To flick my daughter the V behind her back?

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For context, she's 8 (going on 15 with the attitude and arguing that black is white just for the sake of it) she made some such comment on the way home from school today so I flicked her the v out of pure frustration!

She didn't see. (And even if she did probably has no idea what it means)

BUT.... another mother in the school run saw and I got the filthiest look!

@RussianSpy101

What *@WindyState* said!!

Anyone who says they don’t is a LIAR 😂

Rubbish. I've never flicked a V at anyone ever. I've never sworn at anyone ever. I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times I've even uttered a swear word at myself or as part of a conversation. It's just not the way I was brought up so it's never been in my nature. My kids are the same in the house. I dare say they're not when they're out with their mates.

I’ve not done it.
I don’t flick v’s or do the middle finger thing to anyone. It’s still feels tough as fuck if I’m honest.

I’ve sworn under my breath and I’ve yelled at them.

@MrsDeltaB

I have a double V dance! Both hands up and down alternating! Really does help get rid of the angst and stops me shouting!

I have three girls. I use it. A lot!

Yes, me too!

Those pious, perfect parents who are aghast at the idea of flipping the V behind their kid's back are not my people

and all the parents who do this to their children, or call their 18 month old a twat , are definitely not my type of people.
I’m not pious or perfect, I regularly mutter FFS under my breath, but wouldn’t direct it at DC.

I do the Ross off Friends thing so it’s not technically swearing so I don’t feel so guilty but it still makes me feel better and it makes me smile.

One day she’ll replay the compliment…to another adult.

Just be prepared.

I do it to my cat (childfree) and even to annoying text messages: I agree it harmlessly lets off steam; I have no doubt the cat does the feline equivalent to me?

'One day she'll see...' and what will happen? Terrible emotional damage? Give over... sometimes we are all annoying. And you know what, sometimes every single one of us could use hearing that they we are annoying someone else, because that way we learn we aren't perfect, the world doesn't revolve around us and we might need to adjust our behaviour.
And guess what, sometimes our parents might even find us annoying and get cross. But as long as they later show us they love us, despite how annoying we may have been, no one is going to die from having two fingers stuck up at them once in a while.
Seriously.

I love this, but how different would it be if written by a stepmother. She’d be crucified. I am that stepmother and they’ve had the vs behind their back too many times to mention, I’m pretty sure I’ve had worse back!

I scream FUCK OFFFFFFFFFFFF silently when they leave the room sometimes

I'm actually thinking of getting exclamation marks tattooed on my middle fingers

I do it to my cat (am childfree): it certainly helps let off steam!

I called my 18 month old an arsehole when he woke me up for the 3rd time in one night and still doesn't sleep through!
I was very tired and cranky

To other people yes, never to my kids. It's a horrible thing to do.

I wouldn't crucify you, Jenny.

It's not a big deal.

I do it a lot. There’s even a certain business near me that gets the one finger salute every time I go by. DH is horrified.

The only thing you did wrong was not flick another V at the judgmental mother. Clearly she's never had to deal with a teenage daughter.

I love a good swear and am no prude but no, I’ve never done this and I’ve never seen anyone else do it. I’m also not a liar.

@Phobiaphobic

The only thing you did wrong was not flick another V at the judgmental mother. Clearly she's never had to deal with a teenage daughter.

The child is eight.

Doing v signs behind their backs just feels really childish to me, I can only really imagine doing it to my mum as a teenager. It's just passive aggressive and achieves nothing, better to actually deal with the problem behaviour IMO. I'd also be really embarrassed if someone saw me doing that and I'd think they were very immature if I saw someone else doing it.

And I've been frustrated and told them off course but I think it's the fact that they don't know what you're doing. Not that it's right to do it to their face. Just not right at all, sorry.

YANBU but never in public 😬

@Fluffycloudland77

I give dh the finger when his heart is playing up and he’s not very nice to live with. Then I feel immediately guilty as fuck & apologise to god.

Rinse and repeat. He’s pampered the rest of the time and I love him unconditionally, but FUCK ME it’s hard living with the sword of Damocles hanging over us on a fraying rope.

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My dad used to do it to the retreating backs of the occasional patient when he was a GP, he was a big Basil Fawlty fan.
I do it too and various other rude things like cathartic swearing and tongue sticking out, anything to depressurise.

I have an abiding memory of inhaling a curly wurly and flicking the Vs at dd as she had the mother of all tantrums in her room. Kids can be arseholes.