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Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….

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DontWantTheRivalry · 28/01/2022 12:39

I’m in such a quandary.

Me, DH and DS (aged 7) tested positive last week.

DH was ill for a few days but was back at work on Day 7 after two negative LFTs.

I’m on Day 7 and my line is now starting to fade. I’ve been asymptomatic throughout.

DS is on Day 6, he has also been completely asymptomatic but his LFT is still positive.

My quandary is this…

DS and DH have got tickets to go to an event tomorrow that DS been looking forward to for about 6 months and this morning (after his latest LFT) we had to break the news to him that he wouldn’t be able to go and he was absolutely devastated. He started crying and it broke my heart.

He asked me if he could still go if he promised not to eat all day so he didn’t have to open his mouth and I just wanted to cry Sad

Everything is a 1000 times worse because he’s absolutely fine, he’s not ill at all and it seems so unfair on him. This event is something that means a lot to him and his dad and I’m genuinely gutted that the positive LFT means he can’t go.

However, my problem is that my DH has just phoned me and said that he wants to take our son anyway as the event is outdoors and DH said he doesn’t want to DS to miss out on something that means a lot to him when he’s perfectly well. DH said that if we repeat the LFT in the morning and it’s faint then he’s going to take DS on the trip.

I feel so torn. I know it’s awful because I really do know that if he’s LFT positive he shouldn’t go, but as a mother of a distraught little boy it’s so hard to be the bad guy.

Do I need to put a stop to this?

Or would it be ok to just hand control over to DH and say “I don’t agree with what you’re doing but I physically can’t stop you taking him.”

I hate Covid.

I don’t know what to do or what to say to DH.

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 28/01/2022 12:43

I wouldn’t ask on MN tbh!

Everyone is going to say yabu on here but you need to make your own RL decision

Poor little kid “if i promise not to eat all day” 😭😭😭

Covid has been so shit for children

Pointswesthelpplease · 28/01/2022 12:43

I'd let him go. They have already said there will be no need for isolation by March. I don't see what difference a month makes.

itssquidstella · 28/01/2022 12:45

I'd let him go too.

SlashBeef · 28/01/2022 12:45

I'd let him go.

slowtik · 28/01/2022 12:46

Let him go!

ToykotoLosAngeles · 28/01/2022 12:46

*I wouldn’t ask on MN tbh!

Everyone is going to say yabu on here but you need to make your own RL decision*

Agree. Depends on what it is, how much contact with people, etc.

SilenceOfThePrams · 28/01/2022 12:46

@Pointswesthelpplease

I'd let him go. They have already said there will be no need for isolation by March. I don't see what difference a month makes.
It gives time for the vulnerable 5-11 year olds to finally receive some protection via a much delayed jab, which is only just being made available to them.
Elpheba · 28/01/2022 12:47

If tomorrow is day 7 I’d let him go. I’d do an LF in the morning and tell him he’s clear even if he wasn’t!

DustyMaiden · 28/01/2022 12:47

I wouldn’t, it’s sad but can’t be helped. The fact he has tested positive means he is breathing out virus particles. He can’t not breath all day. Book something for later.

Chipsahoy · 28/01/2022 12:47

I’d let him go

enjoyingscience · 28/01/2022 12:48

Outdoors and not much close contact, I’d let him go. Honestly, there will be a dozen other people there with it who don’t know about it and will be more contagious than he is on day 6.

SoLongDarla · 28/01/2022 12:48

If it's day 7 tomorrow I'd let him go. But just keep him away from everyone but DH.

FlamesEmbersAshes · 28/01/2022 12:48

Your son should be isolating. It doesn’t matter if he’s asymptomatic- he can still spread it. It’s utterly shit for him and I get that’s he’s disappointed but so many people have had to cancel events that they were looking forward to because of Covid. You need to keep him home OP

Bim2021 · 28/01/2022 12:49

I’d let him go too

ForensicFlossy · 28/01/2022 12:49

I would let him go

Legomania · 28/01/2022 12:49

I'd take him

memememe · 28/01/2022 12:50

id do a test this evening and another in the morning and if either are positive id keep him home. as soon as you get the negative (even if only 1 tomorrow) id let him go. but id tell him to wear a mask.

TheBlessedCheesemaker · 28/01/2022 12:50

Thought you stopped being actively infectious by around day 5, regardless of still testing positive?
I’d let him go

gobbledygoook · 28/01/2022 12:50

His lateral flow could still be positive on day 10 and he'd be able to go out - it's a really weird system imo! I'm not sure what I'd do in your situation, selfishly I'd probably want him to go!

Ahhhhhbisto · 28/01/2022 12:50

Oh bless him. I'd let him go. My DS was still testing positive on day 11 when isolation had ended so what's the difference?

IKeptYouLikeAnOath · 28/01/2022 12:50

I probably would. Think of the thousands of asymptomatic kids that never even know they have it!

zafferana · 28/01/2022 12:50

I'd let him go too.

Talith · 28/01/2022 12:50

At this point I'd let him go too.

Citygirl2019 · 28/01/2022 12:51

I would do another day six LFT and say it was negative and the same tomorrow.

2x negative tests = he can go

LargeYorkshirePuddingAndGravy · 28/01/2022 12:51

The reason you're in this situation is because someone with covid was out and about and so your family got it.

If you allow your son to go you're likely to pass this situation onto someone else.

He shouldn't go. It's shit but it's the way it is.