To not want PIL so close

[ToocloseMIL]

NC as possibly outing and don't want linked to other posts. My PIL currently live about 15-20 minutes away from us. They have recently accepted an offer on the home they've lived in for many years as are looking to downsize. The other day I asked DH about whether they had found anywhere to buy yet and he looked a bit sheepish and said he'd been 'meaning to mention' they've had an offer accepted on a house that is basically opposite us.

I feel like this is too close! I know IWBU to think I could have a say over where they live, but AIBU to feel annoyed? Or am I being mean?

My parents moved in a 5 minute walk away from us just weeks after we moved into our house. It was great because my mum was my best friend and saw each other most days . It was me going to see her in the main . My dad was not working due to ill health so there was always someone home , this meant that from the age of about 6 my children were free to go and see their GP whenever they wanted to . This was the 1980s so all children had that sort of freedom.
Later when I became a nurse and the kids were teenagers , they often called into my parents for their tea if I was working a late shift .
It also meant that when DM was dying of breast cancer I could care for her at home instead of her going into a hospice . It wouldn't bother me if family moved in opposite or next door.

Annoying and disrespectful in many ways, mainly :

DH basically lied by omission - and probably for months! Buying a house isn't a quick process.
PIL have little to no consideration for you - if they did, they would have talked with you and DH about this together - it's a BIG deal to move opposite (20 mi s would've toosefor me for my own parents and PIL!!)

I'd be putting my house on the market and moving, with or without DH.

@Eustaciavile

The drama!!! Unless your in laws are truly awful people (which is a subjective judgement I suppose) just be happy that your children will be close to their GPs, then get along like normal people do 🤣🤣🤣 If they pop over too much, just talk about it.

No need to sell up for goodness sake!!

Agree with this!

However it is not right that you were not told what was happening!!

Sorry I've not been back to this. It looks like I am saved - apparently something has fallen through/gone wrong as the house opposite has been taken off the market (strangely DH remembered to tell me this particular development quite quickly!!). Am hoping they find something else soon in case it goes back up for sale again!

Phew!
Have you decided what you are going to do about your husbands behaviour? Because that is as big an issue tbh