To flick my daughter the V behind her back?

[AvocadoHo]

For context, she's 8 (going on 15 with the attitude and arguing that black is white just for the sake of it) she made some such comment on the way home from school today so I flicked her the v out of pure frustration!

She didn't see. (And even if she did probably has no idea what it means)

BUT.... another mother in the school run saw and I got the filthiest look!

@ravenmum

A bit weird to do it on the school run where other mums and thus presumably also children can see you.

But living very long in a country where it's the middle finger or nothing, the V sign just seems ineffective now.

No its not weird ! You are a human being , and any mother judging you , well up yours to them too. You must be Mary Poppins if you've never done it or swore at them , under your breath.

I also do this to DH and to various people down the phone

Jeez I've done it so many times, even sworn under my breath just to get the frustration out of me. And there have been times Iv got really cross and have had to go into another room and let all the expletives out!
I'd rather do it this way than in front of my kids.

Yep got to admit I do this a lot behind their backs.

Oh totally! I'm a big fan of giving big long Vs all the way down the stairs when DC is (finally!) tucked up in bed if they are being an arse

No its not weird ! You are a human being , and any mother judging you , well up yours to them too
I'd expect my children to learn rude gestures or swearwords from other children at the school. That's not weird.
I'd be surprised if they learned them from other parents on the school run. I'd find that weird.

My mum has MH issues and can be very, very testing. So everyone does it behind her back which makes us happy and stops us from having a mental breakdown.

@MrsDeltaB
I too have this dance!

Horrible tbh
Sorry
Hope that makes you think twice

@AvocadoHo

I would just like to stress, I wouldn't dream of doing it to her face and I never verbally swear at her.

It was just frustration and annoyance at her attitude and it diffuses the feelings in me, a way to let off steam.

The best time to do it to their face is when they are leaving in a car or bus, then you just slip it into the wave good bye. I always got a fleeting puzzled look from my child. Well worth it.

@Thenose

How would you feel if your partner did the same thing to you in front of the school mums? Would it be okay as long as you didn't see it?

How do you think your daughter will feel if the other mum's kid tells her: "My mum said your mum is horrible 'cause she tells you to fuck off; my mum would never do that"?

I would teach my daughter the words to 'Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way' for just such occasions! I would also make sure she knows how to raise her eyebrows, look the other child up and down very slowly and say 'Oh, you really think she wouldn't or hasn't'?'

@Lovemattersmost

Horrible tbh Sorry Hope that makes you think twice

Hope that hair-shirt isn't too uncomfortable!

@forlornlorna mooned that's hilarious

I would teach my daughter the words to 'Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way' for just such occasions! I would also make sure she knows how to raise her eyebrows, look the other child up and down very slowly and say 'Oh, you really think she wouldn't or hasn't'?'

These posts are where threads like this really jump the shark, because no, of course you wouldn’t do this. Pure fantasist shit.

YABU - why would any adult do that gesture never mind to a child and in front of others

@ABCDEF1234

YABU - why would any adult do that gesture never mind to a child and in front of others

Because people are annoying as fuck!

@Lovemattersmost

Horrible tbh Sorry Hope that makes you think twice

Not really.

Yeah, this is one of those parallel universe threads where if I answer honestly that I’ve never done this, and never seen anyone else do it, I’ll be labelled a sanctimonious twat. No ta. Crack on.

@BarkminsterBlue

I would teach my daughter the words to 'Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way' for just such occasions! I would also make sure she knows how to raise her eyebrows, look the other child up and down very slowly and say 'Oh, you really think she wouldn't or hasn't'?'

These posts are where threads like this really jump the shark, because no, of course you wouldn’t do this. Pure fantasist shit.

You may think that, I could not possible comment.

You are not a true parent until you have done that to your kid(s) at least once!

Oh. I'm not a "true parent", then. Whatever that means.

I do this frequently 😂 makes me feel so much better! 🤣

@SallyAnn32

I do this frequently 😂 makes me feel so much better! 🤣

Haven't done it on the school run but I have given another mum the eye roll in despair at my kids. If I saw a mum do this to her child at school I'd high five them 👏🏻

Would you do this to your OH in public?
How would you feel if he did that in public?

Why is it different for a child?
How would you feel if your child did that behind your back but other parents and children would see? Is that OK?

It's is a disrepectful gesture and I wouldn't think much of somone who did that to their child in public.

'I would teach my daughter the words to 'Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way' for just such occasions! I would also make sure she knows how to raise her eyebrows, look the other child up and down very slowly and say 'Oh, you really think she wouldn't or hasn't'?'

Would be quicker to reach her a head tilt and tinkly laugh

Anyone who says they haven't done it is lying. No judgement here OP 🤷‍♀️