To be annoyed by DH scoffing birthday chocolates?

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It was my birthday earlier this week and as part of my gifts DH gave me a box of nice chocolates.

I opened them yesterday to have one with our post-lunch coffee (both WFH) and offered him one. He then asked for another, and another, while I only had one, trying to savour them. Then after dinner, he asked for more! I said one each and he got annoyed, saying it was offensive that I wouldn’t share with him. AIBU unreasonable to not want to share my birthday chocolates like this? I would always offer him one of anything I’m eating but he then takes more and more, so inevitably I end up with about one-third of the treats. Since he specifically bought them for me for my birthday, I think I should be able to say no. Or am I being massively petty?

(Mostly lighthearted, as I realise this is a microscopic problem in the wider context! )

I'm with you

My DH would not do this and I would have to press him to have any of them , we always share but if he bought me something like this he would be "No I bought them for you to enjoy"

Those saying you are BU - if it was a friend and not her DH doing this would you think her friend would be ok to eat 2/3 of chocs given as a gift ?

The point here isn't the chocolates, it's that someone, you're supposedly in tune with, taking liberties that you wouldn't accept from a stranger. Just because it wouldn't bother YOU is totally irrelevant.

Yes!

If I buy my DP something he loves I'll have one when he offers and refuse any more because I bought them for him and I want him to enjoy them, they're his treat

My DH would not do this and I would have to press him to have any of them , we always share but if he bought me something like this he would be "No I bought them for you to enjoy"

My DH and I are the same way. We offer each other and no one gets the hump because someone says no about their own things. It’s mutual respect.

Also, if it's to share why is it a birthday present? You buy other things, such as a birthday cake or food for a birthday dinner maybe, on top of a present because the idea is it will be shared - you don't buy a birthday cake as a present immediately thinking 'I'll have a slice of that'.

@AladdinPrincess999

Sorry I had to giggle with this one. 🙈 Stop being so precious with a box of chocolates and just enjoy sharing. Sharing is caring and all that

@AladdinPrincess999 “enjoy sharing” why should she? It’s not even sharing seeing as he’s eating the fucking lions share!

@NETSRIK

Just share them and buy another box. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@NETSRIK cos everyone’s got the money and time to just go out and buy another expensive box of chocs just because their partner is a greedy guy who can’t keep his hands off someone else’s gift. Fuck that

@Eggs2022

Do you not like your husband or something?Why can’t he have the chocolates he’s enjoying just because their your ‘bday’ ones? Are you 5

@Eggs2022 Presumably she’s enjoying them too just not eating them at the same (greedy) pace. Why should his enjoyment trump hers?! Because he has a penis? Oh and they are her ‘bday ones’ because they were bought for her as a gift for her birthday.

@Pyewhacket

They wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes in our house.

@Pyewhacket why?

@Hugsgalore
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My god the responses here are making me laugh! It's a box of fucking chocolates!! Get over yourself. And also one chocolate at a time ffs! Are you trying to make them last until your next birthday confused

Eh?! What do you do then cram more than on choc in your mouth at the same time?!

When you say ‘it’s a box of fucking chocolates’. Well yeah but most people don’t have a box of chocolates in the house every week or even every month. They’re a treat typically given as a gift for a special occasion. So OP isn’t being weird or petty for wanting to savour them and enjoy them in her own and have the majority of them because errr they were bought as a GIFT for HER!

Honestly, I don’t get it. I wouldn’t care if any of my family did that, I’d think “good, they like the chocolates”. If I felt like I missed out, I’d send him to get more.

Having said that, I remember feeling enraged when someone I was seeing did something similar. Gave me a box of chocolates, I opened them to have with coffee and he proceeded to eat 2/3 of it, not joking. He was eating fast, as if trying to compete with me, it was repulsive. Thankfully I didn’t waste my time on him for much longer after that, but the memory of it is still as repugnant as ever.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that this situation may have brought to light some deeper issues…

@AnybodyAnywhere

My birthday was earlier this year. Our neighbour gave me a Cake the day before, just a supermarket one but a lovely thought and I was really touched 😊.

Just been diagnosed borderline T2 diabetic so given up sugar and wouldn’t eat it….in his defence DH knows this..but I was going to put it out on the table when friends came round for Birthday tea.

I woke up to this.

I just cannot get past this abomination.

Sorry @AnybodyAnywhere but please tell me he is under the patio already?

DH once bought me chocolates for my birthday (only present from him and kids) and when I went to the cupboard to get them out they had gone....DH enjoyed them though.....

@Faywithoutane

DH once bought me chocolates for my birthday (only present from him and kids) and when I went to the cupboard to get them out they had gone....DH enjoyed them though.....

Did you say anything?

@Faywithoutane

DH once bought me chocolates for my birthday (only present from him and kids) and when I went to the cupboard to get them out they had gone....DH enjoyed them though.....

@Faywithoutane What a selfish dick

I did, and I still do like to mention it every now and again to him 😂

@Faywithoutane

I did, and I still do like to mention it every now and again to him 😂

What was his reasoning/excuse for doing it?

Omg. Luckily dp and I have different preferences in chocolate here, but we definitely do not share our present chocolate, we don’t even offer

He's greedy and you're mean. Not a good combination.