your injury mean you can't prop yourself up? Hard to say without context really.

You're an adult. You're capable of sorting out suitable sleeping arrangements.

I got the rage just reading Since I lay down in bed I’m huffing and struggling to breathe, sitting up then finally coughing and moaning in pain.

Sounds like you're constantly moving and performance moaning - like man flu. Man flu gives me the rage.

Bahahaha. You are being overdramatic for thinking about divorce

I HATE when people keep me from sleeping.
If you can't breathe laying down then sleep sitting up on the sofa

Why can’t you prop yourself up? Even if requiring hospital due to injury/illness most people can manage it (god knows there’s generally no one available to help them with it these days).

Are you real? divorce a Husband because you are a bit ill, and he would not get you something to prop you up in bed.. I would have told you to go and sit on the sofa, with some cushions, and leave your husband in peace.

@1forAll74

Are you real? divorce a Husband because you are a bit ill, and he would not get you something to prop you up in bed.. I would have told you to go and sit on the sofa, with some cushions, and leave your husband in peace.

Low standards! Someone’s ill and you expect them to leave their bed and sit on the sofa to give their husband peace tsk

Is this the first night, or has there been a few nights of disturbed sleep for you both? Sounds like you are both sleep deprived and have both overreacted. I would see how things are in the morning.
Obviously if this is a pattern of uncaring behaviour and you are unhappy in the relationship then that is a different matter but divorce over this incident seems a bit dramatic

you should be sleeping on your own
when you're sick you need to sort out better sleeping arrangements and when injured you need to have adequate supplies.
i be livid if my dh whined and asked for stuff willy nilly like this. it's one thing to need extra pillows but then expecting someone to sort out a folded blanket is OTT.
and wtf is putting away all this extra shit in the am when the house gets tidied? sorry but the idea of a huge assed extra duvet thrown about on the floor by am and me expected to fold it THEN the need to wash the damn massive thing....hell no....go to the hospital if you're that ill.

and on your own in your own comfy bed. but you need another set up (pull out or inflatable preferably a spare room).

Well, maybe don't make any decisions tonight you're clearly ill, tired and cross. It sounds as if you need to make some better sleeping arrangements for tomorrow op. It sounds to me as if you're ill and in pain and craving some tlc but your dh is struggling with lack of sleep and feeling irritable as a result.

So many people who need to check their privilege - not everyone has another bed!

It's hard. While I wouldn't ever condone shouting and throwing things, I can be an absoloute bitch when I'm tired.
I am usually a patient, optimistic, happy person, through pain, illness, bad days, but if I've not had enough sleep it almost changes my personality into someone I am not proud of.
How you move on from this depends on how he normally behaves and how apologetic he is in the morning.

Could you not have got yourself another pillow three hours earlier?

Even Assuming OP forgot to take all steps to make sure she was comfortable before lying down, he yelled at her and threw a pillow in her face When she did need help. She is sick and physically handicapped for the time being. I don’t care how and why or the need to sleep. Your partner isn’t well. It’s not unreasonable to ask for a little help. Did he even say ‘are you alright, luv. Can I get you anything before I fall asleep?’ No he did what he did and stomped off. There’s no care or loving attitude on his part. Would be over for me. Treating me like shit when I m sick. So would he expect a BJ when I recover?

Since I lay down in bed I’m huffing and struggling to breathe, sitting up then finally coughing and moaning in pain.

Yeah you'd piss me off too

If you knew that it was uncomfortable to sleep like this you should have sorted it out before you went to bed

You would mightily annoy me too. My husband and I are both extremely touchy about our sleep.We’re fairly self sufficient in this house at nighttime. If I was moaning in pain and needed to be up then I’d sort it myself or apologetically ask my husband to help me as a one off if I needed to move to the sofa etc. I would want to disturb his sleep as little as possible.