You've just noticed?!
I too was a skinny young thing back in the day. But even then I noticed how those who weren't slim were treated.
@Toomanyradishes for me with the pandemic it was having hcps FINALLY not attribute EVERY ailment to my weight! I even finally got a correct diagnosis for something I'd had for years!
You're right op Fatism is one of the last acceptable prejudices - mental illness is another though and other forms of disablism and I think they are linked in their roots.
I tend to lose weight most easily when I'm very ill mentally! So yes the compliments aren't really!
Conversely it's made it harder for me to lose weight when I'm doing better mentally as I and my loved ones link my eating/eating well to my being mentally well too
@AutomaticMoon you're right but with USA and increasingly uk it's food environment too manufacturers and retailers want us buying and eating more and more and they're very good (and put a LOT of money into learning how to) at persuading us!
I'm on two lots of medication which are clinically proven to increase appetite and/or weight gain.
Same - which my hcps frequently forget/ignore!
Add in peri-meno, mental illness and a physical disability (ironically invisible!)...
@MedusasBadHairDay I hear ya!
HCP stigmatisation against obese people is rife, and shocking!
It is. I'm firmly of the opinion that many overweight people have conditions contributing to their being overweight that are going undiagnosed because of this prejudice.
There's even starting to come out some research that appears to show that diabetes type 2 CAUSES people to be overweight not that it's caused BY people being overweight - strong genetic factors
@RedCandyApple plenty of research shows that those who are "conventionally attractive" fare better in life in MANY ways - jobs, housing, romance even if they're up on a criminal charge! Better looking people are less likely to be convicted and if convicted tend to get more lenient sentences!!
@ComtesseDeSpair what is sexually attractive varies culturally though so it's not entirely on being a healthy weight in some parts of the world the overweight are considered very attractive and even within western culture there are people who love larger people. My brothers best friend is attracted to larger women generally.
@tomorrowalready Emma Thompson has been commenting recently on the pressures for actresses. She's appearing nude in a new film at the age of 62 and has been saying how it's "challenging"
Basically it comes down to sexism yet again as while men experience it I’ve never seen it to the same extent.
Agree
@1forAll74 I can't believe you posted that offensive tripe!!
We overweight women are individual people not "types" based on whether we are "good fatties" or "bad fatties." Wtf!!
I wonder, those of you that claim to be fat.....are you a short size 14 or an average height size 22?
Short (5'2") size 18 currently! 24 at my largest. Lost 1.5 stone from June to December last year with a lot of support on a long running thread on here. Had major issues recently with Mh due to circumstances outside my control. Gained 1/2 stone back! Need to get back in healthier habits but it's REALLY hard when you're very stressed, not up to cooking etc (I wouldn't be safe!)
More than size, I think ones own confidence has a bigger part to play. If you feel fat, embarrassed, insecure, judged, then you are more likely to be judged
You really don't understand that societal attitudes have a part to play here?
you can't let idiots like that dictate your self worth.
That's a lot easier said than done! Especially when such attitudes are so prevalent!
@PlumpAndDeliciousFatcat I have to admit, when I was young and slim and considered conventionally attractive, I'm also fair in colouring and chose to be blonde at this time and I got the "dumb blonde bimbo" crap too mainly career wise
Humans are animals and they will assess potential mates subconsciously for their healthiness to reproduce! That’s hardwiring
That doesn't bear out though when in our society the very slim are vaulted - fertility in the underweight isn't usually great.
@Dishwashersaurous you can't quit eating cold turkey! And as a pp said there is now a wealth of research showing food addiction could be a factor
@Quincythequince I wonder (genuinely) how much of the research that apparently "proves" how unhealthy it is to be overweight/obese takes other health factors into consideration? Genetic illness for example. Or if the overweight person is depressed or a smoker...
Ultimately however good the research it's really difficult to attribute an outcome to a single causative factor
And just because this is the area you work in doesn't make you an expert in the EXPERIENCE
Don't deny our lived experience please - especially as a few of us have noted the prejudice among hcps on this subject!
We try and talk about something we have experienced there's always someone out there shouting over us that we are wrong.
Glad to see you acknowledge how shit GPS are (and not just on this!)
you can't outrun fat phobia by being confident. That's actually a little victim blaming!
Agree