To think this is an unacceptable text to send to a child?

[skeeshgal]

My DD is 11, she has her own phone which I check regularly. Tonight I was going through her text messages and one of her cousin's friends who is 8 had text my DD last night. This particular friend is 'best friends' with my niece (DD's cousin) and they have had some falling outs as of late so my DD isn't particularly keen of her. The text exchange went as this -

Niece friend (8) - hi
DD (11) - stop you made my cousin cry so I don't want to talk to you thanks.
Niece friends mum (bloody 30 odd) - This is ** mum, my DD didn't mean to send you that. Deleting and blocking your number now.

I am absolutely fuming, my DD was polite enough - gave the girl a reason she didn't want to speak and said thank you. She is fair enough to say that. I am disgusted that a mum thinks she should insert herself into children's texts like that. Being rude towards an 11 year old. Utterly pathetic.

AIBU??

Yes

@RagzRebooted

Yes

Care to elaborate?

Where was the mum rude?!

You're absolutely fuming?

Goodness me.

No I don’t find it unacceptable, your dd stated she no longer wanted to be friends and her mother advised her number would be blocked to ensure no more contact would happen.

The mum was keeping an eye on her kids phone, saw a message that had potential to upset her child, and said that your dd was getting blocked, obviously to prevent any further trimble.

This is a non issue.

not seeing an issue - the mum said she didn't mean it and prevented her from doing it again - am I missing something?

It sounds as though the mum was trying to stop it escalating.

*trouble

Yabu your daughter is older and should of just ignored.

'Deleting and blocking your number now' as if my DD were the one causing trouble when it was her daughter that text in the first place.

Absolutely fuming, lol

Struggling to find the rude part?!

The mum was being responsible and did the right thing.

Mum’s message was factual.
Your DD’s wasn’t very pleasant.

8 year old seems too young to be texting acquaintances.

DD was a bit blunt / rude, especially as talking to a younger child.

Other parent was a bit blunt but probably best to block numbers to stop her texting people.

All a bit daft and no need to be fuming.

She doesn't round like she is telling off your daughter, just saying that the line of contact will be removed.

Aside from the inappropriateness of an 8 year old having a phone, I don’t think the mum did anything wrong really. She wasn’t rude, just let you know she’d be blocking the number.

Why did she need to say to an 11 year old that she was deleting and blocking her number? Why not just do it if not to cause upset?

You are being unreasonable, your daughter was a bit rude considering the child is 8, but that aside the mum put a stop to it and was polite sounds like the sensible way forward.

This is why 8 year olds shouldn’t have phones.

I am absolutely fuming, my DD was polite enough - gave the girl a reason she didn't want to speak and said thank you. She is fair enough to say that. I am disgusted that a mum thinks she should insert herself into children's texts like that. Being rude towards an 11 year old. Utterly pathetic.

You need to get a grip and have a grasp of reality!

Of course the mother is going to insert herself into her daughters text message, she’s 8 years of age. —not that an 8 year old should have a phone—

I don't read that as rude. The mother said it was a mistake and that she was blocking the number so her DD couldn't message again 🤷‍♀️

I take that as 'I am making sure my dd can no longer contact you' because that's what your dd said she wanted.

What a drama about nothing, the other mum was factual not rude