To be annoyed by DH scoffing birthday chocolates?

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It was my birthday earlier this week and as part of my gifts DH gave me a box of nice chocolates.

I opened them yesterday to have one with our post-lunch coffee (both WFH) and offered him one. He then asked for another, and another, while I only had one, trying to savour them. Then after dinner, he asked for more! I said one each and he got annoyed, saying it was offensive that I wouldn’t share with him. AIBU unreasonable to not want to share my birthday chocolates like this? I would always offer him one of anything I’m eating but he then takes more and more, so inevitably I end up with about one-third of the treats. Since he specifically bought them for me for my birthday, I think I should be able to say no. Or am I being massively petty?

(Mostly lighthearted, as I realise this is a microscopic problem in the wider context! )

Nice gift he bought.....FOR HIMSELF!

You are welcome to share things whenever and with whoever you like, you should never feel compelled to give things away though.
Offering a chocolate when you have one so you can enjoy them together, but he crossed the line when he asked for more (especially as you weren't having more too).
Sharing is not a response to a demand, it must be an offer.

That would piss me right off!

Give him the box. The whole box. Don't eat any more if them yourself. Then ask him if he liked your birthday chocolates.

He's a greedy, selfish man-child.

Sometimes you have to play childish with childish. So cut off your nose to spite your face and see what his reaction is.

But mostly, he is selfish and doesn't seem to mind showing it.

Yanbu, OP! If you can wait, so can he. Cheeky beggar. Tell him he's lucky you are sharing them at all. In fact, maybe you should do a Mrs Trunchbull and stuff your face with all the chocolates, while side eyeing him and mumbling "Not for children".

"Happy birthday to me" sang MrUser when he bought these!

He should have bought an extra box if he'd wanted some. Yanbu

Have you not got any siblings? Did your sibling never make eye contact with you and lick all of the as a child? He's gone low, you go lower Either that or label them all with your name.

I will offer my DH things like that and he'll say "no, they're yours, I want you to enjoy them."

I would have thrown them at him and told him to eat the fucking lot!

@Sciurus83 I do think he sometimes does gifts with half an eye on himself! His go-to gift would be some kind of ‘experience’ gift, like a nice afternoon tea or something, and I do sometimes wonder if it’s because he wanted to do that particular experience! Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always enjoyed them myself & he does pick out some truly lovely things, but sometimes it’s a bit I should say he does also do non-experience gifts. And he is very caring and considerate generally. Just seems to have a blind spot when it comes to food!

He’s greedy and selfish. If I gave my husband chocolates I might accept one if he offered but I certainly wouldn’t ask or take more than one.

Sorry I had to giggle with this one. 🙈
Stop being so precious with a box of chocolates and just enjoy sharing. Sharing is caring and all that

Funny.

If you can afford it, buy him his own box and put it on his pillow in the manor of a fancy hotel gone mental, with a note saying you seem to like these..

Do you not like your husband or something?Why can’t he have the chocolates he’s enjoying just because their your ‘bday’ ones? Are you 5

@AladdinPrincess999

Sorry I had to giggle with this one. 🙈 Stop being so precious with a box of chocolates and just enjoy sharing. Sharing is caring and all that

I am guessing you would be like OPs DH. Eating more of her birthday treat than she does and getting annoyed if nor offered more and more quickly.

Sharing is a choice not a demand. And caring would involve allowing someone their own choices.

@AladdinPrincess999 I agree! I think it was his reaction (saying it was offensive etc.) when I offered the same as I was having - one chocolate - and to be a bit that he demanded more & was then pissed off. Does he also want to wear the earrings he got me?

Hand him the box and say 'Happy birthday '

@Eggs2022

Do you not like your husband or something?Why can’t he have the chocolates he’s enjoying just because their your ‘bday’ ones? Are you 5

So it's ok to give someone a gift then use 2/3s of it?

I love the idea of just shoving the box at him and saying: there you go.

When is his birthday? Buy him a box, then open them and eat them all? Fight fire with fire?

Or just use your words: fuck off, did you buy them for you or me?

My DH is the same, OP.

I commented on the snacking thread the other day that I've got a huge old cash tin with a lock that we have to keep biscuits/chocolate in.

He's just a greedy selfish bastard when it comes to sugar. Thankfully it's one small flaw in a generally good human being.

My dh makes a big fuss about buying me something then eats half. If it's posh crisps he literally shoves them in his mouth. I got a bottle of nice alcohol for Xmas. Kept it to myself and he huffed! Greedy fucker..

I’m so thankful my DH isn’t like this, I’d practically have to force him to have the first one he’d be all ‘no, no, I bought them for you’.

The kids on the other hand would decimate them in a nanosecond. But they’re little and we’re working on it!

If it’s food then yea! Come on they’re chocolates imagine telling a grown man he can’t have another one cos they’re yours, when he was obviously enjoying them… him being called a greedy selfish man by other pps is such an overreaction

@BoodleBug51 Solidarity!

OP LTB this will only escalate next time he will just help himself, probably eat all your favourite chocs or maybe eat the whole lot. Selfish sod🍫🍬 Happy Birthday