Weird message sent from boyfriend's phone

[Mikeythecat]

I don't know what the heck is going on here.

I don't live with my BF.

This morning I got a message saying: "Good morning, good luck, have fun, night night".

So I sent: "?" in reply.

These are all things he would probably text me throughout the day. I thought at first that he was being grumpy with me. I've not had a lot of time recently and this tends to be the pattern of his messages. We say morning, I say how busy I am, he says good luck, we have a chat in the evening, he says have fun (if watching a TV series or going somewhere with DD) and then we say night. I tend to only see him at the weekends. So, I thought he was being a bit sarcastic (as in sending the day's messages all in one go and maybe being a bit grumpy - as in - "this is all we ever say to each other" iyswim.

An hour later, I get this message: "POF Username39". The username was his email name. The 39 is the area we live (not in UK).

My next message was: "What are you trying to say? Are you on POF?"

I've had no response.

What the hell is going on? I know you don't have the answers, but I could do with a bit of support. I think he's about to tell me he's cheating or dumping me, or maybe the woman he's with got hold of his phone and it was her way of telling me. I tried to ring him, but he didn't answer.

I have a load of work to do tonight. I missed a deadline today because of this. I've been so upset.

He has never wanted to live with us. I live with my kids and my elderly parents live with us. I work from home (even pre-covid) and I care for everyone here. It was never an option. He's never lived with anyone. He's not a player. He's a bit of a nerd to be honest. He plays chess and works in an admin role in an office. I don't think women would flock to him. He's a bit of an oddball.

Those other messages are a bit weird? Is him saying ‘what can I do for you’ normal? Sounds very formal for someone you’ve been seeing for 7 years.

OP this has got to be one of the strangest threads I've seen!

Why on earth is he talking to you as though he is a waiter serving you in a restaurant 'how can I help you?'. Wtf. This sounds absolutely horrible.

I'd try calling one more time. If he doesn't respond I would express that the disrespect shown is unacceptable and you are finishing it.

Sounds like it's over.

Sounds like he thinks you're on POF tbh

Perhaps just send him one final message saying that his responses are so odd you can only assume something is very wrong but you are completely in the dark what it all means, and if this is his game it is very cruel. Unless he explains what this is all about you will have to assume cruel mind games are what he is doing and you have no interest in this as clear uncomplicated communication is usual between 2 people who care for each other.

Wow he’s messages remind me of how my ex would reply, I was blaming myself at first as this is how they can make you feel by the off messages and trying to work it all out.
It’s hard when all you want is an explanation and be able to talk, you deserve more.
I never deleted my profile from when I first joined but it’s not there? I’m sure they wipe it after so long unless you’re active?

It sounds like he is feeling very insecure about you for some reason.

Could he have found your own old profile and messaged you under the username he sent you?
Maybe someone is using your photo or something on there and he thinks it is you?

If he does think you're on there, then you will be the one sounding dodgy to him, like you're acting as though nothing is wrong even when he has sent evidence that he knows such as the username he maybe messaged you with.

Whatever it is, he needs to get over his pathetic upset and communicate like an adult.

Ok here are some options:

• is he having a mental health crisis?
• is he on lots of drugs (prescription or recreational)?
• has he given someone else his phone? (seems unlikely)
• is he randomly messaging you his online dating profile as a way to break up with you? bizarre
• has he accidentally messaged you his online dating profile because he meant to text a new contact from there. Does his initial message sound like the sort of thing he sent you?

Get a trusted friend to create a profile and look for his. He could have blocked you if that's a thing on POF?

Sounds so bizarre. Sorry OP, I hope you get to the bottom of it. Please keep us updated. Sending hugs

What are the other sites OP? He’s not on Adultwork is he?

I read something a while back about people getting strange messages from numbers they knew asking for money.
"Hi Jane , my cars broke down and I'm stuck can you send £200 to this garage and I'll pay you back" sort of thing.
Was an elaborate scam not sent from the actual person. Probably not what's happening here but it could be that his phone has been hacked.

I'm reading this as he has problem with you (yet to come to light). Why can't he just tell you ? Does he have form for this?

Why are you not speaking instead of texting? Is he refusing to take your calls?

@CandleWick4

Those other messages are a bit weird? Is him saying ‘what can I do for you’ normal? Sounds very formal for someone you’ve been seeing for 7 years.

Yes i thought this.

How much of this is out of character?

If it was phishing, they wouldn’t have also text his POF. I wonder if he made a new POF and though he was texting login to himself so as not to forget. Either that or all of the messages have been from the other woman.

I've tried getting onto POF with my email address and saying I've forgotten my password and all sorts of things, but I can't get on. So, I don't think my profile is active anymore. And if it is, it means HE's been looking on POF anyway, so what does it matter? Unless he says he was checking on me or something.

Saying "What can I do for you" isn't normal for him, no.
It's weird.

I reckon this is all someone else he’s been seeing.

Well, I'm not writing back to him. I need to have some dignity.

This conversation reads like a bot. Essentially picking out the key parts and parroting them back slightly changed. Reminds me of chatting with an Amazon customer service bot or similar. Could his phone have been hacked? Or if he's a bit of a nerd could he have been trying to set up some kind of auto response AI and messed up his phone? Could also explain the original message content if those are the most commonly used phrases in your message history.

Usually I'd think the most obvious answer is the right one, but unless he usually talks like a computer this is very odd. Could you check with any mutual friends to see whether any one else has had any odd messages from him today?

Tell him there is an emergency and he needs to call you asap.

The last replies sound very strange. Robotic.

Something has happened and he is massively pissed off with you. “What can I do for you?” is super passive-aggressive. How odd.

Email him. Let's hope he has lost his phone and somebody is just being a dick on the other end.

Has POF been hacked and a random bot is texting you?
Or has his phone been stolen?