Weird message sent from boyfriend's phone

[Mikeythecat]

I don't know what the heck is going on here.

I don't live with my BF.

This morning I got a message saying: "Good morning, good luck, have fun, night night".

So I sent: "?" in reply.

These are all things he would probably text me throughout the day. I thought at first that he was being grumpy with me. I've not had a lot of time recently and this tends to be the pattern of his messages. We say morning, I say how busy I am, he says good luck, we have a chat in the evening, he says have fun (if watching a TV series or going somewhere with DD) and then we say night. I tend to only see him at the weekends. So, I thought he was being a bit sarcastic (as in sending the day's messages all in one go and maybe being a bit grumpy - as in - "this is all we ever say to each other" iyswim.

An hour later, I get this message: "POF Username39". The username was his email name. The 39 is the area we live (not in UK).

My next message was: "What are you trying to say? Are you on POF?"

I've had no response.

What the hell is going on? I know you don't have the answers, but I could do with a bit of support. I think he's about to tell me he's cheating or dumping me, or maybe the woman he's with got hold of his phone and it was her way of telling me. I tried to ring him, but he didn't answer.

I have a load of work to do tonight. I missed a deadline today because of this. I've been so upset.

Don’t fall for any of his “I can’t breathe” or “I’m going to jump out of a window” bull shit, my ex used to send me the same messages to try and make me take him back, to make me worry about him, it’s all a game that he’s playing to guilt trip you. Stop replying to his messages, tell him you won’t be continuing to reply to his bull shit and block him. He’s trying to get into your head.

When your health (mental or physical) starts being seriously affected it is time to cut communication. Do it for yourself.

If you don't want to do that for some reason, then at the very least every time he mentions self harm tell him that if he is feeling suicidal he needs to call 999 (or whoever you'd call for emergency response for suicidal ideation) and that you are ending the call so he can do so. If that doesn't work, tell him that YOU are going to call them for him. Chances are he'll stop those threats if he thinks the police (or whoever) is going to show up at his door.

But really, it's time to end this. It's doing you no good to keep in contact with him and potentially it could do you a great deal of harm.

Don't let him worm his way back in OP, he was looking to cheat on you (probably already has). He's only being nice now because he's worried he's lost his security blanket.

You need to end this op, can’t you see he’s manipulating you? Doesn’t the fact that ‘he’s upped his game’ tell you, he’s simply acting the part to suck you back in?

This isn’t his own behaviour now, this is him trying to con you. In about a week it will turn into anger against you because you’re not caving. Cut loose.

not nice that after all he did he is still trying to emotionally manipulate you. its still all about him, how he cant breathe or HE wants this or HES going to do this. its not fair and really he should have just apoligised properly and given you space not love bomb you with guilt

Is he French?