To think age 21 is not a 'young mum'?

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I fell pregnant with my daughter at 20, had her at 21. I am now referred to by a lot of people as a 'young mum'. I don't feel like 21 to have a child is young at all and 10 years on, I've gotten on with my life very well, just the same as I would have without having my child.

AIBU to think a young mum is someone about 15, 16, 17? Anything above that is normal age to have children?

I think in the 60s and perhaps the 70s it wasn’t considered young but these days it it most certainly is.

I was 27 when I had DD and was considered a very young mum by our GP practice

20-21 is definitely young though.

It’s unusual it doesn't feel young to you OP as did many of your friends have babies at a similar age I wonder? Mine were all 28+ and it probably varies

I had my first child at 24 and was definitely a young mum!

Really young in my mind

It's old to me 😂😂😂 I had Dd1 @ 15 😉

I do think it's young to have a child. A couple of my nieces and nephews have kids they are mostly 24/25/26. One niece @ 24 has 2 kids.

I don't think it is necessarily a judgement implying too young if that is what you are inferring, just a factual statement that you are young This!

It is a young mum, you may be a youngish Nan and get to spend many years with your DGC.

19 or under is a teen mum and 20 - 24 is a young mum, in my opinion.

A friend had her son ten years ago at 21 and we were all shocked when she announced her pregnancy, it wasn’t common in my friend circles and seemed very young.

I wouldn't say it, any more than I would avoid saying someone over 30 is an old mum - despite the fact that when I had my son at 33 I was classed medically as a "geriatric mum."

But for a lot of people what they mean is "younger than average" and these days many people have their kids later. In some circles 31 would be a young mum in that sense. So what seems unusually young will depend on the person.

Biologically 21 is probably the ideal time to be having kids.

Certainly is to me. A 15/16 year old is a teen mum.

Of course you're a young mum at 21 - you're young and a mum.

I think anything under about 25 is a "young mum". The average age to have a first child in the UK is 29, so 21 is quite a lot younger than that. That doesn't mean it's a negative thing.

Whether it stands out will depend on your area and social circle, though. In the area where I grew up, a lot of people have a baby in their teens/early 20s. In the area I live now, where uni seems like the norm, I think it would be unusual to have a baby at 21.

Agree it's just factual. These days you have to be in education or training until 18, so falling pregnant at 20 is only a couple of years later.

You seem to be considering it to be an insult though. Why?

It’s young but I don’t think ‘young mum’ is a negative description at all, I think having a baby in your 20s in the perfect time for a lot of people.

Yep, 21 is a young mum.

Anything under 25 is a young mum. 21 is very young.

Agree with the majority, 21 is a young mum.
Not sure if it is anything to be offended offended by though?

I was 21 when I got pregnant and now 32,looking back I do think it is young but I remember at the time somebody saying I was young and I didn't feel it.

It's young age wise but not in the way of getting pregnant as a teen at school

I was still at uni at 21! Definitely very young to have baby imo.

Yes, you were a young mum, I was the same age when I had my first. It's not an insult, it's just fact, 21 is young, have a child you become a mum, ergo, young mum.
I had my other child at 38, so I was then classed an old mum. It is what it is.

21 is young in the social context of the current day.

It’s a young mum. Any younger is a teen mum

It's a judgement, as it would be to call someone an old mum, so for that reason I'd not use the term.

You are a young mum at 21. Not sure why that's an issue though? When someone says young mum to me I don't think of a 16 year old.