Weird message sent from boyfriend's phone

[Mikeythecat]

I don't know what the heck is going on here.

I don't live with my BF.

This morning I got a message saying: "Good morning, good luck, have fun, night night".

So I sent: "?" in reply.

These are all things he would probably text me throughout the day. I thought at first that he was being grumpy with me. I've not had a lot of time recently and this tends to be the pattern of his messages. We say morning, I say how busy I am, he says good luck, we have a chat in the evening, he says have fun (if watching a TV series or going somewhere with DD) and then we say night. I tend to only see him at the weekends. So, I thought he was being a bit sarcastic (as in sending the day's messages all in one go and maybe being a bit grumpy - as in - "this is all we ever say to each other" iyswim.

An hour later, I get this message: "POF Username39". The username was his email name. The 39 is the area we live (not in UK).

My next message was: "What are you trying to say? Are you on POF?"

I've had no response.

What the hell is going on? I know you don't have the answers, but I could do with a bit of support. I think he's about to tell me he's cheating or dumping me, or maybe the woman he's with got hold of his phone and it was her way of telling me. I tried to ring him, but he didn't answer.

I have a load of work to do tonight. I missed a deadline today because of this. I've been so upset.

Have you had a search for him on pOF? Sorry you’re upset about this, if he is cheating then he’s a scumbag. See if you can switch your brain off thinking about him and smash through a couple of hours work- then you won’t have that on your mind as well.

Fingers crossed that it’s just a misunderstanding x

Clearly something is going on. Have you searched the user name?

I would also search the username to see what comes up, it is very odd though.

It seems like he's sent the messages and he's either breaking up with you (in a horrible way) or he's trying to send you some sort of "warning" about you're relationship, that if you can't speak to each other/spend more time together he'll be looking for a new g/f?

He has either text you by accident meant for someone else (sorry ), or someone has sent you it deliberately from his phone. Have u searched PoF for this username?

Weird! I'm not sure what to say OP. It's just really odd behaviour.

Search the username surely?

Does he know he's your bf or is he of the opinion that it's a casual thing?

I'd search the username tbh.

I've tried to search the username but for some reason, I can't subscribe to POF. I met him on it. 7 years ago! I've tried over and over again to get on it today, but I can't. I'll have another go later. I'm so upset.

Do you have a friend who would go on POF for you?

Is the username the same one as he had when you met him on POF?

I can't remember if it was, but I know it's his email address name. I daren't ask any friends to do it for me.

If it is, could it be he is trying to remind you of how it was, how it felt when you first met? More exciting ect?

Can one of us look at screenshot the profile for you?

It feels like he was being arsey with you with his first text. I then think he'd exchanged numbers with someone from POF and sent her a text to let them her it was him, except he sent this to you by accident. And now he's probably shitting himself and keeping quiet hoping you don't think twice about the text. I think he's been on POF because he's being arsey with you, for the reasons you yourself said. But it's not right of him. Obviously this is just me speculating, but it seems the likely scenario to me.

I don't know. On one hand It does sound a bit glitchy. I have had the odd experience of my phone randomly resending messages from months ago. Or an old one from someone arriving.
But the POF thing is odd. Sorry op

Freecuthbert could be right.

He's been your BF for 7 years. Has he got arsey and cryptic before?

Does he normally answer his phone at any time of day or is he more likely to only take calls at a certain time - ie outside of work hours.

How long have you been dating?

Regarding POF use an anonymous/private browser window and create a new account.

Good luck! Fingers crossed it’s all cleared up soon.

Sorry, I think in a very childish way, he's trying to tell you that if things carry on like they are, he'll be back on pof.

Did you think you were both happy still not living together after 7 years? Is there a 'good' reason for this or us one if you just dragging your heels?

See if you can search on POF first before you freak out but it sounds like someone has taken his phone and is trying to clue you in if he's cheating.

I think the first message is arsey.

Second message is

• an attempt to remind you of the way you both used to be
• a message meant for someone else.
• letting you know he's back on or going back on POF.

I've just tried again to create an account using a different browser and it just sends me around in circles.
I can't do it.
I wonder if the site is down or something.
We both agreed that we didn't ever want to live with each other. If he's decided to get arsey about it now, it would be a bit out-of-the-blue.

Is that YOUR former username? Does he think you are still on there?

Sounds very strange

Just call him and ask him what he's playing at? His silence speaks volumes