To think age 21 is not a 'young mum'?

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I fell pregnant with my daughter at 20, had her at 21. I am now referred to by a lot of people as a 'young mum'. I don't feel like 21 to have a child is young at all and 10 years on, I've gotten on with my life very well, just the same as I would have without having my child.

AIBU to think a young mum is someone about 15, 16, 17? Anything above that is normal age to have children?

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Of course 21 is a young mum

It’s contextual. The average age for a woman to have her first baby in the UK is 28, so it’s young in that context; amongst my peers having a baby before your early thirties is very unusual, so again we’d consider 21 young. But if most of your friends are having or have had babies in their early twenties, then it’s going to seem normal rather than young.

I think it is a young mum. I'm 30 now, I had mine at 21, 23 and 25. I think anything from around 26 under is a young mum, especially these days.

None of my friends have children and we are all in our 30's.

21 is definitely young to have a baby.

It’s a young mum to me. I had mine at 28 and 31.

Of course it’s a young mum.

16-19 is a teen mum.

@546321yeah

I fell pregnant with my daughter at 20, had her at 21. I am now referred to by a lot of people as a 'young mum'. I don't feel like 21 to have a child is young at all and 10 years on, I've gotten on with my life very well, just the same as I would have without having my child.

AIBU to think a young mum is someone about 15, 16, 17? Anything above that is normal age to have children?

I think 21 is a young mum. It may not be a teen mum but it is a young mum. A lot of people finish university at 21 so would have children later and the trajectory seems to be for people to have children later and later hence perhaps in my parents day it wouldnt have been young but now is

Of course it is!

A teenager is a 'teen mum'.

Anyone under about 25 is a young mum. Look at the statistics to find out what's normal, on average.

I suppose it's all relative. I didn't have my first until I was 33, so in comparison, 21 seems young (to me). Not to say it’s too young of course, but a lot of women now aren't having their first until their 30’s so like I said, by comparison, 21 will seem young to some (like me!).

Definitely young to my mind. Most 21 year olds I know are at university, or just starting out in careers etc.

I was 29 when I had my first, and that was quite young in my circle.

Nobody in my circle had children at 21 (we're heading to 30 now and still none of my friends have kids) so I do consider it young. There's nothing wrong with that but it is young.

Some people say a young mum, meaning that you have young children. I was repeatedly called a young mum when I had a toddler, even though I was in my late thirties!

Yes it’s definitely young.

Yea, having a baby at 21 is a “young mum”. It isn’t a value judgment, just a demographic fact in current western society.

I had 2 by 20.
Just ignore op..

And 15 or

Most of my friends had their babies in their mid 30s. I was 40. At 21 we were partying and we definitely would have felt too young to have had kids. So I think you are a young mum. But that it's brilliant if that's what you wanted. You'll be around to enjoy your grandkids. I'll be very old!

I was told I was a young mum having ds at 26

I do think it's young, barely in the 20s so it's like a step up from teen mum.

It seems like a young Mum to me. Anyone under 25 would be a young Mum tbh

I had my son when I was 21, just 5 days short of my 22nd birthday. I had my daughter the month after 1 was 24. It was what we wanted.

21 is definitely young - only 3 years out of school and usually at university or college, doing an apprenticeship or just starting in a career.

If you have a child in your mid teens then you’re still legally a child and called a ‘teen mum’.

It’s just factual, 21 is young, so yes you were a young mum. I’d call a 15 year old a teen mum.

Nothing wrong with being a young mum though!

Definitely young for reasons above

( I don't think it is necessarily a judgement implying too young if that is what you are inferring, just a factual statement that you are young)

21 is definitely a young mum. And I had my first at 19!

@IsMaeOnTheAsmae I agree under 25 your a young mum! 21 most definitely. Like anything it's all relative and it depends what your around if your friend also have babies... maybe it won't seem young but when your the only one in your circle that has got a baby you definitely feel like a young mum.