To think this is an unacceptable text to send to a child?

[skeeshgal]

My DD is 11, she has her own phone which I check regularly. Tonight I was going through her text messages and one of her cousin's friends who is 8 had text my DD last night. This particular friend is 'best friends' with my niece (DD's cousin) and they have had some falling outs as of late so my DD isn't particularly keen of her. The text exchange went as this -

Niece friend (8) - hi
DD (11) - stop you made my cousin cry so I don't want to talk to you thanks.
Niece friends mum (bloody 30 odd) - This is ** mum, my DD didn't mean to send you that. Deleting and blocking your number now.

I am absolutely fuming, my DD was polite enough - gave the girl a reason she didn't want to speak and said thank you. She is fair enough to say that. I am disgusted that a mum thinks she should insert herself into children's texts like that. Being rude towards an 11 year old. Utterly pathetic.

AIBU??

Does the Mum actually know your DD at all? Is she at senior school or primary still? If it is the former then it makes it even more appropriate for other Mum to be deleting and blocking.

Op is only going to reply to the one person who agreed with her and ignore the other and flounce.

Your daughter is presumably at secondary school, why is she getting involved in eight year old dramas? The mum was right to delete and block, your daughter said she didn't want to talk to the child , she made sure the child can't contact your daughter again, so what's the issue?
Do I think eight year olds and even eleven year old need mobile phones probably not

Your dd should have ignored the message.

By saying to an 8 year old that she didn’t want to talk to her is clearly wanting to have the last word and was completely unnecessary.

The mum told your DD that she would be blocking her number now and rightly so.

Tell your dd that A, 8 year old is much younger than her so she needs to think twice about how she speaks to her, and B, to put her petty squabbles behind her.

And you need to get a grip. If you’re annoyed about this you are going to have it so much harder when she goes into secondary.

Loving your work OP, leaping on the single response supporting you but ignoring or attacking every single other one.

Baffled as to why you’d think the other mum’s behaviour unacceptable.

FAQ has this thread sussed!

At least the 8 year old’s mum was supervising her.

Where were you when your child was sending texts like that to an 8 year old?

Ah you're one of those fumin huns

I can't see your issue here. Your daughter set a boundary and the other girl's mother made sure that would be upheld. TBH if anything, maybe your daughter was a bit quick to shut the other girl down. Two sides to every story, and all that. Especially at eight years old!

Eh? An 8 year old child said 'Hi' by text and it gets to FUMING AND DISGUSTED? . Hold on to your knickers elastic OP. You wait until the teenage years!

Yeah... yabu.

Why is some mother getting involved in all this, I am sure it's part of everyday life, when kids are doing texts and saying odd things,

Where's Jeremy Kyle when you need him

@HemanOrSheRa

Eh? An 8 year old child said 'Hi' by text and it gets to FUMING AND DISGUSTED? . Hold on to your knickers elastic OP. You wait until the teenage years!

Absolutely 💯

I am quite sensitive to the harshness you often get on here, but I have to agree with the majority of the pp's.
You were not concerned about the feelings of an 8 year old, but expect everyone to care about your 11 year old.

Of course she inserted herself, they are only 8. It’s probably not ideal she has your DDs number anyway and I’d only allow them to have numbers of people they actually know. Your DD didn’t want to speak her so the mum took care of that. She dealt with it appropriately.

So basically, your daughter wanted the last word, didn’t get it and now you’re pissed off?

I wonder how quickly the OP will 'have some privacy concerns" and the thread will be deleted.

Well obviously neither child is mature enough to have a phone, take them away - problem solved! What possible need do an 11 year old and an 8 year old have for each other's numbers anyway?

The teen years are going to be tough for you!

An 8 year old texted hi to your 11 year old. Your 11 year olds response to wasn’t very nice. The mum got in the middle of it and ended communication.

End of.

There is a lesson here for your daughter in getting involved in younger children’s squabbles.

Three years older is a lot at that age.

It’s best your daughter doesn’t get too involved with these younger children - she could be seen as a bully if she is taking sides

My daughter is 11. This woman is 30 odd. That's my point. Big difference

Tacking 'thanks' onto an incredibly curt message doesn't make it polite, ffs. She was pretty bloody rude, actually. Thank heavens the eight-year-old's mother, at least, was sufficiently on the ball to shut it down - take a leaf out of her book.

You sound absurdly melodramatic and now you're bringing up your daughter to be officious and precious.

FUMING

OP, are you the 11 year old or the 8 year old?

*skeeshgal

spidersenses
I agree. An unnecessarily rude and hurtful thing to say to a child. No need to mention she was deleting or blocking your child's number. Blocking is excessive as well. And I would take it that some blame is being cast at your child.

Precisely*

😂😂 @skeeshgal you’ve literally had one response agreeing with you. Maybe if pretty much 95% of people are telling you YABU, they may have a point

So who'll protect the 8yo from a situation they can't manage themselves.

You certainly didn't.