To ask how long you waited to have sex after baby?

[Bells3032]

Baby is three weeks old and thanks to a combination of a fast labour and tiny baby there is very little damage down there (had one stitch). Is it weird that i am horny and raring to go. But I think it may be too soon physically plus need to get condoms (don't want another baby soon).

How long did you wait and how was it? Any regrets?

2 weeks...

I simply cannot believe the few days/weeks comments 😳 It took about six weeks for my bleeding to stop, at least as long for my c section to be fully healed, and a good few months for me to feel human enough to want sex. Especially as I had a baby attached to me the vast majority of the time, next to my bed for the first six months. Days???!!!

Nearly a year with ds1. Less than a week with dc2 and 3. I was the one who wanted to and it wasnt full normal sex sesh though
I just remember feeling just overcome with love and just really wanting the intimacy.

Btw for all the people sounding horrified by the woman saying 5 days - noones saying its a great idea. Its dangerous, but the question was how long you waited - not whats the ideal amount of time to wait. Also doesnt mean I was coerced or pressured, It was definitely my idea, but im a bit of an idiot for stuff like that.

4ish weeks. Had c section.

I also felt super sexy after giving birth. My body had just done the most womanly thing it could ever do and it made me feel so in tune with my femininity. Had sex after 2 weeks, a super gentle and kind husband as I still had a fanny full of stitches. It was lovely. Still is.

First baby - 3 months - had episiotomy and a lot of blood loss, left me quite traumatised.

Babies 2, 3, 4 and 5 all around 5-6 weeks.

10 days, it was great. I wasn’t bleeding, but not sure why that would be a factor, why is it any different to having sex on a period?

DD1: 2 weeks. No tears during birth.
DD2: 7 weeks. Episiotomy.

@Mufasa1118

I'm in Ireland. Of course the term Irish twins is an offensive.

It is a term used for children born close together, because fifty years ago Irish women were forbidden by the Catholic church to use any contraception, and many of these women were raped by their husbands, so they had many children born close together

My Irish mother has told me about her mother (my gran). She told me that my gran would just be home from hospital after giving birth, and her husband would rape her, making her pregnant again. Contraception was totally banned in Ireland at that time.

That is is why "Irish twins" is offensive

Offense is in the eye of the beholder. My grandparents had the stereotypical huge catholic family. No choice in those days. I think irish twins is almost a term of endearment rather than an offensive term. I think people should save their offense for terms meant to be abusive. Children with that tiny age gap is a very different parenting experience than a big age gap, and I like the fact theres a special term. I have this small age gap myself!

Also known as alaskan twins, dutch twins, catholic twins etc

[quote Rubyupbeat]@MasterBeth
What rubbish, even my Irish friends ise the term Irish twins![/quote]
Yes, it's crap - people being offended on other people's behalf. it's just people policing other people's speech to feel virtuous.

I have Irish Catholic parents. I am an "Irish twin" and yes we know it's derogatory but it's also FUNNY, so we say it and so does my Irish family on both sides. We can laugh at ourselves. Yes, we know where it comes from.

6-8 weeks the time I had stitches for a 2nd degree tear (which healed well and quickly). About 2 weeks otherwise. Very much my choice. I was fortunate with how the births and early post-natal periods went for me. I was breastfeeding, personally that didn't put me off, but everyone is different in how they feel about things, and how they feel physically.

Months

6/7 days, no stitches and straightforward birth so nothing to stop us 🤭

@BitcherOfBlakiven

Both births were less than 2 hours, small babies and no damage beyond tiny tears due to the speed that I labour, but Christ if he’d swung his dick in my directed any time within a few months I’d probably have snapped it off.

Jesus at first I read that as you DTD two hours after birth both times!!!

Blimey @Branleuse you could have at least mentioned in passing how awful the experience of that posters nan was, being raped and forcibly impregnated. Of course people who have been close to those that happened to (lots of people) would find the term offensive, while others might not. It would be good to show a bit of empathy to those who have such sad reasons rather than dismissing them as easily offended people.

On the way home from hospital after ELCS, I got DH to pull over. I was just so horny.

NOT. It was weeks. This is really coming across as a weird boasting thread. I had a tiny baby who didn’t sleep or let me put him down and I’d had an operation. Why would I want a penis up me

Nearly 2 years I think.

@BitcherOfBlakiven

7 months.

It was my sisters 30th, the first time we’d left DD overnight and the first time I’d drank in fuck knows how long.

That’s how we got DD2

I remember being around 12 weeks post birth and asking ExDH if was arsed about sex - I’d been in hospital from 26 weeks so no sexual activity AT ALL between us - his response was

“Erm… I feel like we should give your vagina a rest, love”

Still laugh whenever it crosses my mind.

It's certainly made me chuckle... Aww bless 'im.

At least he's considerate eh?😂

@Bells3032 I didn't get the memo either.

I'm Irish and Ihad no idea Irish twins was racist.

I thought as the Irish families traditionally were larger it meant when there were two children within a year.

Can someone please explain why it's racist?

@WheelieBinPrincess

On the way home from hospital after ELCS, I got DH to pull over. I was just so horny.

NOT. It was weeks. This is really coming across as a weird boasting thread. I had a tiny baby who didn’t sleep or let me put him down and I’d had an operation. Why would I want a penis up me

😂😂😂 My mouth was falling open @WheelieBinPrincess

@Mufasa1118

I'm in Ireland. Of course the term Irish twins is an offensive.

It is a term used for children born close together, because fifty years ago Irish women were forbidden by the Catholic church to use any contraception, and many of these women were raped by their husbands, so they had many children born close together

My Irish mother has told me about her mother (my gran). She told me that my gran would just be home from hospital after giving birth, and her husband would rape her, making her pregnant again. Contraception was totally banned in Ireland at that time.

That is is why "Irish twins" is offensive

Yip here we go.

@Mufasa1118 as stated before I'm Irish-and I'm taking offence at you taking offence. Your post is offensive. you are portraying Irish men by and large as barbaric rapists. Your poor Granny - her husband raped her not because he was Irish. He raped her because he was an evil bastard. Every nationality in the world has evil rapist abusive men.My late mum had a family of 7 including a couple of sets of Irish twins. She was a highly educated woman who worked as a professional full time returning to work 6 weeks after each birth. She had us not because she couldn't access contraception but because she wanted a large family with the man she loved. Don't reinforce stereotypes.

1st - few days before 3 weeks, second degree tear
2nd - 3 weeks, second degree tear again.

7 months with the first after a long, traumatic labour. Couldn’t even bear the thought of it before then and neither could my husband. He was more worried than me! The 2nd two were c sections and it was about 2 or 3 months. My second was 5 months old when the third was conceived.

Probably around 4 months, I had lots of stitches which were done too tightly, sex wasn’t comfortable until after dd2 was born and I was re stitched.