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Weird message sent from boyfriend's phone

581 replies

Mikeythecat · 11/01/2022 16:48

I don't know what the heck is going on here.

I don't live with my BF.

This morning I got a message saying: "Good morning, good luck, have fun, night night".

So I sent: "?" in reply.

These are all things he would probably text me throughout the day. I thought at first that he was being grumpy with me. I've not had a lot of time recently and this tends to be the pattern of his messages. We say morning, I say how busy I am, he says good luck, we have a chat in the evening, he says have fun (if watching a TV series or going somewhere with DD) and then we say night. I tend to only see him at the weekends. So, I thought he was being a bit sarcastic (as in sending the day's messages all in one go and maybe being a bit grumpy - as in - "this is all we ever say to each other" iyswim.

An hour later, I get this message: "POF Username39". The username was his email name. The 39 is the area we live (not in UK).

My next message was: "What are you trying to say? Are you on POF?"

I've had no response.

What the hell is going on? I know you don't have the answers, but I could do with a bit of support. I think he's about to tell me he's cheating or dumping me, or maybe the woman he's with got hold of his phone and it was her way of telling me. I tried to ring him, but he didn't answer.

I have a load of work to do tonight. I missed a deadline today because of this. I've been so upset.

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Mikeythecat · 11/01/2022 17:19

No, it's not my name. It's his. It's the same name he uses for his email.

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Lovemusic33 · 11/01/2022 17:23

You can’t search a username anymore on POF unless you pay for the extra stuff (I just checked) 😞.

girlmom21 · 11/01/2022 17:25

Yeah I'd call and if he doesn't answer wish him the best of luck with his online dating

Useresque · 11/01/2022 17:26

AI chatbots starting to take over the world?

Luckymummytoone · 11/01/2022 17:27

I think maybe like pp said, he’s met someone on there and sent you the message by accident? Sorry op - separate of that he sounded like he was being a total bleep xx

MadeForThis · 11/01/2022 17:28

Could he have been with someone else this morning and she sent the POF message?

madisonbridges · 11/01/2022 17:32

Have you rung him to ask what he meant?

Mikeythecat · 11/01/2022 17:33

I rang him but he didn't answer.

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KaptainKaveman · 11/01/2022 17:33

What is PoF?

CornishTiger · 11/01/2022 17:33

Tbh he will have deactivated his profile by now.

I think you know in your heart OP.

JustUseTheDoorSanta · 11/01/2022 17:33

Most likely is he sends the first message to you and another woman. Then wanted to clarify to her which POF man he was, but sent that message to just you or to both of you. I would assume cheating and close it down. You're obviously not moving forward anyway if you don't live together after 7 years, so may be for the best.

JustUseTheDoorSanta · 11/01/2022 17:34

Sorry, hit send too soon!
I'm sorry he'd being a shit @Mikeythecat, best of luck meeting someone better who deserves you.

orio · 11/01/2022 17:35

@KaptainKaveman

What is PoF?
Plenty of fish, dating website.
Useresque · 11/01/2022 17:37

@Mikeythecat

I rang him but he didn't answer.
Chatbot taken over.
Vapeyvapevape · 11/01/2022 17:39

I think he's confirming to someone which profile is his on pof , sorry Op .

Vapeyvapevape · 11/01/2022 17:40

What's a chat bot ?

Always28 · 11/01/2022 17:44

That’s very odd and would ring alarm bells for me. I hope you’re ok.

Useresque · 11/01/2022 17:44

You can 'train' your WhatsApp to 'chat' on your behalf, using AI.

AdobeWanKenobi · 11/01/2022 17:47

What is PoF?

What's a chat bot ?

Is google down? 😂

ThirdElephant · 11/01/2022 17:47

@Useresque

You can 'train' your WhatsApp to 'chat' on your behalf, using AI.
Really?? How?
UserError012345 · 11/01/2022 17:47

Something fishy going on (excuse the pun). Might not be worst case scenario though. You need to speak to him.

Dontwanttolivewithmylover · 11/01/2022 17:48

He's probably ticked off that you don't have much time for him and he's letting you know that he's on Plenty of Fish. Could be an oblique way of saying that there are plenty of fish in the sea for him to choose if you are so unavailable.

UserError012345 · 11/01/2022 17:49

Is his broadband with sky ? Mine was down this afternoon for a couple of hours and when it camE back on, weird things happened. (Granted no messages sent).

Debsdonein · 11/01/2022 17:51

Could he have lost his phone and someone has found it. Longshot but why wouldn't he reply?

NorthSouthcatlady · 11/01/2022 17:53

Is it another woman who has been messaging you from his phone? Sorry OP this is all odd and doesn’t look good

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