DSD booked afternoon tea but not paid

[bluefloweronyellow]

So it's my birthday on Saturday. DSD and her DH have booked me and DH in for posh afternoon tea on the Sunday afternoon at top restaurant.

I thanked her tonight for such a thoughtful gift etc and asked her to clarify time and is there a reference number for the gift etc

She gave me a photo of the reservation booking and said it's all booked under my name and have a wonderful time I just have to pay on the day

So the gift is she reserved a table. This is so like her. She genuinely thinks she's given me a gift. I gently asked again, to be clear, I pay on the day and yes, that way I can have whatever I want.

I'm just flabbergasted.

AIBU (clearly fucking not but feel free to comment if you disagree)

Oh, and I'm going to go as I do like the place and you do have to book well in advance but never heard that making a reservation is the gift!!!!

[CustardySergeant]

@tiktokontheclock

"Apologised for the mix up".

It wasn't a mix up, OP.

"DSD apologised for the mix up and she meant it."

But there wasn't any "mix-up". It says in the OP
"She gave me a photo of the reservation booking and said it's all booked under my name and have a wonderful time I just have to pay on the day" so it was clear that the DSD fully intended that it was the OP who should pay for her own afternoon tea, so where's the "mix-up"?

[CailleachGranda]

Wonder what the whole point of this thread was?

OP thought it was what? Funny? Flabbergasting? Strange? Cheeky?

But then it all worked out, everyone was happy and probably gave the DSD a round of applause for being so cute

Ok

[Parpophone]

@lovescaca

Just dnt go

Just read the thread.

[lovescaca]

Just dnt go

[montysma1]

Thats because DSD is dense.

[Rossnagoose]

I’m trying to imagine my life would have ben like if people were this invested in protecting me from any realisation of the consequences of my ‘mix-ups’ at the age of 32.

[tiktokontheclock]

"Apologised for the mix up".

It wasn't a mix up, OP.

[Lottiethelemming]

This post made me giggle. Thank you OP! Your DSD is obviously a lovely person, if a bit thoughtless!

[JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon]

@bluefloweronyellow

Had a lovely champagne afternoon tea. All paid for. Met with DSD and her DH later for cocktails, which was fun. DSD apologised for the mix up and she meant it. Everyone merry and happy.

Thanks to all who have followed and contributed and hoped I would have a good day. Very kind and I'll glad to report I did.

This thread went a bit strange at times with assumptions on DSD and her motives, mental health, intellectual capabilities, parenting capabilities and with one poster even saying she was really an escort. Bizarre projections. She can be exasperating at times but has a good heart.

We're happy, DSD and her DH are happy and do hope all those who have stuck with this thread are happy too.

I'll be name changing after this and going back to MN obscurity.

Wishing everyone a great day.

You're deluded!

[Rainallnight]

I’m with @RussiasGreatestLoveMachine. Very disingenuous of you, OP. I imagine you probably felt a bit guilty when you saw the reaction so felt the need to backpedal. But no need to make it all our fault.

[Leighcloon]

@sue20

My daughter a bit younger and wouldn’t do that but I think at that age there is still a big level of unworldliness. I would humorously say thanks for the trouble of booking and you are using that but just for future reference it’s not really a done thing .

At 32???

[IntermittentParps]

I think at that age there is still a big level of unworldliness.
At 32?!?!
You're having a laugh.

[Silversprinkles]

@sue20

My daughter a bit younger and wouldn’t do that but I think at that age there is still a big level of unworldliness. I would humorously say thanks for the trouble of booking and you are using that but just for future reference it’s not really a done thing .

@sue20 the DSD is 32?! How old does she have to be to realise presents should be paid for??

[Silversprinkles]

@RussiasGreatestLoveMachine

Literally inviting people to pile on!

OP: Isn’t my DSD a piece of work?!

MN: She sure is!

OP: No she’s not, she’s lovely, nothing to see here!

Quite.

[CailleachGranda]

GrannytoaUnicorn

It says it in the second sentence of the very first post

[GrannytoaUnicorn]

@T00Ts

Maybe try “hey toots, I know you’re pretty and all that but you do know this isn’t actually a present? You may as well have booked me a taxi. Or flagged down a bus and said ‘you’re welcome’.”



What’s her financial situation? Or rather, what’s her husband’s financial situation?

Where does it say she has a husband?

[GrannytoaUnicorn]

@Twinstudy

You do sound lovely op and it's nice that you're taking it so well but I do kind of think maybe someone needs to say something to her?! Not everyone is as kind as you are she might really offend someone one day!

OP sounds lovely? She just called her step daughter dense

[sue20]

My daughter a bit younger and wouldn’t do that but I think at that age there is still a big level of unworldliness. I would humorously say thanks for the trouble of booking and you are using that but just for future reference it’s not really a done thing .

[Leighcloon]

People are protective of her as she has an innocence about her but at the same time she always lands on her feet and navigates the world with an airy confidence.

Yeah, I'll bet she lands on her feet. I imagine I'd 'navigate the world with an airy confidence' as well if battalions of people conspired to mean there were no consequences to my 'denseness'...?

[LizzieW1969]

DSD’s DH paid in the end, sorting things out for her which it sounds like he does regularly.

OP says that DSD apologised, whether she’s actually learned anything from this is another matter.

But at least OP had a very nice birthday treat.

[Leighcloon]

Uh, who actually paid for it in the end???

[Bignanny30]

It’s so funny because she doesn’t actually realise her error!

[Roadtripconcept]

Happy birthday OP . I'm glad everything worked out in the end . Thanks for keeping me entertained on a cold, windy, Sunday 🎂🍷🎁 .

[velvet24]

What the fuck? Is she stupid???!!

[IntermittentParps]

Glad you had a nice time. But I stand by my opinion that she's being woefully enabled by everyone else in her life, and if she were male/unpretty/older/all of the above, things would be different.