DH asked me to deal with something one week before Christmas and I said I couldn’t, I was at my max capacity mentally getting everything sorted for Christmas and our dd’s birthday which is a week later. Dh does help but the lion share of things falls to me as I work 3 days a week.
The task DH asked me to do had no fixed deadline so I said let’s pick it up in the new year.
Dh got annoyed with this, told me that I’d have more to think about when we start renovating our house so I tried to explain about mental load and how it all falls to me, he didn’t get it.
He took two tasks off my to-do list and thought that solved everything.
He’s spent the last few weeks since thinking he is doing 50% of everything but he doesn’t understand he really isn’t.
So after another row about this he has decided we need a fixed rota on who does what, splitting everything 50/50. I’ve attached a screenshot of his first draft.
Top 5 lines are his tasks, bottom 5 are mine. Our two children go nursery on my days at work and have all meals there. The blacked out bit is an identifiable activity that I occasionally attend.
I do genuinely think he is trying to help but really, is that all he thinks is needed to run a house and parent two small children?
How would you react to this rota?
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Aibu to be upset by my DH’s rota
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Homerenonovice · 09/01/2022 19:31
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