AIBU to think that fat women are overlooked?

[Mylittleponyskinnyandbony]

I didn't use to be fat.
In my twenties I was slim - curvy but slim.
I could lie down and my stomach would dip in as I had so little fat on me.
Fast forward twenty years.
Add in three children.
Add in depression and emotional eating.
I'm fat. I get overlooked all the time in everyday life. I get judged all the time and not kindly neither. I look in the mirror and I'm the fat old dinner lady I used to make jokes about when I was younger. You get the picture. AIBU to think that fat women get overlooked - for promotion, for ideas, for their knowledge, for their hard work for everything they do. Just because they are fat. This post may read very bizarre if you aren't fat and once upon a time I would have eyerolled at this too. But now I'm writing it. So AIBU?

@IsabelHerna

I cant say about the others but I know that when my PCOS is acting up and I gain loads of weight almost overnight, my confidence plummets and I am not myself. I dont go dancing like before, I avoid going for walks and runs or to the gym, etc. I avoid doing things that I love.

I am so sorry you feel like that :( You deserve to do all the lovely things that make you happy no matter what your weight!

I wish this was not the case but I know it is, from personal experience. I have had a couple of phases of being overweight during which I was invisible; sometimes it is nice to be invisible, sometimes not. I lost the weight and the change in other people's attitude towards me was unbelievable. For example, at work I had no end of men wanting to come to my office and talk to me, I was followed by younger chaps, younger women admired me and would confide. If I went out, someone would chat me up.

It all seems so shallow, I was the same person regardless of appearance. I'm well out of it now at 72 :-).