To ask how long you waited to have sex after baby?

[Bells3032]

Baby is three weeks old and thanks to a combination of a fast labour and tiny baby there is very little damage down there (had one stitch). Is it weird that i am horny and raring to go. But I think it may be too soon physically plus need to get condoms (don't want another baby soon).

How long did you wait and how was it? Any regrets?

Lucia23 Irish twins IS offensive.

It is used to describe children born in the same year.

They are called Irish twins because for a long time Irish women were not allowed to use contraception. Many Irish women got pregnant against their will (alot of tapes) and suffered terrible lives.

My Irish grandmother for example was raped by her husband over and over, she was not allowed to use any contraception. she had none children

She died at a young age - 46, exactly as a result of having too many children. Her body couldn't cope.

Irish twins is an awful term

That should say (a lot of rapes)

6 months. Very bad forceps delivery.

Do not have sex before 6 weeks- you’re highly fertile right now and very susceptible to infection for another three weeks.

12 days
Had a very rough labour and pregnancy. Nearly died in labour, too late to have a c section. Did end up having stitches.

Hormones were all over the place needed some closeness and to feel slightly human again.

[quote WheelieBinPrincess]@housemaus yeah, I get that, I suppose I just can’t imagine still being in pain, swollen, bleeding exhausted and fancying a shag. There are other ways to bond and be intimate with your partner too.

Also I’m more that capable of seeing to myself if I need to 😂

But really I just think some of these posters must truly not have given themselves much time to heal at all before they DTD, and I’m not sure how I feel about it.[/quote]
What does how you feel about it matter? It’s not your body. I had a very hard labour, in fact I almost died, but for me that meant when I got home a week later I wanted the closeness of my husband and we ended up having sex spontaneously and I don’t see why that matters to anyone else.

Everyone is different and has different ways of dealing with life.

@goldensilver

Pretty sure that it's impossible to have "no bleeding" at all considering your placenta leaves a dinner plate sized wound in your uterus.

I had very little bleeding. I don’t know whether the fact I had to have embolisation surgery to stop my post natal haemorrhage, but after a week it had stopped completely.

@TheOriginalEmu

Well she was born on September 1st 2002 and due date for number 2 was June 8th 2003. Baby two came 3 weeks early on May 18th.

But after the second baby it was more like 6 months because two babies at different stages with different sleep cycles is horrific

@VestaTilley

6 months. Very bad forceps delivery.

Do not have sex before 6 weeks- you’re highly fertile right now and very susceptible to infection for another three weeks.

That’s just not true in terms of infection risk. The risk factors for maternal sepsis include:

Caesarean section
Prolonged labour or early rupture of membranes
Multiple vaginal examinations during labour
Damaged or dead skin tissue (as a result of traumatic delivery)
Fragments of placenta remaining in the womb after delivery
Poor standards of hand washing and general hygiene in the days following delivery
A sore throat or respiratory illness, or having close contact with someone with this type of illness.

There is no study that shows having sex soon after a baby if that’s what you want is a problem in terms of infection. You are more fertile sometimes, but you can use protection.

www.irelandbeforeyoudie.com/irish-twins-the-meaning-and-origin-of-the-phrase-explained/

'Do not have sex before 6 weeks- you’re highly fertile right now.'

@VestaTilley
Ever heard of a condom?