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Original poster

To say something to nursery queue jumper....

240 replies

NoNow · 08/03/2022 21:02

Hi all!

Queue forms outside nursery gate every day. Two woman are good friends, only one of them will go to where her friend is in the queue, bypassing everyone! I think this is very rude, and it happened again today. (The other friend does not do this, even when beckoned!)
Which means she knows it's not on really....

No one else appears to be that fussed, but it bothers me because I think it's rude!

Should I say something to her?

AIBU?

OP posts:
HereComesSpringAgain · 08/03/2022 21:03

no...leave it. you are potentially going to see a lot of her over the years!

MartinMartinMarti · 08/03/2022 21:04

Agree with PP.

Yes it’s annoying. But you’ll give yourself a tonne of angst in return for occasionally saving a minute or two.

Lazylady76 · 08/03/2022 21:05

Is it worth it.

PeacefulPrune · 08/03/2022 21:07

Yes say something! I'm sure you can just say it politely without making a scene.

Spaghag · 08/03/2022 21:07

Only an issue if she then spends ages chatting to the teacher at the door holding everyone else up.

mistermagpie · 08/03/2022 21:08

It's annoying and she's rude, but it's one of those things that I would have to ask myself 'is it worth the hassle?'. You will probably be crossing paths with this woman at school and all that and it's probably not worth creating an awkward situation, even though you are completely in the right.

DrWankincense · 08/03/2022 21:08

How does it impact on your day?
This is what you have to ask yourself.
Maybe she just wants to stand and chat with her friend?

Maddiemoosmum0203 · 08/03/2022 21:08

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GestationalDiabetes · 08/03/2022 21:11

I would rise above it and ignore it.

whysoserious123 · 08/03/2022 21:12

Annoying. Try and get there before either of them. Problem solved

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NoNow · 08/03/2022 21:13

It's the principle isn't it...you are all probably right that I should just let it wash over me.
She does like to talk a lot, she is the only one you can hear talking all the time 😂

She is a fun person, good to talk to when I have previously.

I guess it's just the fact that I wouldn't do it...why can she?!

I am a fast so I do overtake them on the way back. But at the moment I'm pregnant and suffering from all day sickness and I think that's adding to my huge irritation at the situation.

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buzzzliightyear · 08/03/2022 21:14

Probably just wants to chat to her friend rather than genuinely pushing in. I couldn't get wound up about this.

Scarydinosaurs · 08/03/2022 21:14

This wouldn’t bother me at all. You’re all going to get into the nursery - it isn’t like there is limited availability.

Original poster
NoNow · 08/03/2022 21:14

*fast walker

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SirChenjins · 08/03/2022 21:15

It would wind me up no end and I’d want to say something - but having gone through nurseries, primaries, high schools and universities with mine I can tell you from experience that you’ll see a lot more of this woman over the coming years, and it’s better not to cause a feud which will run and run and affect the children’s friendships. Seethe inwardly and say nothing!

MintyGreenDream · 08/03/2022 21:17

You'll potentially be seeing her til year 6,it's not worth it

OnceuponaRainbow18 · 08/03/2022 21:18

My husband pushes in mainly because he has to go to work for a meeting 10 min after we can drop off at the earliest

FTEngineerM · 08/03/2022 21:22

It’s like when someone squeezes infront of you in a queue of traffic.. crack on hunz that 30 seconds extra isn’t going to affect my day 😂

Isonthecase · 08/03/2022 21:29

Email the nursery and ask them to drop a note round to parents? I'd get the rage too 🤣

Original poster
NoNow · 08/03/2022 21:33

@OnceuponaRainbow18 I'd understand that one if it was explained, but that definitely isn't the case here.

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NoNow · 08/03/2022 21:35

@FTEngineerM That annoys me too, especially with no thanks 😂

I'm taking in what everyone is saying, I agree that it's probably not worth the hassle. But how can I not be annoyed by this? I don't like feeling as though someone is taking the piss.

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NuffSaidSam · 08/03/2022 21:37

This would irritate me too, but there is no way of raising it without making it awkward and it doesn't really matter anyway, leave it.

Do try and make friends with the person most often at the very front of the queue though....problem solved.

chocolateisavegetable · 08/03/2022 21:39

I'd be tempted to get there early and then call all the other parents to the front for a chat, apart from those 2 women. I wouldn't have the guts to do it, and it would be petty anyway, but I would play it out in my head over and over again.

PeaceForUkraine · 08/03/2022 21:42

I’d be fuming inside but keep my mouth firmly shut.

Your children might end up going through school together, they could be friends.

YesIReallyDoLikeRootBeer · 08/03/2022 21:43

I remember someone posting on here that a father was cutting the queue and everyone on MN was furious about it. I'm a little surprised that in this case its no problem for most people because its a mother.