To flick my daughter the V behind her back?

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For context, she's 8 (going on 15 with the attitude and arguing that black is white just for the sake of it) she made some such comment on the way home from school today so I flicked her the v out of pure frustration!

She didn't see. (And even if she did probably has no idea what it means)

BUT.... another mother in the school run saw and I got the filthiest look!

Yeah done that & who cares what this other mum thought but tbh, you need to get to the bottom of her behavior towards you, 8 is quite young to be an stroppy teenage terrorist, mine was around 11 or 12 or maybe i was lucky!

I’d laugh if I caught someone doing this, there’s a whacking great chasm between letting off a little steam unbeknownst to the child and being abusive.

My dd (6) embraced being a threenager and never really gave it up. She dishes out the attitude and sass frequently now; I’m a perfect adult and calmly set her her straight about acceptable and expected behaviours but she’s often called a knob out of earshot when she’s literally just been a massive knob!

We've all done it op. I've done it many times

A bit weird to do it on the school run where other mums and thus presumably also children can see you.

But living very long in a country where it's the middle finger or nothing, the V sign just seems ineffective now.

I do it too. I also say fuck off into the fridge.

do you think the other mother thought it was meant for her?

I wouldnt necessarily think someone was immature, mature enough to find a harmless outlet for a build up of frustration rather than shouting or arguing.
I used to do it specifically to diffuse my frustration to enable me to keep things calm enough to have another go at dealing with the behaviour later.
I also do it to the cat when she poos in the bath.

I remember I gave dh the finger and dd1 who was about 18 months old saw me and tried to do it with her index finger. I found that hilarious. I made sure she didn't see me doing it after that

Certainly done similar a few times … the other mum will learn

I’ve done it to my elderly df’s back when he’s complained for the umpteenth time about something.
Only in the house though.
If it avoids me falling out with him then it’s a better option.

I've thought it.

I’ve flicked the double Vs behind their back many many times. And the dance😂

Frequently.

It's come to a point now where DS2 and I often greet each other with a middle finger and a grin. It's lost all meaning!

standard practice

I've mooned at mine

BUT.... another mother in the school run saw and I got the filthiest look!

Should've flicked her the V too!

Pleased I'm not the only one on the V dance!

C'mon, sometimes we all must have "you ungrateful/smart ass/any other irritation" and I would far rather do a silent V than say anything to continue whatever heated discussion was happening.

And it's only ever been done at home simply because all my girls are sodding angels outside of home and no one ever believes me when I say they can be little sh 1 t's!

Please let's not turn up noses for differing views on how to let off a momentary blast of steam!

You are not a true parent until you have done that to your kid(s) at least once! Why shouldnt you?! Kids can be bloody annoying!! I told my DS (now 20) about doing it when he was younger and he laughed sooo hard! He knows now he was contemptible as a pre-teen and young teen so he can empathise with me a bit now! I also told him about the times when he was a young one I had to occasionally lock myself in the loo and scream into a towel (single parent at the time, it was a LOT) and he was genuinely concerned and interested in my experience of early parenting. What I’m saying in a long winded way is that ‘this too shall pass’ & I think you probably deserve not to sweat the small stuff. Happy parenting lol

Yes, I've also done the banging two fists together thing which is the Ross and Rachael from Friends version of oh fuck off

You are not a true parent until you have done that to your kid(s) at least once!
What nonsense.

i thought this was an old thread,
sounds familiar,

familiar scenario obviously

Fabulous

I really wanted to give the fingers to a couple of little shits who wouldn't let my 4 year old play with them in the park today

Love this, I have flagged my daughter behind her back on numerous occasions. Usually with my husband when she is being a proper madam. Glad I am not the only parent. 🤔😅🤣😂