As a parent do you think this should be run past you or not?

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2 DCs 6 and 3 - DGPs 2-3 times a month collect them from school/nursery and have them for dinner, not a babysitting arrangement as we don't need it but the DGPs have asked as they enjoy having them.

DGPs have allowed 6yo to go next door into a classmates house to play whilst leaving 4yo with them.

Would you expect for this to be run past you prior to DGPs allowing your 6yo to go to someone elses house without one of them present or would you be ok with it since it's a classmate?

YABU - I'd be ok with it
YANBU - they should have checked with you first

But you’re right it is a daft analogy but I’m trying to question people’s perception of the situation. Why would it bother people less who is taking care of their own children than who’s their mobile phone/energy provider. I bet most people would be up in arms if that change went forward without their consent but yet they wouldn’t mind the grandparents taking that choice away from them about who is looking after their children. The issue is about having the choice and agreeing who is looking after the children and if it’s agreed that the grandparents are caring for them then it needs to stay that way unless otherwise agreed.

It's not that it would bother me less, it's just that I trust my child's grandparents to make those decisions if necessary. For example if the opportunity to spend time with their cousins/best friend came up , and I was at work so possibly not able to be in contact for a few hours, I would be happy for the decision to be made without me. I wouldn't want my child to miss an opportunity I know they would enjoy. They have excellent judgement and love their grandchildren more than anything so would always consider situations carefully. It may not be the same for everyone, and so nothing wrong with not feeling happy with it. But I feel very strongly that there is nothing wrong with my decision to trust their judgement.