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DSD booked afternoon tea but not paid

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bluefloweronyellow · 03/02/2022 23:18

So it's my birthday on Saturday. DSD and her DH have booked me and DH in for posh afternoon tea on the Sunday afternoon at top restaurant.

I thanked her tonight for such a thoughtful gift etc and asked her to clarify time and is there a reference number for the gift etc

She gave me a photo of the reservation booking and said it's all booked under my name and have a wonderful time I just have to pay on the day Confused

So the gift is she reserved a table. This is so like her. She genuinely thinks she's given me a gift. I gently asked again, to be clear, I pay on the day and yes, that way I can have whatever I want.

I'm just flabbergasted.

AIBU (clearly fucking not but feel free to comment if you disagree)

Oh, and I'm going to go as I do like the place and you do have to book well in advance but never heard that making a reservation is the gift!!!!

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MiddleParking · 03/02/2022 23:19

Batshit mental. How old is she?


Peridot1 · 03/02/2022 23:19

That’s bonkers!


T00Ts · 03/02/2022 23:19

Wow. And she’s genuinely under the impression that that is a gift?


Scoot75 · 03/02/2022 23:19

That is shocking! Please tell me you're not going? What does your DH say?


Userblabla · 03/02/2022 23:19

Sorry OP but this is absolutely hilarious. This is the kind of thing my cousin would do to her Mum Grin


AnneLovesGilbert · 03/02/2022 23:21

The nerve! I hope you’ll do the same for her next birthday?


Ileflottante · 03/02/2022 23:21

What does your husband say? Can he point out to his daughter that phoning up and asking for a table and giving a name is not a present? How can she be so dense? I’m astonished.


FangsForTheMemory · 03/02/2022 23:22

I hope you're going to cancel!


bluefloweronyellow · 03/02/2022 23:22

She's 32 and dense. Not mean or anything but not a thinker.

She genuinely thinks she's given a gift.

DH rolled his eyes.

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PugInTheHouse · 03/02/2022 23:22

That is not a gift Shock


T00Ts · 03/02/2022 23:22

Fuck, I how she reads this thread. Is she tight or stupid? Or a bit of both? 😬


CaroleFuckingBaskin · 03/02/2022 23:22

Omg hilarious 😂


T00Ts · 03/02/2022 23:23

not a thinker Grin


InisnaBro · 03/02/2022 23:23


Batshit mental. How old is she?

Old enough to have a husband!

OP, you have to point out that it isn’t a present if you’re paying for yourself!

toomuchlaundry · 03/02/2022 23:23

Wow! DH is going out for lunch to a fancy restaurant with his DM to celebrate her birthday tomorrow. He has sorted this out as his birthday gift to her. There is no way he would expect her to pay for her meal.

How can she think the reservation is a gift?


CaroleFuckingBaskin · 03/02/2022 23:24

Book her a 3 night stay at the ritz for hers


Westerman · 03/02/2022 23:24

I have no words!


KilmordenCastle · 03/02/2022 23:24



TrashyPanda · 03/02/2022 23:24

Now you know what to give her for her birthday.
A reservation at a nice restaurant.
And, guess what? You can get her a reservation at a different place for her Xmas pressie.


sonypony · 03/02/2022 23:24

Grin yanbu but that is very funny. Hope you have a lovely time and treat yourself!


MaryGubbins · 03/02/2022 23:24

Is she going to perhaps give you the cash for it on the day?


EezyOozy · 03/02/2022 23:24

Oh god, I think this might be the worst birthday present I've ever heard of. 🤣🙈 sorry Op. if I was you I wouldn't go!


ShirleyPhallus · 03/02/2022 23:25

I don’t see the problem, this is a lovely thoughtful gesture? Is there a problem because she’s your step daughter, perhaps you’re jealous?

Just joking, wanted to add some colour to an otherwise unanimous YANBU thread Grin obviously that’s utterly shit


DaisyChains3 · 03/02/2022 23:25

Book her a weekend at a very expensive hotel as a ‘present’ and leave her to pick up the bill. She might get the message.


bluefloweronyellow · 03/02/2022 23:25

This could start a whole new trend of gift giving.

Just reserve it and pass it on.

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