Found his message unusual and now he seems to have taken offence that I questioned it

[wasiwrongtoask]

I have been seeing someone for almost a year now and last night his last message seemed a bit unusual. I sent a text to say good night and he responded with a number of emojis. He is very articulate and not usually big on these and they included an aubergine 🍆 which I found odd so I asked if he was talking to someone else pointing out that it was unusual. He has now taken offence and was very defensive. Was I BU to ask?

Doesn't it mean a penis? I thought it did

Yes it does that's why i found it strange

Maybe he’d been drinking?

Yes that's his explanation, but he's really defensive and I don't think I was wrong to ask.

Was there a peach emoji too?

Tbh I've only seen it used when people are referring to using their penis. Nothing else.

😘❤️🤩😍❤️🥰🍆💋 this was it and i may be overthinking it but it appears that he is responding to a picture/photo?

Yeah I wouldn't have read into that at all.

According to my DH that would be he got a hard on...

I would read that as he loves you and wants a blow job

I think you’ve massively overreacted about nothing at all.

I’m not surprised he’s offended that you’ve made a ginormous leap from a bloody emoji to him speaking to someone else.

You sound paranoid.

Yes I think this too and as I only said good night I am struggling to understand why?

@LawnFever but it's the fact it seemed out of context, was it wrong to ask in those circumstances?

@wasiwrongtoask

Yes I think this too and as I only said good night I am struggling to understand why?

Why he sent you those emojis?

Because he was in a fun mood and having a laugh?

I think you should apologise tbh, the poor guy was just replying and you’ve now accused him of doing something inappropriate.

Your reaction is very odd.

Was there any mention of Stonehenge?

[quote wasiwrongtoask]@LawnFever but it's the fact it seemed out of context, was it wrong to ask in those circumstances?[/quote]
The leap that you’ve accused him of messaging someone else is way more out of context.

@LawnFever I would rather be up front and ask TBH

If he'd had a drink, I'd see that as him being too drunk to type to you so sent a number of lovey dovey type emojis and his finger slipped on the other emoji. I send wrong emojis all of the time.

Definitely looks like he’s saying he wants a blowjob.
And if he doesn’t usually send emoji sex texts not surprised you were a bit confused to receive that in return to goodnight!

@TokenGinger

If he'd had a drink, I'd see that as him being too drunk to type to you so sent a number of lovey dovey type emojis and his finger slipped on the other emoji. I send wrong emojis all of the time.

I accidentally sent my boss that weird massive unicorn emoji with heart eyes the other day, it happens

If my DH sent that as a message, it would be so out of character that I’d assume someone had pinched his phone! I don’t think he’s ever sent an emoji to me.

So on that basis YANBU to ask him about it.

[quote wasiwrongtoask]@LawnFever I would rather be up front and ask TBH [/quote]
I think on this occasion, your ask was unnecessary and a massive jump.

I wouldn’t apologise.

Why should you OP?

You didn’t accuse him of anything you asked if he meant to send that message to you.

Does he behave like this often? Going off at the deep end getting huffy when you query something that seems out of context and odd to you?

Neither of you sound right for each other.

@Shelby2010

If my DH sent that as a message, it would be so out of character that I’d assume someone had pinched his phone! I don’t think he’s ever sent an emoji to me.

So on that basis YANBU to ask him about it.

Ha yes, I would think mine had had his phone stolen!

@WhyMeLord

Was there any mention of Stonehenge?

It made me think of that too!

My BF sends me emojis sometimes and I send him emojis. I do think you're overthinking this, OP