To say something to nursery queue jumper....

[NoNow]

Hi all!

Queue forms outside nursery gate every day. Two woman are good friends, only one of them will go to where her friend is in the queue, bypassing everyone! I think this is very rude, and it happened again today. (The other friend does not do this, even when beckoned!)
Which means she knows it's not on really....

No one else appears to be that fussed, but it bothers me because I think it's rude!

Should I say something to her?

AIBU?

The "my husband pushes in" comment has sent my blood pressure through the roof 😑

My suggestion on how to deal with this @NoNow, is, if you're friendly with any of the other parents in the queue, get to the nursery before the queue jumper and her friend. Then call one of these other parents up for a chin wag as you wait to drop your kids off. Do it often enough and you can be sure you'll be pressing the buttons of the queue jumper and her friend. Without a shadow of a doubt.
If they kick off about it, just say that you had seen them doing it and no one complained and if they have an issue with it, they are free to raise it to the nursery management if they are really put out by it.

@MayorMargeret She doesn't ;), she instead tries to call her friend to come to her where she is in the queue, the friend shakes her head and says no.

The friend knows this is CF behaviour.

@SartresSoul I'm going to use this 😂

@OnceuponaRainbow18 This thread is 50% about your husband now (I agree with posters!)

[quote SheWoreYellow]@hm1610 “Why not leave earlier? How rude.”

I’m reading it as drop off - they get there for the earliest the child can be dropped off, but it’s still tight.[/quote]
So they get there earlier and are already at the front of the queue and don't need to queue jump???

I’m reading it as drop off - they get there for the earliest the child can be dropped off, but it’s still tight.
Just as it might be for the other parents who are pushed to the back of the queue.

Besides which that poster clarified it later that actually they queue jump because they’re extra special and have no need to tell nursery a thing about their children, unlike all the other terrible parents. It’s not about the husband’s meeting at all, it’s about their sense of specialness.

To Very Important Meeting Dad,
Let’s say doors open at 8am.
Here’s what you do:

• Arrive early enough to make it to the front of the queue.
• When the door opens, say goodbye and be on your way at 8.01am

Here’s what you don’t do:

• Arrive at 8.00am and push past everyone waiting to go in.

Hope that helps.

OP, the other Mum’s friend needs to get there earlier too so that she and her friend can join the queue together.

Happens at my DD nursery. Parents sitting in their car at pickup and as soon as they see me pull up, off they go and stand talking for ages to the staff!

I go at different times now to avoid as many parents as possible. Is that something you could do? I'd rather wait at home for 5 or 10 minutes in the warmth than stand outside waiting.

I think they should just get rid of the queue and then I wouldn't be fussed ;)

@stuntbubbles

Nothing to do with specialness but you seriously want to stand there 10 min hearing about every other kids morning when your kid can just walk straight in and wave?!!!

Maybe they should have two entrances, fast track and faffing

If it is just a case of letting your kids bypassing parents having a chat that seems entirely reasonable to me. Boils my piss when parents do this at the start/end of days and you are just standing there waiting for them to finish chatting.

@OnceuponaRainbow18

Why can't your husband arrive earlier so he's the first one there for when they open up?

[quote OnceuponaRainbow18]@stuntbubbles

Nothing to do with specialness but you seriously want to stand there 10 min hearing about every other kids morning when your kid can just walk straight in and wave?!!![/quote]
Want, no. Have to, because there’s a queue, yes. Your kid can’t actually walk right in and wave if there’s a queue. Suck it up and get there earlier, or spank your inner muppet and get over the wait.

@stuntbubbles

Will happily continue doing what we are doing thanks.

But is there a queue because parents are taking more than 30 seconds to drop kids off? It doesn't need to be a performance, give them a shove in the door and job done. Nothing more irritating when you are tight for time in the morning/evening and parents waste 5-10 minutes chatting to the staff holding everyone else up.

If you’re tight for time you leave earlier. That’s just life. It annoys me when I get stuck behind a slower driver than me but it doesn’t mean I can run them off the road because I’m tight for time. It just means I’ve left too late and need to leave earlier.

I wouldn't say anything, but would TOTALLY add her to my mental list of cheeky fuckers and judge her for as long as our paths crossed, which could be many entertaining years.

@Kanaloa

If you’re tight for time you leave earlier. That’s just life. It annoys me when I get stuck behind a slower driver than me but it doesn’t mean I can run them off the road because I’m tight for time. It just means I’ve left too late and need to leave earlier.

Not the same.

If you get stuck behind another driver who has stopped to have a chat do you just wait behind them or go around?

If the poster is just bypassing people fucking about in the mornings having a natter for no good reason I don't see the problem. If it' is a case of there being a big queue of people then yeah, it is rude to walk straight past them.

@CapMarvel

But is there a queue because parents are taking more than 30 seconds to drop kids off? It doesn't need to be a performance, give them a shove in the door and job done. Nothing more irritating when you are tight for time in the morning/evening and parents waste 5-10 minutes chatting to the staff holding everyone else up.

There's not that much chatting, but this particular CF is the chattiest out of everyone, it's only her voice you can hear at drop off and pick up.

It's not taking that long to do the actual drop off or pick up, it's that she's literally bypassing everyone else in the queue and going to the front/ wherever her friend is standing, so still in front of other people who were there before her!

It's rude and the more I talk about it the more angry I get 😂

@OnceuponaRainbow18

My husband pushes in mainly because he has to go to work for a meeting 10 min after we can drop off at the earliest

How annoying that must be for other parents and the nursery staff.

I work in a pre school and this sort of thing is not appreciated I can tell you. Makes the parent seem very self important.

If the poster is just bypassing people fucking about in the mornings having a natter for no good reason I don't see the problem. If it' is a case of there being a big queue of people then yeah, it is rude to walk straight past them.

That’s exactly what her husband does. She says that in her own thread. He pushes past the whole queue because he has an ‘important meeting.’ But yeah, let’s pretend it’s every single other parent who is holding him up, and not him who is pushing past everyone.

And all the ‘every other parent messes around’ only came out after everyone pointed out that her husband doesn’t have the right to push past people because he has an ‘important meeting.’