Husband wants to take Covid Positive son out for the day….

[DontWantTheRivalry]

I’m in such a quandary.

Me, DH and DS (aged 7) tested positive last week.

DH was ill for a few days but was back at work on Day 7 after two negative LFTs.

I’m on Day 7 and my line is now starting to fade. I’ve been asymptomatic throughout.

DS is on Day 6, he has also been completely asymptomatic but his LFT is still positive.

My quandary is this…

DS and DH have got tickets to go to an event tomorrow that DS been looking forward to for about 6 months and this morning (after his latest LFT) we had to break the news to him that he wouldn’t be able to go and he was absolutely devastated. He started crying and it broke my heart.

He asked me if he could still go if he promised not to eat all day so he didn’t have to open his mouth and I just wanted to cry

Everything is a 1000 times worse because he’s absolutely fine, he’s not ill at all and it seems so unfair on him. This event is something that means a lot to him and his dad and I’m genuinely gutted that the positive LFT means he can’t go.

However, my problem is that my DH has just phoned me and said that he wants to take our son anyway as the event is outdoors and DH said he doesn’t want to DS to miss out on something that means a lot to him when he’s perfectly well. DH said that if we repeat the LFT in the morning and it’s faint then he’s going to take DS on the trip.

I feel so torn. I know it’s awful because I really do know that if he’s LFT positive he shouldn’t go, but as a mother of a distraught little boy it’s so hard to be the bad guy.

Do I need to put a stop to this?

Or would it be ok to just hand control over to DH and say “I don’t agree with what you’re doing but I physically can’t stop you taking him.”

I hate Covid.

I don’t know what to do or what to say to DH.

Do you know how many events CEV children have had to miss whilst shielding and waiting for their vaccine? Many of whom are only just receiving it now.

Honestly don't risk it for those children.

Let him go.

@memememe

id do a test this evening and another in the morning and if either are positive id keep him home. as soon as you get the negative (even if only 1 tomorrow) id let him go. but id tell him to wear a mask.

Yes this.

You don’t want him spreading it

He is still testing positive, why is this even a question? Football match will be full of people! Sending him out when you know he could infect others is just irresponsible! He won't die for missing the football but someone else might die because you don't want to disappoint him? Give your head a wobble!

I’d let him go. He’s not Ill and he’s been in for 6 days plus it’s an outside event. We are going to have to learn to live with it and most people are vaccinated now so I’d definitely let him go.

Oh your poor DS, what rotten timing.

I'd let him go with one negative.

If it's outdoors and he'll be able to distance I'd let him go, perhaps with a mask. Something like a match which is close quarters even though outdoors I wouldn't let him go if positive.

The reason I said I'd let him go is because he would be following all the rules correctly if he lived here.

Ending isolation
If you have COVID-19, most people can end isolation 7 full days after taking the test that gave you the positive COVID-19 result. You must not have a fever, sore throat, runny nose, or a cough that is bad or getting worse, on day 7 of your isolation.

If you do have a fever, sore throat, runny nose, or a cough that is bad or getting worse, on day 7 of your isolation, you will need to remain in isolation until those symptoms have gone away.

You do not need another COVID-19 test to end your isolation period.

Asymptomatic at 7 days is fine here, with no need to test.

I get that your rules are slightly different but honestly it really can't be that much of a risk.

Tear tomorrow again and see what happens.

Ah let the poor little man go out with his dad. All the restrictions are ending soon anyway.

I hope they have a great day.

What is the event?

If it’s something that can be postponed for a few days then I would do so.

Our school has almost 50% off staff and pupils off and if any more staff test positive then we’ll have no choice but to close the school - anything that reduces spread and stops this from happening should be done.

Absolutely let him go.

I am incredibly rule-abiding but I just think the chances of him causing any illness in others are minimal here, and the poor little boy ...

(I'm not in the UK, rules in Ireland are different but I still think - go.)

What is the event?
That makes a difference.
Dad and son doing some kind of go-carting racing or something with next to no contact to others, ok.
Football match in stadium standing next to others all the time and son shouting and cheering - not ok.

It's hard but that's the way it is unfortunately.

Go!

Let him go!

For everyone saying it's wrong to go out, cev children at risk, etc. What are you going to do when isolation ends? How do you cope with more deadly viruses like flu?

Let him go, he's past 5 days and asymptomatic and it's outdoors.
(If they ask for proof of a negative test to enter, just do one and log it on the NHS site as negative whatever it says).

There is no public health benefit in spoiling his trip as he is extremely unlikely to be infectious - any whiners going on about keeping him confined are whining from a place of superstitious moral panic ('we must suffer to protect ourselves') and should be ignored.

let him go its outside

I'd let him go

Based on the following:
It’ll be Day 7 tomorrow
He’s asymptomatic
The event is outside
I might be inclined to let them go tbh. I think the science based on the above would lead me to conclude that he’s a pretty low transmission risk now and tbh, i am now completely over ordinary families suffering while the rulemakers party on.

It's outside. I'd let him go

Personally I would not interfere with my DH's decision

It's a tough one. I would err on not though, because the thought that I could have knowingly exposed someone vulnerable to it for the sake of an event would really pray on my mind. It is very disappointing, but then there are plenty of other things and reasons that mean plans have to be cancelled and changed, not just Covid.

It could have been cancelled, he could have got chickenpox, a sickness bug, lots of different things, and you would just have to deal with that disappointment the same way. So part of me thinks we shouldn't treat Covid as any differently to those circumstances. Disappointments are sadly part of life, no matter the reason.

I would let him go too.

@DropYourSword

The reason I said I'd let him go is because he would be following all the rules correctly if he lived here.

Ending isolation
If you have COVID-19, most people can end isolation 7 full days after taking the test that gave you the positive COVID-19 result. You must not have a fever, sore throat, runny nose, or a cough that is bad or getting worse, on day 7 of your isolation.

If you do have a fever, sore throat, runny nose, or a cough that is bad or getting worse, on day 7 of your isolation, you will need to remain in isolation until those symptoms have gone away.

You do not need another COVID-19 test to end your isolation period.

Asymptomatic at 7 days is fine here, with no need to test.

I get that your rules are slightly different but honestly it really can't be that much of a risk.

Isn't a legal duty to follow the rules in your country though?

So if the OP is currently in England, they should follow the rules in England.