How much will you be willing to spend to attend a wedding.

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This is inspired by BIL who has decided he’s having a destination wedding. The wedding itself is on Boxing Day but it’ll be a 4 day event, according to him, we’ll explore the location, etc. Flights and the wedding hotel cost for my family (4 of us) has come down to almost £8000. We’ll still pay for the activities, etc as well.

I’ve obviously said there’s no way Im spending that on a wedding but he still thinks we’re just not making an effort to save for it, he’s quite entitled!

So just curious, how much will you be willing to spend to attend someone’s wedding?
For voting,
Yabu- £8k is not a lot
Yanbu- he’s got to be kidding

I love destination weddings! One of the best weddings I went to was abroad, they are so much more fun and relaxed than UK ones I've been to. But destination weddings are only good if you don't stipulate the duration and accommodation for guests so they have the freedom to come within their own budget and timescale.

Choosing a ridiculously expensive Caribbean island during an expensive holiday period would be a dealbreaker for me. I wouldn't spend £8k to go to the wedding and he shouldn't expect you to.

Even the most loaded people I know would just laugh if asked to spend £8k to attend someone's wedding, so I can't imagine who would go for it.
I've probably spent over a grand for some but that's including the hen do. Much less if not going to that.

I spent that to go to a wedding, but we had 3 weeks holiday, travelled around a country I’d always wanted to see and did loads of things I’d never otherwise have done. For a wedding weekend alone that’s madness.

I'm in a similar situation with my cousin who's getting married abroad
We really can't afford it and it's not how we'd choose to spend our money and it's caused a huge argument 😩

Ah well she'll get over it but 4 of us to Florida for 2 weeks was looking like £10-12k and we just can't do it at the moment

I’m actually remembering that I went abroad for my sisters wedding. We had 2 years notice though. And not everyone could afford to go, which she didn’t mind at all (I actually think that she preferred it and that’s why she went away).
She would have understood if I couldn’t go. But it didn’t cost anywhere near that much, I stayed for 1 week and didn’t have to fall in line with any “activities” apart from the wedding of course.
She didn’t, and never would dictate where I stayed.
There’s no way she would have “expected” anyone to go for £8k. That’s ridiculous.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with destination weddings, if that’s what the couple want. I do think they have to accept that people won’t be able to attend, and they shouldn’t pressure anyone! Thats so unreasonable it’s unreal.

Being invited to a wedding is not a privilege - it's a bloody expensive obligation - I've given people a very generous gift to compensate for my absence - bloody awful things.

200 present
200 dress etc..
300 Hotel?
Probably around 700 euro here in Ireland. Most likely more though with drink etc... about 1000 euro.