To think age 21 is not a 'young mum'?

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I fell pregnant with my daughter at 20, had her at 21. I am now referred to by a lot of people as a 'young mum'. I don't feel like 21 to have a child is young at all and 10 years on, I've gotten on with my life very well, just the same as I would have without having my child.

AIBU to think a young mum is someone about 15, 16, 17? Anything above that is normal age to have children?

@OddBoots

It's a judgement, as it would be to call someone an old mum, so for that reason I'd not use the term.

Nope. Old is more frequently pejorative. See also: fat/thin, tall/short and rich/poor.

Young mum is a statement. Not a judgement.

it is objectively young. not gymslip, not by any means freakishly young, but young.

My niece has just announced her pregnancy at age 20. She is young and is a young mum. I think probably 23 and under feels young to me.

I was still at uni at 20/21 so not at a stage in life to have a baby.

If you aren’t of typical age to have finished university before becoming pregnant, you are a young mum.

21 is a very young mum. Would be unheard of in my friends group as at that age, people are still studying/just qualifying and getting ready to start careers/start travelling. Most people probably haven't got married yet or bought their first homes so definitely not in the position to have babies yet.

Well I was 18 when I had my first and 23 when I had my second. I feel like I was a very young mum. I'm 32 soon and had my third at the beginning of last year. That just reinforced how young I actually was when I had my first and second.
Yes, you were a young mum and getting on with your life doesn't change that.

I'd say under 23-25 is a young mum.

It’s a young mum to me - most people are still at uni.

@OddBoots

It's a judgement, as it would be to call someone an old mum, so for that reason I'd not use the term.

Why is it a judgement? It's just a factual statement. If your 21, are you not young?

Depends on area and class.

In my area and my “class” 21 wasn’t a young mum, a teen mum was.

Now I’m older myself and moved into a different area 21 would be a young mum here as people in this area don’t start to have children until their 30s.

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I was around that age and it is absolutely a young mum, it's one grade up from teen mum! I knew that at the time and I know it now as a grown up

YABU
You are a young mum beause you are 21. In 15 years time you will look back and realise you were a young um, there's nothing wrong with that
If you were 15 or 16 you would be a teenage mum

It's quite young by today's standards. A couple of generations ago it would be the norm

I mean a judgement in terms of it not being an objective fact, if we asked at what age you stopped being young you would get a range of answers in the same way if you asked what age you become old you would get a range.

Young can also be pejorative and used with mother that is more likely than when it is used in other contexts, people use it to imply a lack of maturity and experience and that's not exactly done as a positive.

Yes I think 21 is a young Mum, I was pregnant with my second at your age.
You might think differently when you get older.

But don't call anyone an old mum of course

Early 20s and mid 20s are young mums. Teens are teen mums. Your brain hasn’t fully developed yet. I say this as someone who is in her mid 20s and I look back at 21 year olds and most are really really immature and don’t realise it.

I had my DD at 20 and I definitely class myself as a young mum.

It's very young

It is young... but I don't think that's a bad thing. I was 31 when I had my DD and now she is 11 I am bloody knackered all the time! Wish I had started a little younger...

Of course 21 is a young mum. 13 to19 would be teenage mum.

Of course it's a young mum! Duh, your brain isn't even fully cooked until 25.

I had my first at 21 almost 15 years ago now. I think it made me a young mum. I'm certainly younger than all of my almost 15yo mums. His best friends Mum is what I would consider an older mum, she is 56 which is almost my mums age. There is nothing wrong with being either

Of course it's young, but it's OK. Better than having one at 45!

That said, I would not have wanted either of mine having one at 21.